It’s dreadful to imagine that you might look back at life someday, only to realize that you’ve wasted it.
In fact, what could be more painful than knowing that you could’ve lived better, and earned all the happiness and experiences you wish for?
It’s dreadful to imagine that you might look back at life someday, only to realize that you’ve wasted it.
In fact, what could be more painful than knowing that you could’ve lived better, and earned all the happiness and experiences you wish for?
You’re not nuts.
Even if think you are, you aren’t.
If you’re a dreamer, someone hoping for a nicer future, or just another person in the crowd wishing to make his life better – then you’re not nuts to think so.
The truth is, you’re darn mighty. You’ve already what it takes to achieve, and if you’re enough determined to follow your dreams – your dreams will come true.
What you hide deep within your heart, the hopes you don’t show to the world and the desire you seek to accomplish but don’t reveal due to your fears can all become a reality.
But for that to happen, you’ll have to do one thing.
Just one thing.
People have dreams.
Almost all people silently keep wishing in their hearts.
But at the same time, they’re also fearful and dubious. They have no clue where they should start. To them, it’s hard to do what they cannot even imagine. What’s harder for them is trying.
How can they do what seems beyond their limitations?
Here’s a truth – they can, but they don’t.
Everyone else can, including you and me. No one ever comes to stop us. We’re free. It’s up to us to decide what we want to be.
If you dig a bit deeper, you’ll know that all we need to do to accomplish our dreams takes nothing more than choosing one and working for it. That’s all there is to it. No secrets. You get what you want when you put in the efforts. You don’t when you sit still and keep whining.
So what’s the one thing you can do to make everything alright?
Your dreams need your efforts. They’re already waiting to occur. All you have to do is keep doing all that you can until you can have the odds on your side. All this might not happen immediately. But eventually, things only get better.
You can always trust your efforts.
The ones you have around yourself who keeps blabbering about how useless it is to even try or have ideas that are beyond your reach. Did they ever do anything themselves? They don’t have the right to say that dreams don’t come true unless they’ve tried.
Do you say you have a dream?
Did you try achieving it?
Allow me to be a little harsh, but your dreams won’t come true if you don’t put in the efforts. There may be a lot of valid reasons to justify why you haven’t begun yet, but they don’t matter. What matters the most is whether you’re trying or not.
You don’t have money, time or company of other successful people. So? What are you trying to state? Do you want others to sympathize with you? They do.
But that won’t help you grow. In the end, it’s just about how far you can manage to push yourself in spite of your difficulties.
But people don’t want to accept it.
They think of themselves as losers even before trying and don’t do what it takes.
“It’s tough and doesn’t make sense anyway,” they tell themselves and quit forever without giving a second thought.
Who is it that kills your dreams? No one but you, if you don’t try.
Only if you try.
You don’t have to do something huge. Start small. Take little steps. That’s the place where everyone starts. And it’s always good, since you don’t have much to lose.
When you try, you don’t stay a novice forever. You keep getting better over time, and ultimately become a skilled master at whatever you do.
Perhaps, you might end up becoming the next big deal. And even if you don’t, there’s no need to feel shame, because you get closer to your dreams and become capable of doing what you love for the rest of your life.
When you’ll look back, you’ll realize how far you’ve come. That’s the sweetness of making efforts. It’s always fair to you.
When you embark on your journey to making your dreams a reality, you need to a lot of unpleasant tasks. Sometimes you’ll need to take risks and lose a lot. Other times, you might need to do what makes you feel shameful about yourself.
You’ll have to make sacrifices and be a social oddball. But that’s part of the road which leads you to your dreams. Everyone needs to go through this. You cannot avoid it.
So try, as everything gets better when you try.
Most people don’t start. Ever.
Isn’t it cowardice? Doesn’t it seem like being unjust to yourself?
You’ll stay at the stage where you’re supposed to begin if you wait perfect circumstances and don’t dare to start small.
You can’t be too careful. Make your own mistakes. Let yourself look odd to others if that’s necessary. Open up yourself to criticism. Be vulnerable. The things you overthink matter only as long as don’t put in your efforts.
Once you start, you get the courage to go on. After which it’s hard to stop you. You abandon all your fears and go on in spite of your doubts and difficulties.
Don’t worry about getting everything right in your first attempt. No one gets it right in the first attempt. Some do – but even they need to work hard. No one is an exception to this rule.
You cannot tell whether you’ll succeed unless you attempt.
However, chances are, if you put in enough efforts, you will thrive. No doubt. Hard work is never wasted. Every bit of effort does something good to you.
For now, begin.
Be easy on yourself. Dare to be bad at what you do. But don’t hold yourself back. The sooner your start, the greater your chances of succeeding are.
Aim for a set of milestones
Dreams never happen all at once.
They take time to occur. Try to achieve small chunks of milestones first. Then set some new ones and follow them. Keep going this way. Don’t stop. It works.
Ask any successful person who inspires you. It’s always the small things you do which add-up in the long run.
And don’t quit
Success is in not stopping.
Focus on making gradual growth.
If you can do this, you won’t need to quit. People quit when their only reason is gaining outcomes and nothing else.
They may feel elated for a few days, but they cannot go far. Soon, they get disappointed when they don’t see any success on their way, they get tired and finally – quit.
If your dream is stuffing loads of money in your bank account, buying luxury cars or getting ahead of everyone else, then you’re likely to quit.
It isn’t wrong to have aspirations, but you shouldn’t let them control you. Instead, if you’re a passionate person, you can go on forever in spite of failures and become infallible at what you do.
Because when you work for passion, you don’t fear to lose. Your joy lies not in the outcomes but your efforts. When your efforts make you happy, it’s easy for you to work harder. And when you work hard, you’re likely going to succeed.
You chances of turning your dreams into a reality depend on much effort you put in. If you go on doing valuable work, your chances of succeeding will only increase.
There might be other aspects to you success as well, such as opportunities, lack of resources and other things. Yet, effort comes first.
Do you have a dream? And more than that, are you trying? I would love to hear from you. Drop a comment below.
I know what it feels like being a dreamer.
Sometimes, it’s just miserable.
Not because I fail or due to some other reason. Failures are obvious when you’re a dreamer. You do a lot of things and most of them don’t work. Indeed, it takes sweat and tears.
Yet, these hard things aren’t what hold back dreamers. There’s something else that induces fear in them and prevents them from embarking on their journey to their dreams.
To be honest, all dreamers are weak, insecure and doubtful. They think of themselves as fools.
I do. Everyone else who thinks big does. We don’t see ourselves as normal. If you dream, welcome to the pack of people who are lost.
We don’t know where we’re going as weren’t given any maps or signboards to follow. So we create our own roads – and then we walk on them.
It’s not used to seeing dreamers succeed yet.
When you dream, you don’t make sense to others. You try to do something that’s beyond your abilities and current potential. You look pathetic.
Others see you as a pitiful person affected by the successes of some other people. A hopeful fellow struck by some inspirational words written in books.
Especially in the beginning, when you have no successes to tell, you resemble a clown. You’re a good joke to the whole world.
They pretend like they understand you even if they don’t. They ignore you. A lot of them won’t help you although they can. As time passes, your surroundings get you. They do their work and induce a clump of negativity in you.
After which, you see yourself as others see you – impractical and helpless. The way dreamers are treated makes them quit.
People who inspire you have been where you want to be. They’ve experienced the struggles you haven’t yet seen. And they know that needs to be paid for having a dream.
What do you think people mean when they mention persistence, struggles, risks and dedication again and again? They say truth.
Dreams are unpredictable.
Sometimes you may succeed and feel elated. Other times you may fall flat on your face feel like a loser. And it goes on like this in circles. Each day. And it’s hard to keep going while all this happens to you.
Each day you need to convince yourself that your efforts are worth your dreams even if you aren’t able to see a slight spark of faith. You’re given a hundreds of reasons to quit which welcome you to quit.
The people whom you trust the most may end up telling you that you’re just duping yourself. It hurts. The words of others are so powerful that they may make you quit. I need to tell this to you – be prepared for the worst.
Save your dream from the world. Do whatever you need to do for that. But don’t let the world overpower you. It’s a trap.
Because dreams come true.
That’s the only reason I have.
Know that feeling which you get when others ask you for advice or share their dreams with you? They seem poor to you.
You don’t want to break their heart, and neither have you wanted to disappoint them by saying the truth.
You may try to convince them with kind words or explain your concerns in a kind manner, while all you feel like saying is, “Get real. There’s not even a slight chance that you’ll succeed.”
I’ve been there.
I’ve been one such dreamer, and I’ve also met some others. I know how it feels when people come to you with gleaming eyes and expect you to assure them about their success.
Some keep talking. Others ask for advice and remain in the clouds. They never try.
