“To get down to the quick of it, respect motivates me – not success” – Hugh Jackman
Integrity, love, respect – there’s a bunch of words that gives life the meaning it holds. Respect is one such word, it always weighs in regardless of what you do.
No matter who you are or what your priorities are in life, it feels good to be looked upon as an authentic person and live with a head held high.
For instance, you might feel wonderful when a child looks upon you as his role model. Personally, I’d rather be respected and loved rather than owning a pile of materialistic wealth.
Honestly, being respected is one of those assuring signs which tell you that you’re on the right path, you’re worth your salt, and that you’re worthy of whatever you’re blessed with.
Still, how do you get more respect?
First of all, respect isn’t something you’d want to earn through manipulation or tricking people.
In short, it’s really about your actual identity rather than wearing a mask or trying out some psychological hacks.
Respect, genuine respect, can only be earned by being who you really are. At the same time, you’re free to work towards being a better human. So you can first start working on improving yourself and then move on to other ways.
So, what are the qualities that can earn you the respect you deserve?
Here’s a quick, brief list of things you can do that can help you be more respected by others.
Keep your word
“Your word is your honor. If you say you’re going to do something, then you need to do it.” – Joyce Meyer
Clear your debt when you say you will. Finish the project you’re accountable for. Walk your talk, because that’s how you gain trust.
“It is difficult to prove yourself reliable when people are required to wait for you.” – Wes Fesler
Attend meetings on time. Submit your work before deadlines. Value others’ time and that of your own.
Treat people right
“It’s so important to have manners and treat people from all walks of life the way they should be treated.” – David Beckham
Set an example. Don’t backbite or drag others down. Avoid criticizing in public. There’s always a better way of dealing with people without humiliating them, learn it.
Take an initiative
“Initiative is doing the right thing without being told.” – Victor Hugo
Take a stand, even if you’re confused and others are fearful. Come forward, contribute ideas, show up and do what you’re capable of doing. That’s how you can lead, with courage.
“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” – Dan Millman
Overreacting under stress, instant conclusions, or immediate and insensible responses are a weakness. Take time, think and maintain your composure while dealing with all kinds of problems.
“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them” – Albert Einstein
Don’t whine, nag, and complain. Frustration isn’t a cure, so be patient. Each time you mention a problem, also suggest a remedy.
Know what you’re doing
“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
If you’ve calculated the bills, kept a track of your habits, and made a plan for the next year then it’s more than enough – a person having clarity about life is always inspiring.
“Take care, be kind, be considerate of other people and other species, and be loving.” – John Lithgow
Be conscious about your tiniest interactions, the words you choose, and the way you react. They reflect you. So, show concern while dealing with sensitive matters or in general as well.
“You can get discouraged many times, but you are not a failure until you begin to blame somebody else and stop trying.” – John Burroughs
It’s simple. Nobody’s responsible for your failure, life doesn’t suck, and you don’t brood over the bad stuff that pinches you. Either you accept the bad things, or you change them, or you move on. There’s no entitlement.
The small stuff
“If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.” – Napoleon Hill
Remember the names. Write handwritten notes. Give compliments. Overall, care enough. Be remembered for how you made others feel.
“You don’t have to share everything, and it’s healthy to occasionally hit the pause button and ask yourself if you’re oversharing.” – Ashton Kutcher
Don’t post when you’re depressed. Spend less time on the phone. Keep your feelings to yourself instead of dumping them on social media. It’s hard but try it.
“A man who dares to waste one hour of life has not discovered the value of life.” – Charles Darwin
Keep a track of your activities, cut down the duration spent doing chores, or at least, make an effort to use your share of 24 hours better.
Be honest with your work
“It’s not about money or connections – it’s the willingness to outwork and outlearn everyone.” – Mark Cuban
“I allow myself to fail. I allow myself to break. I’m not afraid of my flaws.” – Lady Gaga
You’re not perfect, just like everybody else, and you don’t need to be. Have the courage to admit your flaws, appreciate your strengths and find a way to balance both of them.
Dissolve the bad feelings
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” – Will Smith
Jealousy and grudges are held by immature people. They hinder your betterment. Forgive, leave no space for hatred and keep a pure conscience. Do it for yourself first and you’d feel at peace.
“Goodness is the only investment that never fails.” – Henry David Thoreau
Feed the stray dog, help your colleague solve his problem, and say “thank you!” to the waiter who serves you your food. It’s about the little stuff you do.
Make others important
“Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to others.” – Gautama Buddha
Let them feel like a hero in your company. Allow them to open up and share their heart out. They’ll remember you as the one who really cared and listened.
Mention the good
“Everyone wants to be appreciated, so if you appreciate someone, don’t keep it a secret.” – Mary Kay Ash
Appreciate hard work, give credit where it’s due, and encourage goodness. It’s the only right way to attract the right people in your life.
Stand for yourself
“Develop enough courage so that you can stand up for yourself and then stand up for somebody else.” – Maya Angelou
Detach yourself from toxic people and be assertive about not accepting insults. Choose to be treated the way you wish to be.
Mind your own business
“Keep your attention focused entirely on what is truly your own concern, and be clear that what belongs to others is their business and none of yours.” – Epictetus
Others’ breakups or troubles have nothing to do with you unless you’re planning to help. Repetitive asking only bothers them. Better, distance yourself from any drama and stay focused on your own life.
Develop a character
“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.” – Bruce Lee
What does a character even mean? Healthy intentions, a clear conscience, and a willingness to do better.
If you’re standing firm in your place and doing the best you can, then you’re already worthy of respect.
In the end, it’s not about getting everything but being deserving enough for what you’ve always wished for.