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Vishal Ostwal

I Write About Life

How to Live a Memorable Life

When I grow old and look back at life, I want to be smiling

I fear losing life meaninglessly.

This thought dreads me somewhere inside. I don’t want to look back and feel like I could’ve lived more. I want every moment to matter.

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An Infallible Way to Stay Happy Forever

 

An Infallible Way to Stay Happy Forever

If you’re like other humans, which is quite obvious, you chase money, you do whatever you can to leverage your social reputation, and try to impress people.

You work harder to gain a greater sense of accomplishment and don’t miss an opportunity to do what can make you feel better about yourself – whether it’s buying fancy objects, eating your favorite delicacy or enjoying for a while.

Even if you think of yourself as different, you do what others do. We’re all similar.

In the end, you realize that nothing make you as happy as much as you had expected. Your expectations always turn out to be an illusion – and illusions break.

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How Being Childish Can Lead You Towards a Happier Life

Being Childish to Be Happier

Something changes.

When we grow up, call ourselves matured and when we stop being childish.

We don’t behave like we used to and turn into grown-ups who act as per the society. We begin to abide by the unsaid rules of the world, slowly concealing our identities and losing some fragile parts of our existence.

You need to be more responsible. More mature. But that doesn’t mean that you have to leave yourself somewhere in the crowd and abandon your childishness. (more…)

Don’t Take Yourself and Life Too Seriously – Everyone Is an Idiot Here

Everyone is an idiot here
“I kept a diary right after I was born.
Day 1: Tired from the move.
Day 2: Everyone thinks I’m an idiot.”

– Steven Wright

Has it ever happened to you that something made you feel like you’re the only idiot in this whole world until you met someone who made you realize that you weren’t alone?

Then you might have high-fived each other and said in surprise “you too?”

How bad is that moment when you feel like an idiot, and how great is the one when you know that everyone else is too.

Let me clear it – idiocy is one of the fundamental qualities of all humans.

No matter how much sincere and disciplined you think the person next to you is, he is too an idiot. The same is with all other people.

You don’t need to feel like a retard when something goes wrong, neither you need to apologize for simple silly mistakes which you make, and nor do you need to wonder about whether everyone else thinks if you really are one.

Examples:

1. What do you think is the reason why people laugh at memes?
There’s a mutual stupidity which we all have in common, and that makes us laugh at stupid things. How stupid!

2. Have you ever observed people smiling without a reason? Well, they have a reason though. They smile for some crazy reasons and memories. After all, no one would laugh at the ordinary memories.

3. One more fact is that we like craziness. There’s hardly anything which is enjoyed as much as craziness. The strictness of an army, the brilliance of a scientist, or the craziness of your foolish friend, what would be a better reason behind your laughter among these?

There isn’t anything which can be used to measure the idiocy of humans. However, there’s one quality of humans which makes some people seem disciplined and sincere while others stupids.

It’s all about how much one expresses – yes you read it right. Let me repeat again, stupidity is just a matter of how much one expresses.

Suppose that you were watching a Superman movie and wondering why the superhero wears his underwear on his pants, alright?

Now others too might be thinking the same thing.

But just in case you ask the question that why does he wear underwear on his pants, who would be regarded as an idiot? Obviously you. You may even become the temporary clown and a good subject to laugh at.

Even others were thinking about what was going on in your head, but just because you expressed it, you were taken as an idiot, you see?

But expressing cannot make you an idiot, and neither hiding it make you a genius.

If you are an idiot, just know it

Do you know who is an actual idiot? The one who thinks that he’s not.

If you are an idiot, just know it. Don’t say you aren’t. Everyone is.

I don’t have any specific reason to tell you to be an idiot. But what I’m explaining is that even if you behave like one you don’t become one.

A little bit of Idiocy adds spice to life. If being somewhat an idiot can make you happy, be one.

If you are an idiot and you know it, then you’re not an idiot.

“I’m not afraid to look like an idiot.” – Anthony Bourdain

Should you be an idiot too?

Now let’s get a bit real. Do you enjoy idiots that much?

