I woke up staring at the shiny screen that popped out notifications, I buried my head within futile applications, and unknowingly cut myself from the real world – that didn’t feel like a life.
Honestly, I regret it.
When I grow old and look back at life, I want to be smiling
I fear losing life meaninglessly.
This thought dreads me somewhere inside. I don’t want to look back and feel like I could’ve lived more. I want every moment to matter.
Do something little. Really little. It’s not shameful.
When I look back at life, I realize that I’ve spent a lot of it trying to fight my insecurities to get a life I deserve.
In fact, I’ve spent a huge chunk of life feeling vulnerable, while trying to defeat the blurred thoughts in my mind which keep me restless, making me realize that I’m not good at a lot of things.
It’s dreadful to imagine that you might look back at life someday, only to realize that you’ve wasted it.
In fact, what could be more painful than knowing that you could’ve lived better, and earned all the happiness and experiences you wish for?
Here’s a lesson I’ve learned from the changes I try to bring in my life – little changes work better than the bigger ones. Or at least, it seems to be so in my case.
Your lifestyle might be different than me. Maybe you are busier, have lesser time, or do a lot more tiring chores than me.
But here’s the deal – what’s mentioned below is quite simple. Something you can use regardless of what kind of life you lead.
If you’re like other humans, which is quite obvious, you chase money, you do whatever you can to leverage your social reputation, and try to impress people.
You work harder to gain a greater sense of accomplishment and don’t miss an opportunity to do what can make you feel better about yourself – whether it’s buying fancy objects, eating your favorite delicacy or enjoying for a while.
Even if you think of yourself as different, you do what others do. We’re all similar.
In the end, you realize that nothing make you as happy as much as you had expected. Your expectations always turn out to be an illusion – and illusions break.
We all have dreams and passions – those which can be easily believed, and those which we don’t reveal to avoid making a joke of ourselves.
Some dreams might seem enormous – hard to achieve and beyond your reach. Somewhat close to impossible, or unbelievably hard. You crave them and know for sure that it’s what you want to do. Still you don’t take a step further.
Following your passion seems risky. Mostly because you think you aren’t capable and worthy of achieving it, yet.
Firstly, people don’t want to be seen as fools.
I mean no wants to be the social oddball who is seen as a dreamer. People think of themselves as dreamers, but they don’t want to be called one.
Being a dreamer makes you vulnerable all at once. Everyone comes to know what you’re up to – your plans, your tiny aspirations, and your intentions – there’s no way out. (more…)
When we grow up, call ourselves matured and when we stop being childish.
We don’t behave like we used to and turn into grown-ups who act as per the society. We begin to abide by the unsaid rules of the world, slowly concealing our identities and losing some fragile parts of our existence.
You need to be more responsible. More mature. But that doesn’t mean that you have to leave yourself somewhere in the crowd and abandon your childishness. (more…)
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” – Plato
It has been a few years since I’ve started working on my dream of becoming a writer. But now when I look back at the point where I had started, I wonder how I had even managed to start.
I don’t live in the midst of successful people having cheerful faces, who have achieved what they had once dreamed of, or who would inspire me to do the same. Instead, I doubt whether such people really exist apart from the ones whom I have seen on the television screen or read about in some books. I don’t see more than a handful of them.
To me, sometimes it seems like dreaming is a sin.
Why? Because the world makes me think so, people make me feel the same, and my insecurities are enough to end it all.
Above all, it wants us to do the work which makes us happy, not for someone else but for ourselves.
In my journey till now, I’ve realized that what matters the most are our efforts. Though the outcome is crucial too, our work gives us the biggest contentment.
It doesn’t matter whether you succeed or fail, no one will be able to deny one fact – you tried your best.
In that case, even failures look equal to successes, because whatever be the results, they are because of our sincere work.
However, even when you start working on your dreams, you know that you might not be able to succeed. Neither is there any assurance that people would bother to help you.