However, there are some real dreamers. The ones who are sincere about what they say and prepared to give all that it takes.
All they need is a slight push from you so they can believe in their dreams – because they’re vulnerable.
They don’t stop, work hard and go on in spite of their struggles. So when people ask me whether their dreams might come true – I don’t state the odds. I let them know that if they’re willing to do something then they should do it. No matter what.
Sometimes I ask questions like “are you passionate about what you’re doing?” I ask them their plans to make them think for themselves. But I never tell them that their dreams won’t come true. It’s a sin. I would feel shameful about myself if I murder their hopes.
A truth I know about dreamers is that almost all of them start from zero as novices who know nothing.
But eventually, as they work hard and pursue tiny milestones. Their achievements add-up to their overall success. And while doing so, they set themselves on a journey which ultimately leads them towards glory.
They face their own share of struggles and fail often like any other dreamer. But in the end, everything that they do pays off. Those dreamers succeed.
You’re left to wonder in awe how they did it. Gradually, they end up doing what you once thought was impossible.
They all get better. No one remains imperfect forever. So instead of telling people their dreams might not come true, show them that you trust them.
Dreams don’t always make sense in the beginning. Yet, keep playing your part.
Although, you cannot control circumstances or bring the desired outcomes, you can keep trying until you get closer to your goals.
All dreams start this way.
So if you’re still hesitant and haven’t started, then here’s a reminder – you can succeed if you’re ready to put in the effort.
Finally, while you’re busy following your dreams, help others who are like you. They need you.
What inspires you to chase your dreams?
What are the problems which you often face?
I would like hearing from you in the comments. Maybe, tell me about what is it that you love doing.
We all talk for endless hours, spend our days together and have made it a way of life.
We call it a life.
But are making enough efforts to make the lives of those around us better?
I mean, yes, we’re existing together. We’re even making efforts to make the best out of life, but not fully.
We underestimate the role we play in others’ lives, barely recognize our potential and fail to make our presence count.
We take ourselves too seriously and get entangled in our own world.
Maybe we have become self-centered or maybe we have given others just a negligible role – but we’ve lost a regard for others’ existence.
In the part of giving ourselves more attention than necessary, we’ve missed a lot.
We’re all craving.
There’s a part of you which craves for love, respect, attention, value and appreciation. It pleads to be treated like a human.
No matter how ordinary your emotions and desires seem, they make your life altogether.
There’s a child within you who cannot be fooled. He craves for what he deserves and tries hard to earn it.
You spend your whole life doing things which can earn you what you want; you don’t always get what you want.
You fail often and get disappointed by the lies, mockery, and betrayal of this world.
You believe that the world is a bad place, and soon you hide yourself within a coat of pretension, and calls yourself a “grown up.”
But soon, the coat of pretension falls off and reveals all your scars, pains, and hurts which you hide.
That’s when you can’t pretend.
All your emotions become naked and you realize how vulnerable and weak you are.
You realize that no matter how grown up you are, that child still stays within you. He never leaves you.
And finally you need to admit how human you are – feeble, weak, and just another living organism in the universe, hiding his innocence deep within.
I’m a grown up. Or at least my age indicates so. I’m often asked to be mature, behave in a particular way with people, learn some odd social etiquette, or just change my way of life.
I had to learn all this because I was taught to; even you were. Or maybe we taught it to ourselves.
Once you grow up you can’t cry, you pretend to be like everything’s alright even though something aches in your chest, and you smile without any reason to show how strong you are.
However, at the end of the day you’re left alone to deal with your own sorrows, and it feels miserable.
We’re craving for all the things we deserve in life.
We act fake in order to be accepted by others and lose our identities, we dress well in order to be liked, say the words we don’t agree with to please people, and what for?
Because we’re trying hard to be accepted.
Where it all started? I don’t know.
Maybe while we all were busy making lives harder for each other.
Is it necessary to be fake? No, I believe that you can always be loved when you’re genuine. There’s no need to become a hypocrite at the cost of your own values, identity, and principles.
If you think that you’re someone out of the league and you won’t be respected, loved, or accepted by the society if you fail to abide by all its rules, then you’re like everyone else.
Here’s the funny part – everyone else is similar; insecure, fearful to judgment, and waiting to be accepted.
Let me explain it with a childhood incident of mine. It resembles this situation to me.
We had a dog in our society which was rather violent and barked at everyone. Everyone feared the dog; the dog ruled the streets.
Once, I suddenly encountered the dog from an unsafe proximity. The dog had come from some other street and stood right before me.
I turned pale.
I couldn’t think of any other rescue plan so I tried shooing the dog.
“Hurrr” I shouted.
The dog defended his side by barking. “Bow! Bhow!”
I stood there like a statue and didn’t move. “Hurrr!” I shouted again while hoping it won’t bite me.
The dog stood there firmly and at me barked again. I got stuck. There seemed no other way out.
So I jumped backwards, and ran for cover as fast as I could, praying in my heart to not get bitten.
I ran. I ran until I got exhausted and reached my home which was some distance away and turned back to see if the dog was still following me.
But what I saw then was funny.
The dog was running away even faster and had almost reached the other end of the street.
While I was thinking I was vulnerable, the poor dog was fearing me too. Overall, it was nothing more than an ambiguous situation.
It has nothing to do with dogs but something serious.
“We’re all making lives harder for each other, without even realizing it.”
No, we aren’t treating others like dogs and neither are others doing any such thing to us.
However, unknowingly, we’re creating an environment that prevents others from expressing how they feel and keeps them in their miserable state.
The regretful part is that same things are happening to us.
We fear others, others fear us.
We hate others, others hate us.
We criticize others, others criticize us.
And unfortunately this messed up list goes on.
The circumstances shouldn’t have been such and could be made better.
All this can be fixed if we take a stand and do what we’re capable of by making tiny efforts from our side.
If you play your part fair, the world definitely changes, no matter how slowly.
We drown so much in ourselves that we forget to admire the world that’s outside us.
Maybe we’ve become more selfish than we should be and have made this world a sorrowful place to live on.
Each day we think of our own happiness, our own dreams, and our own benefits.
But how often do we think about doing something for others? Yes, we do.
And do we do it? Not that often.
Just imagine a world where everyone’s trying to make others happy. Everyone caring about each other selflessly, spreading smiles, and doing well without any motive.
Wouldn’t it have been better?
That’s one of the greatest things I can imagine. It restores my hope and makes me believe that there’s still a lot of space for good.
Although you can act like what others do to you doesn’t matter to you, that you’re a titanium who never feels pain, or that actions of other don’t bother you – they do.
You know how much they hurt.
But you’ve got so much used to it that you barely even notice how it affects you.
Couldn’t that have been avoided? Was it necessary?
We’re already wounded by such futility and often hurt by others.
The world consists of meaningless conflicts, buried hatred and petty thoughts – if you cut this part, it suddenly starts looking like a beautiful place to live on.
Life would’ve been great if everyone worked for the welfare of others. Or at least, avoided adding anything to what’s already worsening.
While everyone is going through tough times, facing hardships, forcing a smile on his lips, and trying to find a meaning in his existence, you could be making a difference.
When it comes to happiness, don’t miss a chance to appreciate even the simplest of things in life.
I’m humbled when someone greets me with a smiling face.
I’m thankful to the people who appreciate my work which I put my heart and soul into.
I’m grateful for having everyone who cares about me and makes me realize my significance when I feel hopeless.
And tell you what? These simple things are enough for a lifetime to be spent happily.
Life’s made up of tiny truths, the sooner you realize them the thankfully you can spend the rest of your life.
Picture a place where everyone is making others happier with all that they’re capable of doing.
There isn’t much to it, and neither it is difficult to imagine.
The world we’ve been praying for will be peaceful and simple.
It will be the kind of place where:
The fact is, everything would have been a lot simple even if the people around us tried to be kind, generous, and loving.
You can’t keep waiting for that. Someone has to take a stand. You’ve got a responsibility – to makes lives well and to inspire.
Create a change as soon as you can. If others refuse to be a part of your dream, start with yourself. They shall follow later.
You underestimate yourself.
If you knew how influential your words and deeds are, you wouldn’t miss a chance to impact everyone around you with your presence, or to leave a mark of your deeds wherever you go.
Say your friend that he looks better with a white shirt on and I bet that he’ll wear it often. Isn’t it some sort of magic?
Tell an artist how much his art means to you and you’ll find him creating masterpieces. Isn’t it somewhat a miracle?
Convince your cousin that he could be doing better at academics, guide him well and he won’t disappoint you. Isn’t it astonishing?
Sit beside your loved ones, allow them to open up, and they’ll end up loving you even more. Isn’t it a blessing?
