Do you like what you say you like? Are you sure?
Do you know it in your heart? Perhaps.
Wait. Before you close your browser tab and run away from this post, let me directly come to the point.
How often does it happens that you meet some people who doubt you, point at you, and blame you without knowing much about you? Quite often.
It seems funny how people pass their own judgments without having any proper idea about us or our intentions, and then make us the fresh topic of their gossips and talks. We do nothing, except observing them while they make fun of us and convince us feel like a clown.
When it becomes intolerable to you, you jump into their conversations, and act like a lawyer trying to defend himself.
“Oh! no, no, its not like that”, “Wait, what I want to say is that..,” you say and try to save yourself as if you are your own superhero. So the people who were already ripping you, get an another reason to pull you down and have a great laugh.
Yes it feels bad.When people pass needless comments and spread rumors about you, blood gushes through your veins, you start chewing your teeth, and yet you stand silently and listen, when what you actually feel like doing is just clenching your fist and punching those people down to ground and shout,”What the heck do you know about me? Why can’t you just shut your mouth up and mind your own business?”
But its not always favorable to do that. That’s not the complete solution to the problem either. It takes nothing to arise new conflicts, have some new enemies, and get involved in new kind of mess.
Then what should you do instead?
Okay then, here’s a piece of wisdom. It may seem useful to some people, and a coward’s way of running away to others. But its totally worth your trying.
It goes like this – prove nothing.
Simple? As much simple as it seems.
You waste a lot of your precious time in proving things to others, even if unknowingly.
There are hundreds of people around you who’ll have several opinions about you. For some of them you may be the apple of their eye, and for some others you may be nothing more than a futile moron.
What people think of you, what they say about you, and what they say they know about you, shouldn’t affect you. Try to maintain your calm.
Will they lower your reputation in front of other people?
When some people insult you, those who know you well do not believe them, and those who don’t know you will soon realize the reality and learn more about you. One thing which about gossips is that worthless people pass them to the worthless people who hear them.
So stop worrying about what other think or tell about you. That doesn’t create you. You always remain what you are, and others don’t define you.
“I don’t have to show anything to anyone. There is nothing to prove.”
– Cristiano Ronaldo
Why prove what you already know in your heart?
“You are an idiot, yes you actually are one.”
What if I told you those words above? What would your reaction be then?
Either you’ll just conclude in your own heart that it is me who is an idiot to say such a thing, and walk away like a wise human. Or you may just start stamping your feet on the ground like a child and try to give reasons, clarify and justify yourself to prove to me that why you’re not an idiot.
But in both cases, the outcome will likely be the same. That you’re not an idiot. In one case, you took me lightly and forgave my nuisance, whereas in the other one you reacted.
Did your reaction change anything? My opinion? Nothing would change, because I’ve decided to think so.
Either keep proving yourself to others or be wise enough to take life easy. People think about something in a certain way because they’ve already decided to think that way. In your heart, you know all the truths about yourself. You don’t need to prove everything to everyone.
Do yourself a favor by not getting into situations where you need to prove everything about yourself and change others minds and opinions. You job is to live your life, not to waste it by explaining everything you do to others.
Not all your dreams need reasons, not all your decisions must make sense, neither should all the choices you make fit into the conventions of the world. Decide how you wish to live your life and live it.
Especially what you already know in your heart. People may not always believe you, but it isn’t necessary to make them believe all the truths about yourself.
You don’t always need to give an explanation for the life you live.