But one thing cannot be denied – whatever you do will still make you happy, and that’s what matters the most. You will find a plenty of people who are experiencing the joys of chasing their dreams.
However, you will also come across the tribe of people who think that their dreams or ideas won’t ever work. These people are the ones who have already found some practical reasons and excuses for not working on their dreams.
In other words, they’ve decided to not ever start, and have also decided to fail by default.
You will often see such people talking about where and what they want to be, and also why they aren’t being what they want to be. Some among these are the ones who are really great at what they want to do and even deserve the opportunity to make their dreams into a reality.
But they won’t be able to make it until they start. What’s the point in being able when you don’t use your ability?
You might be among them too, if you haven’t started yet.
There’s one major thing which prevents people from starting for years, sometimes for a lifetime – it’s fear. Here’s a list of 5 most common fears which every dreamer has to deal with.
If you’re thinking about giving your best, making your dreams a reality but feeling almost paralyzed at the same time, then you’re not alone.
Even if we feel that we’re different from the rest, we aren’t. All other dreamers face the same kind of anxiety which is enough to drive anyone crazy. The ones who overcome it start in spite of the obstacles they need to tackle. And the ones who allow it to overpower themselves are left behind.
Starting is also the scariest part because it demands our trust while we are ourselves unsure of what we’re doing. However, like every other successful and content human, we need to start somewhere. Everything follows it later, whether it’s growth, success, ideas or something else.
The moment I gathered my courage, held a pen, and tried to write something, a voice inside me yelled that what I do won’t be that good.
“There are already thousands like me sitting out there who are doing the same thing, and there’s no more space for a novice like me,” I could hear my inner-critic say. I could’ve stopped at that moment and gave up forever, but I tried to ignore my imperfections and wrote my first short story, The Wishful Stone.
If I would’ve given up at that moment then it would’ve also lost my faith. Today, if I could be thankful about the one thing which I did in that particular moment was not holding myself back and doing what I could.
We all start as imperfect fellows. Slowly these imperfect beings try, learn, and put in their best to get closer to perfection, and that’s what makes them great.
Although we think we aren’t perfect, we get a chance to get closer to perfection. Each day. Making attempts to become perfect instead of quitting and scaring yourself to hell by thinking that you are not ready yet.
Not doing something because you think you might fail doesn’t make sense. Not even gods can assure you success if you aren’t willing to take charge for yourself. Both your failures and successes make you better by teaching you, so shouldn’t you even expect failures?
Fear of rejection is the enemy of expression.
Our minds are filled up with questions which need to be abandoned at some point, because if we don’t, they become our biggest obstacles.
“I’ll somehow manage to write a book, but what if nobody likes it?” was one of those questions which haunted me each day. This was only one among hundreds of other questions I had in my mind. I had developed an habit of hammering myself with my flaws during those days. In some way, starting was always harder. But what I’ve learned after that is once you overcome that mindset, right things start happening to you.
Nothing can make you happy if you snatch from yourself your real identity for the sake of being liked by others. Try to be what you are, even if you doubt that you aren’t good enough. It’s better than doing nothing or being fake.
When you’re a dreamer, you also have to be a rebel and break some rules. This might even mean doing something against the conventions which the world has set for you, escaping your limitations and what you think is right even when your people you against you to prove yourself right.
You can all this only if you overcome your fear of rejection.
Wait for the suspense to break. What lies beyond is marvelous. You won’t ever get to know about the unseen unless you try to discover it. Your destination is right out there, it has something for you, but you won’t ever know about it if you quit.
Even if you think you cannot do something – try.
Dreaming isn’t only about expressing your materialistic desires or discussing impractical ideas endlessly. It’s about starting small somewhere and doing what is hard enough to be imagined.
The dreams that make you restless won’t ever happen unless you start.
Do you have a dream? Would you mind sharing it in the comments? What is it that often stops you and what is it that inspires you to go on? Let me know in the comments.