I’m in love with all this process of understanding others, giving them the freedom they deserve, and making little efforts to make them happy.
I would love doing it forever.
If I make myself seem excited while saying this then there’s a reason behind that.
I have a tiny secret to happiness which I wish everyone knew about, and maybe that’s the why I’ve written this post.
I’m smiling while I’m writing this.
I’m telling you this because I wish you could know how it feels to see the gleaming eyes, cheerful faces, and open emotions on the faces of your loved ones because of the things you do for them.
It’s something I’m grateful and thankful for.
Some of the best moments in life are the ones in which you have some happy people around you and you’re the reason behind the sparkle on their faces.
This is the secret to happiness. To be more of those reasons.
You use your words, abilities, and gifts to make others smile, to give them the joys they deserve, and to create the change you had been waiting for.
And then, ultimately, you realize that you are born with a gift. The more you use your gift the better you become as a human.
It makes you capable of creating as well as cherishing happiness. In every moment, you learn to celebrate life.
And then you find out that this how wonderful this feeling is. The kind of feeling you would never wish to lose.
Once you realize this, you keep finding reasons to make others happy anyway, you stop caring about your own benefits, and surrender yourself to it.
It becomes a passion you cannot afford to lose by giving your life a meaning which you didn’t realize earlier.
Then, it becomes a habit.
Does this ideal of doing well to others and inspiring them excite you? Me too.
It fascinates me to see the way some genuine appreciation can make people smile. They always remember the way you make them feel! 🙂
— Vishal Ostwal (@vishalostwal9) February 22, 2016
Tell others what they can become and then witness their enthusiasm shoot up.
People wish to learn about their capabilities. They need you to remind them of their strengths. They unconsciously search for an assurance that says “Yes! You can do what you think!”
When you fuel them with your words, they find themselves capable of doing miracles. And then they try to do so.
Your words can inspire people to tackle the impossible, confront their failures and take risks.
You doubt it?
Try cheering up others to find out the results for yourself. Maybe you’ll be surprised.
Here are some ideas:
This will be more than enough to fill them with optimism and get the adrenaline pumping through their nerves.
People don’t get what they deserve.
They fail often and feel like giving up. They become heartbroken. And then, they decide to quit.
They begin to think of themselves as losers when they’re not. No matter how hard they try, they just cannot see the brighter side of everything.
They deal with so many pains they become blindfolded to hope. It seems impossible for them to go on.
What can you do about this?
Keep their hope alive, kindle a spark within them, and don’t let them give up!
Do whatever you can to make people hold on to their dreams. But don’t let them quit.
Be the light of hope whenever you can. Take a step toward rescuing people from their misery. If you don’t, you’ll be failing your gift of life.
Are you great at something? Do you know something better than others?
You’ll be loved for doing that.
People are curious about knowing what they don’t know, and when you teach what they don’t know – you give them something to feel good about themselves.
Teach them a computer shortcut, a magic trick, a GK fact, rules of a game, how life works or anything that would leave a smile on their face.
As humans, we were born to grow by teaching and learning from each other.
We prosper only by educating others, creating awareness, and then creating an environment that accepts changes by understanding them.
Our feelings reflect what’s within us. Interests define us by showing what we wish to be. Experiences mold us and make us who we are.
When we use what we have learned for others – we make the world a better place to live on.
Be a nice teacher whenever you can.
People find solace in each others’ experiences.
They hear fairy tales, watch movies, and read books because they’re always searching something to which they can relate themselves.
Hope, despair, joys, pains, and all our emotions can be concealed and expressed through stories.
When the stories you talk about are your own – they’re worth sharing and capable of inspiring.
I’m sometimes a mere idiot who writes about incidents from his life. An ordinary conversationalist who shares random memories from his past.
But here’s what I know – people love listening to those stories. They wish to hear more of them.
You stories are your experiences. Each of your story is a mirror that reflects your life. Your stories speak truths on your behalf.
When you tell incidents from your life you allow other to peek into your soul, you show them a part of your heart that no one has ever seen, and give them a touch that lasts forever.
Be someone who shows his scars, vulnerabilities, struggles, celebrations, and opens up his life for lighting up the lives of everyone else around him.
Be a storyteller, you’ll end up living twice.
Be a ray of hope. Be the one to whom people look up to when they’re weak.
Your strength, talent and abilities that are capable of creating an influence.
Your wealth and resources are a means you can use to grow others.
In either ways, you’re always blessed with something that you can use to serve others.
Look around yourself. Things aren’t as good as they should be.
Broke families, hopeless relationships, insecure people, unhealthy individuals, painful lives – there’s something wrong.
You can fix that!
Help whenever you can. However you can.
Being trusted strengthens self-belief.
When was last time someone expressed his belief in you and stood by your side without doubting you?
It feels great, doesn’t it?
Even if for a second, you feel like you’re infallible, indomitable, and a winner for life.
Suddenly you reach your peak state, try harder, stop doubting yourself, and form a mind-set that shows no trace of fear.
That’s how others feel too when you trust them.
The world if full of people filled with fear and doubts, and all they need is some people to trust them.
Maybe a slight push to step out of their limitations and face the odds. You can be the one to make that push.
Trust those who tell you their ideas, trust those who share their dreams with you, trust those who come to you when they need nothing more than a friend to talk to.
That trust is magical, it’s capable of making people do marvels, and it costs nothing.
Can you recall those messages your beloved ones sent you on your birthday?
You probably know what I’m talking about. How special it feels. The love and care you receive from others – It’s a blessing.
We all wish to feel special and to be cared for – all of us! There are no exceptions.
Take some time out to ask people if they’re alright. Show them you affection for them by expressing it with your words and actions.
They’ll be touched at their heart by knowing that you care to remember them and show them how much they mean to you.
Make others feel important. Show them how special they are. Care for them.
Stand for others when they’re vulnerable.
When they’re weak, when they see no hope, when they’re broken, when they’re damned, they need someone to be there with them.
We all are such – weak. None of us is capable of fighting all the struggles or standing the adversities alone.
We need some saviors and rescuers when we fall or fail.
I still remember when a senior boy tried bullying me in school. I had turned pale and fearful.
The boy approached to hit me but an elder friend of mine came to my rescue. He grabbed that boy, smacked him on the shoulder and pushed him aside.
“You got a problem?” he said threatening him.
The boy tried saying something but couldn’t and began stuttering.
“Shut up!” my friend interrupted and warned him to not mess up again. That boy silently vanished from there with a lowered head. He had to.
“Never fear such morons. The more you fear, the more they bother you,” my friend said.
I can still recall that scene. It’s fresh inside me. I was relieved at that particular moment.
What I don’t remember is the exact reason behind that conflict.
I guess it was because my bicycle had mistakenly bumped into his bicycle while I was walking getting it out of the parking area.
But what I remember more than those things is what my friend did for me.
He was there for me when I was weak.
He took a stand for me.
Taking a stand for someone else is like being a superhero. It’s about using your powers at the right time.
Be a superhero maybe. Take a stand for others.
Respect is something everyone is working really hard for.
All are hell-bent on earning respect.
They work till late nights to earn more money, buy expensive things and show-off to display a higher status, or simply wish to do something which would get them others’ attention.
They cannot be blamed for it either, as respect is something that motivates us. It’s a part of our existence. If we’re doing something to achieve it there’s nothing much wrong with it.
But what if you’re respected for the way you are and where you are? That would obviously be great.
You can give people what they’re working for – respect.
It takes nothing to be gentle in your interactions with people, doing little things for them or to treating them better.
But the impression it leaves on their mind is powerful. They feel good about themselves. And then, they thank you for making them feel so.
Finally, they respect you in return and treat you back equally.
Greet people with a smile, forgive their mistakes, and treat them like they mean something.
Being kind is about doing the little things that count and developing a mind-set that only wishes to do well.
It doesn’t require any kind of training or practice but a slight change of thoughts and intentions.
Honestly wish for the growth and success of everyone. Don’t wish for ill against anyone and be tolerant with people.
Kindness is about being more humble and easy on people.
If you don’t understand people, you leave them to suffer in pain.
Often, people are silently suffering in isolation and ask for nothing more than being understood. They’re dying inside, wishing for someone to feel how they feel and condole them.
If you don’t allow others to express how they feel and don’t listen when they speak their heart out, why would they be with you?
Be someone whom people rely on for lessening the burdens of their hearts.
Walk into their shoes to know how they feel and make them feel valued. That would be enough sometimes.
It gives people the hope of going on, it reminds them of their goodness and increases their self-esteem.
Appreciation starts with mentioning the good.
You often see something wonderful and admire it, but do you always care to mention it?
The next time you see you friend dressed well, tell him that he looks nice.
If your cousin plays great guitar, tell him how wonderful it sounds.