I’ll assume that you’ve said “Not that much.” If you answered “yes!” then I’ll suppose that you must be an idiot too and just ignore you.

Okay fine, I too agree that being an idiot is cool at times, and that everyone enjoys it. We all  love being idiots, but not always.

The world is already suffering due to the fools that exist. They’re intolerable and growing each day. Wait … I guess that I’ve already created a lot of confusion.

To be an idiot or to not is the question

If you are being an idiot, be less of it, and prevent becoming a total irritating jerk. That’s all.

Use your stupidity as table salt, always in proper proportion. Because some of it will always be useful for your humor, happiness, and for the people around you.

Conclusion

If you feel like an idiot, just know that everyone else is too. Idiocy is both your friend and foe. But if you use it wisely, then even this silly thing can add smiles to your life.
Be an idiot, somewhat.

Life Passing Too Quickly? Here’s How You Can Slow it Down

Each day, we’re dragged farther from life and closer to death.

The same is happening to everyone else. Time passes too quickly. Sometimes we feel like controlling time, slowing it down, or just bottling it up if we can … but that’s a fantasy.

Do you feel the same? Everybody else does

• It feels like new year was just a week ago or so.

• The children who were once crawling have now started walking.
• The saplings around your house have turned into trees.
• When you see yourself in your old photographs, you’re astounded by how fast you’ve grown up.
• The pages of calendar are turning with the passing days, much like the pages of a book.
• You can recall you childhood but don’t remember how the journey has gone by.

• It seems a kind of miracle to notice how technology has evolved during the years, and how you have witnessed it all.

Do you know what’s the sad part about all this? That time doesn’t slow down.

It will keep hurrying ruthlessly without getting tired. That’s what it has been doing since the ages unmemorable. It has got no brakes.

But we’re mortals.

We’ll die someday. Though we wish to stay alive forever, we know that we’re making a wish that will remain unfulfilled.

Still, we have a whole lifetime. We can live every moment and cherish this life.

Living our life to the fullest in every moment can give us the satisfaction which we have been yearning for.

This is how you can somewhat slow down your life (and start living)

Create

Have a hobby, learn to make art and create something.

Create anything that interests you – whether it’s a sketch, a gallery of photos, a coin collection, a blog, or something else. Creations leave valuable marks on the sands of time which cannot be erased.

When you’ll look back at them, you’ll be easily able to track your hard work and joys. Your creations will be an evidence of your creativity, and remind you of the time you had spent making something that you can proudly call ‘your own.’

Click

Click lots of photos. Make silly videos. Let them rest inside your cellphone or PC, and don’t delete them. You may find out that how big an idiot you were some years ago, but it will feel great to see everyone you know in their old avatars. Also, even if you’ll lose some loved ones, they will be with you forever in the form of those clicks.

Each old photo will tell you a story from your past and help you recollect the memories related to it. It’ll be enough to bring a broad smile on your face. You’ll live more. A lot more.

Be productive

Don’t just rush into whatever you’re doing. Wait, take a pause, and then reflect that why are you doing whatever you’re doing.

Are you doing it the right way?

We spend a huge part of our lives either doing the wrong things, or doing right things the wrong way.

Try to be better at whatever you do, save time by being innovative, change your working habits and invent new ideas. By doing this, you do yourself a great favor and add days to your life by utilizing time properly and learning new habits.

Have a task-schedule

It isn’t necessary at all to have a schedule in which you feel trapped. Make a schedule, not in terms of time but in terms of work. Exercise a bit, meditate, take a walk, or do anything that makes you feel good.

You must be able to decide your priorities, and have some time for the things that you want to do. Even not having a schedule can be your schedule, if you’re comfortable with it and can get everything done.

Keep a to-do list

Make a to-do list. Add anything that you want to do, no matter how useless or awkward it might seem. When you’ll see the checklist shorten, it will give you a sense of accomplishment.

You are free to include your desire of climbing a mountain, purchasing something, visiting a place, meeting a friend, or any interesting idea that strikes your heart. It will make you feel like you have released a burden of responsibilities by fulfilling them.