If you have some people who fill your life with happiness, appreciate their presence and tell them what they mean to you.
Everything that’s good in this world needs some appreciation to happen and to realize its value.
If you don’t appreciate good things, they perish. If you don’t appreciate good people, they fail to realize their value.
You don’t want that to happen.
The next time you find something adorable, don’t forget to mention its loveliness.
Judging is a low form of expressing your opinion and implying your own thoughts against someone else.
When you judge people, they don’t change their opinions but they do conceal their emotions and beliefs. Sometimes, they even hate you.
People, when judged, feel devalued.
They become fearful while expressing, hide their opinions, think of themselves to be idiots, and they don’t forgive you for pushing them in that miserable state.
It’s not that they change themselves because of you. But they’ll shun you for judging them.
Soon, they won’t even care how you feel about something or what your views are, and maybe, even avoid being with you.
It’s not your job to decide what choices others should have or what their views must be like. Allow them to be themselves.
Yes you might disagree sometimes, but there are other ways to changing people without being unkind.
There are already enough of people making others’ lives miserable, and there’s no need for some more.
Allow others to be free, let everything just be.
You might think that you’re being quite rightful while pointing out the wrong, but it only makes others shun you.
Insulting others, is like slapping them on the face. By doing it you lower them to others, and strip down their reputation.
Also, it doesn’t even serve to any purpose most of the time.
Criticism is one of those obstacles which most people face on their path to success. It drags them down and shatters their beliefs.
It’s not always the right way to make people aware of their mistakes.
You can be softer in your approach, convey your concerns humbly, and tell how things could be made better instead of telling how unsound they are.
Tell them what’s right and leave the rest up to them.
Allow them to learn their own lessons, let them make some mistakes, but hold the urge of criticizing them. It may break them.
Thank you – this word brings out the good in others.
Saying thanks in response to the good things done to you assures others that their deeds do count.
This shows them that their kindness is being noticed, that their tiny acts are really adding happiness to others’ lives and bringing a change.
People need to know that whatever good they do is valuable, and even if they don’t always ask for praises or appreciation, they do feel a need for it deep in their hearts.
But don’t be mistaken to think that people do well so that others may be thankful to them. Not at all. They play their part anyway.
But it’s your role to preserve that kindness by showing how essential it is for the good to prosper and prevail.
When you’re betrayed, you feel insecure among our own people.
The lies and secrets which you bury deep within your heart only breed distrust and insecurity.
If you wish to genuinely wish to be part of people’s lives then you have to be honest. There hasn’t ever been anything else that matters as much honesty in relationships.
When you fool others to fulfill your motives, whatever you get is undeserved.
Don’t fake yourself to others. People expect you to be what you are. Always.
You can’t be with everyone all the time.
But you can ensure them that they can rely on you, which works in the same way as your being with them.
Establish a belief in the heart of people. Make them feel that you’ll be there for them whenever they’ll need you and abide by your word.
Your presence is rather comforting and soothing to others.
This will allow those around you to live more happily and freely, as they’ll know that they’ve got a backup just in case they fail.
They’ll know that they have someone by their side, whatever be then.
While you’ll engage yourself in doing all the virtues and contribute your own tiny bits to the world, you will also receive back what you give to others.
You shall what you’ve been waiting for, what you deserve, and what makes life beautiful. You will have it all.
Your world shall be a peaceful one, and your people – happy.
In the end, you will be remembered for every deed that you do for others and your efforts will pay off in the long run by turning you into a humble human.
These good deeds of yours won’t go unrewarded.
You’re born with an enchanting ability of inspiring others. You can add more smiles to the lives of people around you.
And most of the time, it takes nothing more than a bit of generosity and kindness to turn the world into something better.
What do you think is the best way to inspire others? Wish to share something? Feel free to leave a comment.
Life is hard sometimes. Far more complicated than we think.
It’s rumpled and tangled; beyond imagination.
The plans you make turn out to be laughable when a catastrophe strikes you. A disheartening event is enough to snatch a smile off your face. A loss can make you hopeless.
If you’re a delicate person, a simple thing as words might break you.
When you watch some truths reveal themselves to you each day, life seems like an odd tale no one told you about.
Often, it is a bitter truth. A pathetic joke. Not as soft as you thought it would be.
Or maybe you knew that life isn’t fair but you weren’t prepared to face this truth either.
What others think
I asked my acquaintances to define life in just one word. Here’s how they did it. (I loved hearing the answers from all these creative people. Thanks for helping me out guys, you’re awesome!)
Life is ___.
It’s wonderful to see how we all look at life so differently, isn’t it?
However, I learned one simple thing about life while reading all these answers – how we look at life depends on how life happens to us.
Your thoughts about life keep changing. When something great happens to you, you feel blessed to be alive. And when something goes wrong, you see life as a miserable thing. You views about life change as life changes.
Everything that happens to you changes the way you see life.
As you grow up and find you own ways to deal with difficulties, you begin to see life through your own perspective. The perspective which acts much like a glass only you can see through.
All the events shape you and show you the truths. As you grow up, you find your own ways of living.
However, no matter how you live your life, you’re not much different from others.
You become insecure when you realize that you cannot control everything. Losing teaches you how vulnerable you are.
You notice your fragility when something happens against your will, and your limitations expose your weaknesses.
These are some undeniable truths about life. Learning these truths is what makes life look hard.
I don’t like to say this either, but yes, life is hard.
Sometimes you’re broke and can’t go on. It becomes hard to hold on to dreams amid a place where hope only decays with each passing day and circumstances force you to quit.
No matter how hard to try to make things happen your own way, there comes a time when you have to realize that you’re not strong enough to control everything.
Sometimes, all you can do is quit and let go.
Though, don’t think that you’re a loser or victim when you’re fighting against the odds.
It’s nothing more than accepting life. With all its flaws and challenges. As it is.
You can only feel joy when you deserve what you get earn your goals with your hard work.
The dreams you wish to pursue come to you only after you’ve made several sacrifices and surrendered yourself completely to them. Pains are always an inseparable part of life.
No matter what your thoughts about an ideal life might be, a part of life always remains irreparable.
Money can’t always bring happiness. Having everything you need doesn’t mean you’ll succeed. Lack of chaos cannot guarantee that you’ll work hard.
Turn around life, change it, fix it – yet it remains as it is.
Maybe you shouldn’t change life. Just adapt yourself to change with it and accept everything that comes on your way.
There’s a way to fix life and ease it forever. To cast away all the confusions, forget all the sorrows and put an end to all the sufferings.
If you wish to improve your life, you can do it at once. Or maybe know how to do it and then improve it slowly. All the answers you seek are already within you.
You don’t need someone else to guide you to do it, or spend money to buy more self-help books.
It isn’t necessary to know what your religion teaches you – you have a tendency which is a wisdom enough. Perhaps, god gave you that tendency.
It’s not that can put an end to your heartbreak, prevent your loved ones from dying or keep yourself from getting broke. Those are the inevitable parts of life.
But there’s something within you which can inspire you to rise again, heal you, and help you to live your life the way you want. Peacefully, happily, and easily. The way you want.
Listen to your feelings.
Your feelings are the untainted truths which come straight from your soul and heart. Listen to them. Don’t manipulate them. Act in accordance with your feelings and your life will be a lot easier.
All the mysteries about life are often simple. The great things you behold don’t have any secrets.
If you pay close attention, you’ll learn that the actions of people are often a manifestation of what they feel.
No one is born with his passion already known to him. He finds it when he listens to the voices that guide him from within.
Finding your passion depends on you. Either you can choose to suppress what your heart tells you by being practical, or choose a path which leads you towards your goals. Your choices make you.
When you were a child and thought about painting, maybe you should have kept painting. But since you didn’t, you never became a painter.
If you would’ve have listened to your heart, you could have become a painter along with doing your day job.
The world doesn’t have power to keep you from following your passions, you do that by holding yourself back.
If you still have a passion, it might be a good thought to act on it again. You might fail, but that won’t be a shameful thing. At least you’ll have tried.
Life is often spent in pretending.
The more you pretend to others and to yourself, the farther you’re dragged from the truths.
If you keep pretending for too long you lose your identity and feel lost.
Others’ appreciation may be fake, your accomplishments won’t necessarily make you happy, and living the conventional life isn’t the only destiny you have.
However, if you seek the truth, you may find what you want.
When you realize that you were living a life you knew less about, you find truth. You can either choose the path of truth, or get back to the same old worn out life.
That moment is precious when you find a truth about yourself. It’s like a fine line which can take you away from the world you live in to the world you want to live in.
If you have enough courage, you cross to the other side. If you hesitate don’t and your life remains the same. It’s up to you.
Wisdom. No one actually knows where to get it.
Everyone is trying hard though. To be wise, mature, and become someone who can prevent making mistakes in life. All wish to be the guy who doesn’t stumble in the walk of life.
But you only become wise when you learn from your own lessons.
Learning from others’ mistakes doesn’t always work. You need to make your own mistakes. Those are the only best teachers. Even if you don’t make them, they happen to you.
Mourn, cry, grieve, and let go. Make a mistake, learn from it and move on. That’s the only wisdom there is.
The moment you understand what went wrong and decide to fix it, you become wise. When you find out enough fixes, you grow wiser.
We all have our own hell to deal with.
You may have suffered a lot, spent days in isolation, and reminisced your regrets.
Hardships get to everyone. They’re inescapable.
But there’s a good thing about them. They help you in getting your life back on track. You only fear those hard knocks in life as long as you’re safe.
Once you become vulnerable and weak, you stop running away from what dreads you. You don’t fear, you don’t hide – you tackle.
Adversities change you. Your desire to escape the adversities molds you into someone better than before.
You discover that you’re being loved when you’re accepted by others.
The people who love you don’t judge or change like the rest of the world. They accept you with all your flaws, and with them, you feel valued.
Love makes you honest, open and truthful. Love turns you into a better person. When you love people – you grow.
You become capable of making sacrifices, you work harder for whom you care, and above all, the love you have in your part of life is enough to inspire you.
No one falls in love by choice; it’s your heart and feelings that always take you to the right people.
Innovations are done when you wish to make a change or try to find a purpose behind all that happens.
The habit of innovating and simplifying things is like an itch that doesn’t go away until it’s scratched.
Most of the innovation comes out of dissatisfaction. Innovations are done by the people who cannot sit still.
They want to simplify what they know can be simplified. They don’t settle with inconvenience – they wreck it.
Isaac Newton could have ignored the apple, Archimedes could have stayed in the bathtub, Steve Jobs could have followed the norms – but they didn’t.
Once an idea to innovate something strikes you, you can either find a purpose in it and reveal something great, or plainly ignore your feelings.
Pursuing dreams is a crazy thing.
It’s about believing when you have no reason to believe, choosing hope over probability, and working on what doesn’t make sense.
When you have a dream, you work even when the chances of your success are zilch.
You deal with the unimaginable and try to subdue your limitations. You risk all that you have and give all that you can.
Nothing is assured either. You might fail, you may get nothing out of your work, or you may even have to deal with misery. Yet you go on.
Dreaming makes you selfless and audacious. You don’t care about what comes on your way or about the circumstances that follow. You’re prepared for everything.
But then, everything you do pays off.
The tiny accomplishments, gradual moments of development, and all that you’ve done come together to turn your dreams into a reality. The insensible things start making sense.
Where does the journey to chasing dreams begin? With the tiny impulses within you which demand you to act.
If you follow those impulses, you might find your dream, or you can suppress them and pretend like you never felt anything.
Here’s a tiny secret – you’re wise. Wiser than you think you are.You have all the knowledge you need to lead a happy life within you.
But you can only realize your wisdom if you listen to your feelings.
If you pretend to be blind to what you feel and can’t hear the voice which your heart keep whispering to you, then you haven’t realized that wisdom yet.
The best way to ease your life is to live a life based on what you feel. You heart is your best guide and friend.
If you ever find yourself lost or in pain, peek within – there’s always an answer to all the questions which make you restless.
What do you think is the best way to make life easier?
Do you do something to stay at peace amid the chaos of life?
Have you got any thoughts?
Share in the comments.
Priority – it’s a significant word.
It means that a certain work which is ought to be done prior to the rest because it’s important. Because it’s capable of bringing a change in your life.
We are humans, the mortal beings. We get one life in which we dream and try to do every possible thing we can do. We try to make the most out of this beautiful thing called life. However, another truth is that we cannot randomly do everything we want.
If we start engaging ourselves in every activity that comes on our way, we’re likely to get confused, and perhaps even disappointed.
Our state will become much like a monkey left free in a forest which has all kinds of fruits in this world. Now it isn’t much difficult to imagine the state of that monkey.
It will try to eat every possible fruit that attracts it, and will jump from one tree to another in haste, without realizing that its stomach too has some limitations of its own.
We too have our own limitations. We’re bound by the limits of time, resources, and our capabilities.
Life is too short to watch all the movies, read all the novels, visit all wonderful places, and to do all that we dream.
We cannot accomplish everything we desire at once. Even if we manage to do, the outcome is likely to be a failure. Because then we’ll have messed up up with our focus and dedication.
Multitasking is another trending buzzword nowadays. Its not that multitasking is bad, it can be helpful, however it should follow a specific order of doing things too.
Anyone can get distracted by the thousands of things that attract him, but the point is not in trying to do all those things but rather focusing on one thing at a time instead.
You may be aware of the proverb ‘Jack of all and master of none.’
I had a big disagreement with this. Whenever I read this, my immediate reaction was like,”Why should I stay stuck to a single thing when I can do everything.”
Later, as I closely observed how I performed when I used different methods, I realized that I was wrong. Things don’t turn out the way we think. When we try to do multiple things at once, they get worse and complicated. We get webbed inside our own decisions. It is wise to keep ourselves engaged in a single activity at a given time.
Let’s say that you want to become some kind of artist. So now what? You’ll have to make a choice.
You might plan to become a painter? Or a musician, since you’re a big music lover. Or maybe a dancer. Oh wait…how about being a writer?
You are naturally attracted towards every possible option. But that doesn’t mean that you can do all these things at once.
I hope you understand.
When we try to decide our priorities, we behave much like a child, who when asked upon that what he wants to become after growing up gets baffled.
Every now and then the child comes up with a new answer. “I’ll be an Engineer,” he says one day. “Mom, I wish to be a doctor,” he says some days later. In the course of time he also comes up with some new ideas of being a soldier, pilot, or a mechanic. He’s always confused until he finally grows up and decides the single thing he’s good at.
We all are similar in that case. It’s always hard for us to act on something until we come up with a reliable decision.
Here’s a good news. You’re already living a life based on priorities.
These are just simple examples which show that how we decide our priorities in life.
When doing a task, you’re always being selective, even when you do it subconsciously. What you need to do is just pay attention to your needs, separate the essential from optional, and then act accordingly.
Deciding priorities is a simple thing which might not seem of much value, yet brings a lasting change in life if you practice it.
Know your priorities and act accordingly. Care for what matters the most, everything else can wait.
Set priorities in every aspect of your life rather than heading in unspecific directions and trying to do everything.
Why make life complicated when you can focus only on what really matters?
The world is crowded with dreamers, and if you claim to be one, then you’re simply making the place even more crowded.
The truth is – your being a dreamer doesn’t matter.
If you’re wondering why I said what I just said, then read on.
Dreaming has become mainstream. Everyone loves to talk about changing the world due to the attractiveness of the phrase. People have begun to think that they can only succeed if they’re dreamers and there’s no other way to do so.
You’re asked to aim for the sky, and you plan to do so. You’re asked to influence thousands of people with what you do, and you plan to do that too, even without having an idea of how you’re going to do it.
After all, you’re a dreamer (or perhaps superman), and hence you can do everything. Over. That’s the only clarification you need. No doubts to be entertained further. Right?
In case you’ve also began to wonder whether I’m a dreamer, then let me tell you that I proudly accept being one. If you were to whisper in my ear in the midnight to ask me whether I’m a dreamer, then I’d jump out of my bed, throw my hands in the air, and shout at the top of my voice “Yes I’m a dreamer.”
I like being a dreamer.
When I say that I’m a dreamer, I feel a kind of mutual relation with Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Walt Disney, Henry Ford, and Stephen Hawking, which makes the concept of dreaming even cooler.
Why wouldn’t anyone like to be a dreamer?
I don’t have a reason to not be one. As dreamers, we choose to not be ordinary, unlike others who might decide to settle.
Dreaming allows us to feel like we can own everything when we have nothing. It saves the optimist within us, and keeps us hoping even at our worst.
Dreaming is alluring but it has its own boundaries. Dreaming can keep you hopeful, it might make you imagine beyond the horizons, but there comes a time when you realize that dreaming isn’t enough and it takes something more than dreaming to ascend.
This is when you find out that your being a dreamer doesn’t matter until you start working on your dreams.
Your dreams push you, they refuse to let you sit still, your fantasies keep pinching you until you decide to turn them into a reality. That’s when your dreams transpire into the real world and become a reality themselves. When they’re acted upon.
The desire of doing something is severe. Once it enters your heart and mind, you’re ruled by it. It makes you restless.
Because of the joy of doing, you stop caring about failures, judgments of people or any other obstruction, and selflessly surrender yourself to one thing that matters to you the most – your dream.