It’s definitely worth it, and will assist you in accomplishing your goals quickly.

Cherish your likes

If you are planning to watch a movie you’ve been waiting for, to read a book since a long time, or to travel somewhere you’ve been dreaming of, then do it right now. At least, as early as possible. If it makes you happy, you should be doing it.

You need to have some time for yourself. You aren’t meant to act like a robot that doesn’t get tired. Try to live like a human and make some place for yourself, no matter how busy a person you are.

Cutoff

Cut off the useless activities that eat up your time, cutoff the people who you don’t want to be with, cutoff the habits that slow you down, cutoff everything that makes your life a drain.

You already know how you should be doing it according to your preferences.

Quitting useless things matters as much as taking up useful things, as both are capable of directly affecting your life.

Live in the moment

Wait. Listen to the sounds that surround you. Pay attention to what’s happening. This is life while it’s happening.

Life doesn’t happen in imaginary aspirations as much as it does in ordinary chores.

Sometimes we just plainly ignore the beauty of simplicity that exists all around. We become careless and choose to not admire the life that we have, while craving for what we want it to be like.

You’ll be grateful for your now if you decide to give it the attention it deserves and learn to love it. This is life, ordinary yet beautiful.

I hope that these ways help you to live your life to the fullest.

Next time you feel like your life is passing too quickly, just remember that this life is enough. For everything that you want to do, and what you can do.

Although life might seem less, you can still make every moment count.

It will pass anyway, so isn’t it a wise idea to live it instead of merely passing it?

Conclusion

Live while the time is passing, it will pass anyway. How you think spending it might be right for you is right for you, if it helps you in ascending towards your betterment.

Slow down your life in your own wonderful ways.

Exploit every second, kill every moment, and make life worth living.

Life passing quickly Infographic - Vishal Ostwal

Why do you think life seems to pass so quickly? How do you slow down your life? Got something to share? Leave a comment below.

Don’t Let Your Guilt Decay Your Life

“Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future”
– Oscar Wilde

We all have some sort of guilt concealed within ourselves. We try to be better, improve our lives, wash our vices, and hope to rise again.

But our guilt drags us down. It doesn’t let us grow. It reminds us that we’ve already been fools throughout and there’s no hope of getting back our lost life.

But the only thing which our guilt is capable of is doing is ruining our future by stopping us from becoming who we want to be.

The guilt that we hide inside us can be due to any of the following:

1. Regrets

You may call it the brother of guilt. Regrets about what we’ve done, regrets about what we should’ve done, regrets about what we didn’t do. Regrets, regrets, regrets!

We need to get rid of regretting. Because cursing the past us isn’t going to make our future us any better. It is better to accept that we are at some perfect place, and we can still go on.

2. Sins

Whatever or whoever you are, forgive yourself. Perhaps you’ve done something bad, betrayed someone, failed in your duties, never became a perfect human, or have done wrong things.

Even if others may or may not be aware of your sins, you know what they are. You cannot move further until you decide to be better. You can only move forward on your way by leaving behind the burden of sins by forgiving yourself.

3. Failures

Whether you take failures seriously or not, but escape the guilt of failures. Everyone fails at something (I know you know that), because ultimate perfection is hypothetical. Everyone is good or bad at something, and hence failure is simply inevitable.

If you’ve got your own reasons to feel guilty, don’t allow them to decay you

Above all, remember that even if you think you’re among those who deserve being imprisoned, are perfect for hell or the ones who should be abandoned by everyone to suffer alone … as long as you’re willing to become a better someone, just know that your guilt isn’t justified.

People will keep scratching your wounds. They’ll remind you about your weaknesses and make you recall your ruined past. Don’t suffer, but rather know in your heart that God watches everything, and he is the one who will accept you and forgive you.

But till then…forgive yourself, while you’re alive.

Conclusion

The guilt and pain that we feel may be justified by us, but it doesn’t make us any better. So it makes sense to forgive the past you and live for your future you.
Vishal Ostwal guilt quote