I believe in the strength of dreams and dreamers. Dreams make ordinary people perform wonders, whereas dreamers inspire others with their deeds by performing the role of trailblazers.
I wish that most people were dreamers in this world.
A world of dreamers will definitely better than the one which is filled with hearts that fear, minds that follow, and hands that are tied.
The old rites will veer only when people will be filled with courage that would inspire them to dream.
We need more dreamers. Because the practical humans can only think what’s obvious.
Out of those dreamers, quite rare ones will take their dreams seriously or think over their intentions. In reality, actions follow intentions.
Sadly, from those intentional dreamers, only few will take the step of working on their dreams. These dreamers will have the fulfillment of doing.
A scarce amount from the remaining dreamers who dare to start keep hustling even when others quit. They become the leaders, because they persist and last.
From those leaders, a few decide to never quit and keep holding on to their dreams till their last breathe. They become the ones who change the world.
You current state says a lot about you. Be among those who strive to change the world. That’s what your chances of success rely on. Surrender yourself to what you love doing and keep going.
Most dreams won’t ever come true because they won’t ever be started, and yours might be among them. It’s a truth, no matter how offensive or disappointing.
Not every human has the guts to overcome self-doubt and start without giving a damn to what world might think of him. If success of dreamers was so easy, then everyone would’ve been one.
Most people love to call themselves dreamers and romanticize their successes. But as soon as the part of doing comes in, these fantasizers get thrown out. Facing the reality seems tough to them, because they find some unexpected truths about hard work, learning, and persisting.
At once their illusions break. They give up the idea of trying and never attempt starting due to some or the other reason. Perhaps they’re happy being the escapists, pretending to be dreamers, and completely give themselves into the habit of lying to themselves.
I emphasize on starting in most of my posts, hoping that one day a sincere dreamer might get touched by my words and decide to work on his dreams. This post is one of those attempts.
No matter how many times I shout out through my posts, some people won’t ever start. People feel quite awkward when they hear me talking excitedly about what it feels like to do what you love.
Most of the time it’s a bit odd. They react like I’m an alien who has just returned back from a wonderland and describing how it feels to be there.
I want them to feel the joy of starting and discover what they love, because what lies beyond starting a dream is beautiful.
Yes I sometimes behave like I’ve returned from a wonderland, but it’s because I’ve known each feeling and emotion that’s capable of making us do miracles.
Sometimes, I feel like a child who has found a treasure gold and keeps shouting with the hope of being listened.
“Hey look! It’s a whole pot of gold here,” I say, and people plainly ignore my words regardless of the truth that I speak. And to whom does it cause a loss?
In short, the world of dreaming is divided into two parts:
Most people get stuck in the first part, and never make it to the latter.
Here’s a great truth I’ve learned – If you somehow manage to enter the second part, you’ll be already ahead of most of the people. Don’t believe me? Try doing it.
Certain people don’t start any sooner because they barely know what their dream or passion is. It’s alright and I won’t blame them for their confused state.
But the people who are exactly sure about where they want to be but don’t even move an inch to get there, are surely creating a reason to regret for themselves.
In their world, there’s nothing more than dreaming.
Such dreamers know where they want to be, but don’t try to learn how. They want to achieve, but clearly refuse to put in the required effort. They wish to get where they want to be, but decide to stay where they are.
Don’t be among those who belittle their own dreams by never acting upon them. You’re supposed to start somewhere, anyhow, so that you can have the privilege of cutting-off the gap between your dreams and actuality.
You won’t be talking or thinking about your dream anymore. You’ll be actually working on it.
But there are some reasons why numerous dreams wither and die even before seeing the light of the day.
Dreamers fail when they don’t start, they fail when they start but don’t continue, and dreamers fail the moment they stop.
This stopping is rarely intentional. No one likes to stop.
People go into the pause-state against their will. The circumstances and some other reasons push them into the dark corners, where they stay motionless and hardly come out from there to act on their dreams. They simply get used to staying there.
But stopping is rarely due to external influences, and has more to do with the inner feelings.
Fear flows in the blood of dreamers. It haunts everyone who starts, and it arouses anxiety. The courageous ones dare to carry on in spite of fear, while others keep waiting for their fear to disappear before starting.
If you wish to succeed, you cannot afford to stay still. You need to keep moving anyhow, even when you’re scared.
Doubts will keep whispering in your ears to remind you of your weaknesses. Doubts will always make you feel vulnerable and insecure. To cure doubts, find out the weaknesses within you and work on improving them, as the seeds of doubts are sown by the inabilities within.
If it doesn’t work this way, ignore your doubts and keep moving anyway. The desire for perfection is what most people chase and use as an excuse to not start.
They wait to achieve a certain level of mastery just to make a perfect start but often forget that actions don’t follow perfection, and that it’s the other way around.
Waiting for the right time is another severe illusion among dreamers. It’s merely an idea that suggests to keep waiting for right circumstances, perfection, proper emotional state, and god knows what else until you finally find yourself in a proper state of starting.
If you’re among those who keep waiting for the right time, then chances are that you’ll keep waiting.
Leonardo da Vinci apprenticed Verrocchio when he was 14. Warren Buffet purchased his first stock at the age of 11. Mozart began playing in public when he was just 6 years old. Michael Jackson led Jackson 5 when he was 5, unlike us who were chanting twinkle-twinkle at that age.
I’m not trying to overwhelm you by saying that you’re late, but reminding you that the time is slipping rapidly and you need to make a decision quickly. To decide whether you’re on the side of turning dreams into a reality or not.
You can wait until you feel the need of a walking stick or delay until your hairs turn grey, but that won’t be a fair idea. People use the words “it’s never too late” just to keep the late-bloomers hopeful so that they might at least do now what they should have done earlier.
I want to tell you something – it’s already late, and it’s getting late. Before life gives you regrets for not acting any sooner, better choose hustling.
When you start soon, you fail more, you make mistakes, and have your own experiences. You learn more and gather wisdom, you do more and advance towards perfection, and you gain early what requires people to spend their whole lives.
If you’ve already taken your first step, congratulations! If you haven’t, you know what you’re supposed to do. Start.
The whole life stands before as an opportunity itself. Do you see it?
How you divide the years that are yet to come and what you do in those years becomes a determining factor of happiness. Get rid of the default mind-set which only shows you the practical side and keeps murmuring to you the reasons of failures.
Even if you might fall flat on your face, trying is always worth it. Because if you won’t, you’ll become a loser who never had the courage of crossing the start line, and perished there itself.
Work on your dreams before you get reasons that prevent you from doing it in future. You present is like an opportunity standing before you wearing a mask. If you fail to recognize it before it goes away, you lose it forever.
Even the tiniest step you take counts. Slightest feeling of self-trust matters.
The seeds of dreams are to be drenched with sweat, sheltered from the storms of the world, and supplied with the rays of pure hope, or else they die.
Don’t just be a dreamer, but also do what dreamers are supposed to do.
What is it that stops you? How do you wish to turn your dreams into a reality? I would love to hear back from you. Leave a comment below.
What do you do when your expectations fall short, your faith is torn apart, and everything stands against you?
This is what happened to me a few years ago. It didn’t take place within an instant. Instead it happened to me gradually, each day, slowly. The circumstances had changed me obviously. But the hurtful outlook that I developed during those days wasn’t obvious.
I witnessed my weaknesses and failures molding me into someone who I wasn’t. But I realized this only after all those feelings had planted their seeds within me and turned me into a person for whom trusting himself became the harshest task. I felt like a feeble aspirant after those ups and downs.
After so many years, I have cured myself by maturing my control over emotions. But one thing which I can honestly admit is that the unforgiving attitude which I had developed was one of the greatest mistakes I made. It was an obstacle which prevented me from growing.
The criticisms of others, self-abasement for not being up to my expectations, the desire of becoming perfect, and the inability that prospered within me knocked me each day and lowered me in my own eyes.
My self-doubts turned into beliefs by forcing me to think that I was the only person who should be blamed for everything wrong in my life, and should be punished as well.
I filled my heart with guilt and blamed myself for everything that went wrong, even if it made my life a suffocation. I allowed my failures to slap me each day and cursed myself for them. I even started seeing my successes as undeserved accomplishments.
This attitude made me hate myself. I thought that perhaps punishing myself for not being good enough was the only manner I could improve.
But the sad part was that I did all these wrong things just to get a right result. Ironic, isn’t it?
The straight truth behind my wrong behavior was: I shunned myself when I needed myself the most.
I did the wrong things in the name of improving myself. But everything changed the moment I realized my fault.
I looked at the smiling faces of the imperfect people around me and wondered about what made them so happy. They weren’t the best. They didn’t fit into the standards of the world. Their life wasn’t even close to nice. Yet, they smiled proudly as if they owned the world.
This scenario instantly triggered my thoughts and showed me that I just needed to let go and move on. Because the only thing that made my life miserable was my self-critical behavior that was still making me live in my past and preventing me from taking a grip of my future.
I could’ve improved my situation earlier by forgiving myself instead of treating myself like a sinner. My mistake was made out of choice.
Don’t we sometimes push ourselves too hard without understanding the depth of matter? I had done the same.
We unintentionally get trapped in false beliefs while making attempts towards improvement. We start feeding the negativity standing against us, which prevents our old scars from healing by scratching them.
The only option to end all this is – forgiving ourselves.
Forgiveness is a slow process which might take some time before it shows its changes.
But there’s a proper manner of doing it which I’ve found. You can use these ways to wash-off your past mistakes, forgive yourself, and learn to live again.
In my quest to becoming a better person, I got into the habit of pretending. I lied to myself and tried to protect my false beliefs. Perhaps it was because my flaws made me insecure and I couldn’t face the truth.
I tried to convince myself that I was perfect when I wasn’t. I tried to believe that I was a right when I knew I was incorrect.
But I stopped coating the actuality with lies when I recognized that I was just pretending to gain some sort of self-belief.
The false beliefs that stand on lies don’t last. Admit your mistakes, stop lying, and then ascend with a new hope. The lies have the power to reveal themselves again in near future and make you vulnerable. Being real is the only way to stop pretending.
We work on refining ourselves as if we’re starting our life again, and totally ignore the fact that we were someone else in the past.
We don’t always like to accept what we were in the past as it reminds us of our inadequacies. But can we expect to grow by leaving behind ourselves?
Accept the loser within yourself before you decide to be a winner. Accept your past before you build your future.
Accept each and every bit of yourself and feel proud about being you. Leave no trace of guilt or self-doubt within and stop hiding the identity of past from yourself.
It becomes hard to repair life when everything goes wrong. Each action of ours seems anew when we decide to begin again. That’s when the self-doubt strikes us.
It chooses all the faults from our past and keeps them against us to remind us of our weaknesses. Our progress decays once we start struggling with the past.
Face your past and focus on creating a better future. Trust your potential, do all the worthy things that can benefit you, and have faith in your intentions.
The past might still have a grip over your present, but the only way to get rid of it is to work on improving present circumstances for creating the kind of future which won’t be a slave of the past.
We grow up, gain wisdom, and start chasing higher things, yet the child within us never dies.
Our inner child inspires us to dream. He doesn’t care about the world or logic when he searches joy. The child stays within us as an inseparable part of us. As we grow up, the existence of this child fades in the midst of sorrows and hardships, and soon he is forgotten.
The child within us proves our innocence by guiding us towards righteous motives and goals. He isn’t involved in your lies, but is always ready to forgive you. Don’t leave behind this part of yours or doubt its presence. It’s always there.
Save the child that stays within you and trust him. He’ll be the first one to forgive you.
What do you think happens when our dreams break, we fail, or refuse to accept ourselves? A lot.
Our trust is shaken, our expectations bend, and we’re left in state where fear accompanies our every action. This state makes us incapable of finishing our responsibilities and then slowly plagues our thoughts by dragging us into the habit of feeling guilty again.
Our confidence is shattered at once and wrecked to pieces. This causes an irreparable loss and makes forgiving ourselves even harder. But it can be prevented by forgiveness itself. The tiny actions of forgiveness inspire us to do it often.
We are ought to stand with ourselves and not against us. That’s how we may be able to forgive ourselves and start again with new hopes.
Know what? There are regrets hidden behind experiences.
This is my confession. You aren’t supposed to make the same mistakes over or wait for the right time to forgive yourself. Start doing it today.
A punitive approach can’t serve any positive change. Or at least, it didn’t in my case.
Forgiving myself, releasing the past, and moving on again is the only proper way I’ve learned to build the foundation of future. It’s works perfectly.
We cannot build a future without facing our past and forgiving ourselves.
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” – Khalil Gibran
There’s one thing common among all the heroes and victors – it’s that they all were once sufferers who led miserable lives and experienced bitter pains of life.
I’m not talking about all the successful people who have their bank accounts full of cash, showcases overflowing with trophies and medals, or the ones who have extraordinary life which is hardly imaginable to the ordinary people.
Instead, I’m talking about the people who inspire us to rise, who make us realize that we shouldn’t be ashamed to reveal our hardest struggles, and who teach us the manner of living life by actually doing it.
I’m talking about the heroes who had once slept with empty stomachs, tasted failures, witnessed their dreams breaking into pieces, and yet kept alive the unbreakable will of going on.
They had faith in their passions when there wasn’t a trace of success and when they were the most vulnerable.
Their struggles, instead of making them weak, gave them the strength to overcome them. This not only made them successful, but also turned them into someone whom others look upon as an inspiration.
Sufferers have always inspired me more than the ordinary winners. To me, sufferers are much like superheroes.
They’re damned, they’re broken, they’re laughed at, and they’re abandoned by the world…only until they rise and show the world who they are and make it fall at their feet.
Isn’t it astonishing to see how these people had once started their journeys with nothing but later became the indomitable winners?
Look at yourself. Recall the struggles that you had faced a few years ago. Is there anything bad what you could recall? For instance, the times when you thought that your life was the most miserable, or when everything happened totally against your expectations and almost tore you apart.
How does it feel about them now? Not that bad, right?
Life has it’s own ways of fixing itself and healing us.
What you once shunned, made you stronger and turned you into what you are today. The greatest sense of accomplishment gained from your struggles is knowing that you survived them. The reasons that were once enough to lower your head due to shame are now a sign of your strength.
When hard times become inevitable, there’s only one thing you should do – hold on.
Everyone goes through hard times. None of us is blessed with all that is necessary for a happy living. We’ve had our own times when we dealt with the struggles that no one knew about, shredded tears in isolation, and tried to heal our own heartbreaks.
Perhaps, I may not tell you my stories, you might conceal yours in your heart as well. However, we’re still aware of the pains which exist in our lives. Everyone has a story to hide.
We all know that bad times aren’t meant to last forever. Yet how tough it is to actually keep your hope alive when all the odds stand against you to shoot you down. What I can guess is that you might be having some reasons to sigh even now and some reasons to suffer too.
But there’s one thing I can assure you – your struggles will become a sign of your strength, and leave you stronger than who you were when you had encountered them.
Stay hopeful while you go through tough times, because hope is what will guide you towards the light at the end of the dark tunnel of hardships until you reach your awaited dreams. And hope is what will keep inspiring you to do your best even after that.
So if you’re stuck in a situation which appears inescapable then hold on. Don’t give up and keep believing in the strength of your desire to rise. Know that you deserve everything that’s worth achieving in this world.
Have faith that your good time is about to come and keep hustling to change your hell into heaven.
As humans, we need someone to guide us, lead us towards a better life, and show us that we capable of doing what we wish to do. Who would be better in doing it than the ones who are aware of our circumstances as much as we are, and have been through the same?
There are people in this world who might keep preaching all the philosophies they’re aware of with an intention to help you.
Some might blame you for your current situation saying that you are the one who is responsible for it and you shouldn’t act like a victim. Whatever be their way of rescuing you, it is less acceptable to trust that their help would work for you.
Even if these people are right, it’s hard to trust them because they’ve never been in your shoes, they’ve never known your struggles, and for some reason, you know that their ideas just won’t work for you.
That’s when the sufferers come into action. They show you their old footprints instead of walking away after handing over a map to you to follow in your dark times.
They’ve got their hands dirty by dealing with all the adversities, they’ve had the courage to taste the mud after falling and have rose again, they don’t just order you to act in a specific way but also tell you the stories from their lives and show that you too can rise for yourself just the way they did.
When you look upon the sufferers who have succeeded, you can see your reflection in them, because the difficulties of their past remind you of your present, and their present successes give you the necessary optimism for your future.
These people are the humblest because they’ve known that how much crucial a few helping hands can be when everything around you seems so hopeless.
They never want you to suffer the way they did, so they try to support you with all their might, and that’s what makes them so exceptional.
Here’s the first one,
“Ever since my childhood, I had all the opportunities at my feet since my dad was one of the most renowned people in our town. Having access to everything that I needed made it even much easier for me to reach where I am today. I started my separate business while I was working on our old one, and managed to make them both successful. Even though I was unsure about success, it wasn’t a difficult task due to the capital that we already had and the great team which is highly dedicated towards what it does. Life has always been wonderful to me, and I’m grateful for everything that I’ve ever had.”
Great, isn’t it? Now here’s the second one.
“Life has been a bit hard, since I had to struggle hard for almost everything. But my struggles didn’t stop me from working on my dreams. I had to drop out of my college, as it wasn’t possible for me to pay the fees and feed my family at the same time. I might have been a doctor today, but I have no regrets and feel proud that I made the decision of starting a small business. My business slowly prospered with the blessings of god, and brought me where I am today. I’m glad that my son didn’t had to go through the same. Regardless of everything, I can proudly say that life is wonderful.”
Though both of the success-stories are fictional (like most of the nice things in this world are), and though it may seem like I’ve been partial towards the second one by making it slightly dramatic, there’s one thing you need to know – these success-stories are of a son and a father.
The first one shows the amazing life of the son of a billionaire, who hadn’t suffered much, and is successful. Whereas in the second one, are the words of wise man who had struggled his whole life to earn what he had, and to reach where he was.
Both people are successful, and life of both is inspiring too, but the second case makes us feel like the father deserved what he had, since he had paid a price for it.
That’s how sufferers inspire you. By revealing their scars, telling you the tragic stories from their past, and finally by showing you that how they escaped their misery, leaving behind everything that once tried to stop them.
I know how bad it feels when you’re ashamed to admit that you’re weak, and even worse it feels when you start being a helpless victim of life who has lot to cry about. People start looking upon your dependencies as excuses and they blame you for your situation instead of providing a solution. But you still need to carry on with life in the midst of this whole drama.
If you’re a sufferer then just know that one day your stories will be worth telling. When you’ll be standing at the peak of your life and inspiring others with your words and deeds, you’ll be thankful in your heart for everything that was responsible in the formation of your character. Keep your faith alive and make your hope immortal.
There will be people who’ll laugh at you, there will be times when your life will seem worthless. Often you’ll feel like giving up and pity yourself.
If you find it happening to you then know that it’s your turn to make it right. Don’t blame yourself for not being a perfect human. Forgive yourself, start somewhere, and try to make things alright. Here’s a reminder – you can make your life better and fix all that ever went wrong. If not, you can still appreciate life in spite of all its flaws.
Sufferers who escape their miseries with their unshakable determination, always inspire the masses.
If you’re dealing with some hardships in life, then have the courage to keep moving on. You’ll get everything that you’ve ever wanted in life, and you’ll even set an example for others. But before that, learn to be patient towards life and keep doing your bit until you make your successes happen.
There’s always something about starting from zero, struggling and surviving.
“By three methods we learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second by imitation, which is easiest; and Third by experience, which is bitterest.” – Confucius
I wonder why isn’t life gifted to us with a brain full of knowledge and a heart full of wisdom. Each time I face a difficulty or get stuck, I wonder that why are we supposed to learn life the harder way.
Ever since my childhood, I’ve been trying to become a better human. I don’t fail to learn anything which I think might improve the quality of my life, even if at a small extent.
But yet, every time I realize that life doesn’t ever become perfect. Life is unpredictable, and you cannot ever guess its next move.
Then I was a child, unaware of all these secrets and surprises life had to reveal. When life is normal and suddenly something goes wrong, it feels like someone has stopped the music you were listening to, and punched you right on your face. Yes it’s heartbreaking when life leaves us to some unexpected turns.
I wish that there was someone for me from beginning of my life who would have taught me not only about the subjects of school, art, or etiquette, but also about this thing called life .
However, what I’ve realized is that, that wouldn’t have worked either. I’ve learned a simple truth – life is meant to be learned. You need to make your own mistakes, fail several times, and stand again. It’s the right way of how life works.
If you live a completely based on others’ terms, it’s their life, not yours. Simple.
Also, one thought always keeps poking my mind. It stays inside me and makes me insecure by reminding me about itself. It disappoints me and makes me think sometimes that life is indeed a tough thing.
That thought is – by the time I’ll have learned to live, the time of my death would arrive. Although, I don’t about it as much I used to think in the past.
But life is such. After all, we weren’t born with a plan or instruction manual for ourselves. We learn to live, find what makes us happy, live our passions, and do all this by discovering the rules by ourselves.
We all start this life as idiots who know nothing. Slowly we learn, grow, and somehow find our own ways of living. That’s what I call wisdom. The wisdom that changes us along with the changes that happen in our lives.
You shouldn’t completely rely on someone else for wisdom. Whether it is your coaches, favorite self-help books, relatives, friends or anyone else. They all can only teach you, but it is you who has to learn and live.
If you don’t choose to be wise, you’ll always have to depend on others. Where did Buddha or Socrates get wisdom from? To be true, you have to be wise by yourself. Others can help you by giving you clues, but it’s you who has to use that help to become independent.
There are no ‘Wisdom Pills’ which would make you wise instantly or ease your life. If you don’t take a stand for yourself, then all I can think of is that you’ll have your bookshelves full of books, and hard-disks full of podcasts, and yet you’ll find an uneasy nothingness within yourself.
Don’t get me wrong. Think of all the people who inspire you to have a better life. The ones who ask you to follow your dreams or who publish a series of books. Were they born wise? No.
One simple truth which I wish I could shout out to the whole world is that we learn wisdom only by discovering ourselves, which isn’t a tough job either.
Don’t you ever think that your wisdom should be perfect. It should just be enough to help you in leading a happy living. Who knows if you might become capable of teaching it too?
You may also call it self-awareness or reflection. The habit of introspecting at regular intervals can bring a clarity to your life. It will clear off all your doubts about your dreams, relationships, job, or anything else.
All you have to do is that, just sit in peace, and dare to question yourself about everything. I bet if your questions won’t be followed by answers.
Ask all your what’s and why’s, and discuss them with yourself. The answers you have been searching for outside, will be found within.
It might sound indifferent to you, but I used to lie on my bed, bury my head under my pillow, and then introspect. And guess what? It works. Always.
Your feelings act like the road signs in your life. They show you the proper directions and make your life easier. All you have to do is just pay a little attention towards your feelings, and listen to what they say.
Your feelings aren’t inside you without a reason. They’ve got a purpose for being there. If you ever feel a voice speaking within you or your thoughts conflicting with each other, know that it’s your feelings which are trying to show you the right path.|
The best thing about feelings is that they don’t lie.
There’s a lot of advice out there. Which one should you listen to?
The infinite voices around you might not help you, but they’re definitely capable of leaving you in a confused state. Before you decide to get another piece of advice, try to find know what works for you.
What works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for the other. Try to find out what works for you in anything. This trick works universally in all aspects of life.
The whole world around you is a book of of wisdom. All the happy, depressed, wise, cruel, and other type of people stay here. This is the world which inspires artists to create art and philosophers to learn wisdom.
If you curiously observe everything around you, you’ll learn a lot. All the events occurring in your surroundings are live stories of something. Try to learn from them.
I learned chess by simply observing. I observe people to know more about them. I observe my own life to know what’s really going on in it.
Observation it another key to wisdom. You cannot deny its potential.
Making mistakes isn’t really a big mistake, but not learning from them is.
Everyone around you makes mistakes but what separates the better people from the rest is that they learn from their mistakes.
Don’t only learn from your own mistakes but also learn from those of others, because life is too short to make all of them. If you find something wrong happening in your life, then chances are you might be doing something in a wrong way. Try to find the flaws in you and your work, and finish them to be a better yourself.
When people ask you to learn from mistakes, what they mean is that you don’t make the ones which you had made previously and improve what went wrong. These mistakes form the base of your experiences.
Get familiar with the changes that keep happening in your life. They’re never going to stop.
If you’ll run away from change, you’ll get closer to the negative side of everything and give yourself a big reason to be sad. Try to act a bit more courageously and adapt to the changes that are happening around you, this is the only proper way to survive happily.
We are made to change. Isn’t changing for betterment same as what we call progress? Accept the changes that make you better. There’s no point in resisting. Change your habits, change your work ethics, change your lifestyle – change yourself.
It does not matter at what point you are in your life, there are always ways for making it even better.
You may be content with how your life is, but don’t prevent yourself from growing. Your life consists of several aspects in which you are intended to grow, and learning is the only way of doing it. With every tiny attempt that you make towards learning, you get closer to perfection.
Look back at your past and try to recall that how you used to be then? And look at what you are now. What was it that made you better? Obviously, it was your habit of learning.
There are no standards for calculating wisdom, but you can tell whether you are wise by knowing yourself.
If you’re wise, you won’t feel lost. Your decisions might still be a little blurred, you may still doubt your dreams, but yet, you will be at peace. Because in your heart, you will know that everything will be alright since you’ll be wise enough to act for yourself and capable of making things better.
You will still read blogs and books, listen to podcasts, or attend conferences. But you will not do it because you’ll feel damned or depressed. Instead, you will do it out of your clear intentions of bettering yourself.
You will start believing in yourself, and become self-dependent.
What do you think makes us wise in life? I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment.