I know what it feels like being a dreamer.
Sometimes, it’s just miserable.
Not because I fail or due to some other reason. Failures are obvious when you’re a dreamer. You do a lot of things and most of them don’t work. Indeed, it takes sweat and tears.
Yet, these hard things aren’t what hold back dreamers. There’s something else that induces fear in them and prevents them from embarking on their journey to their dreams.
To be honest, all dreamers are weak, insecure and doubtful. They think of themselves as fools.
I do. Everyone else who thinks big does. We don’t see ourselves as normal. If you dream, welcome to the pack of people who are lost.
We don’t know where we’re going as weren’t given any maps or signboards to follow. So we create our own roads – and then we walk on them.
What makes dreamers quit before they even start
It’s not used to seeing dreamers succeed yet.
When you dream, you don’t make sense to others. You try to do something that’s beyond your abilities and current potential. You look pathetic.
Others see you as a pitiful person affected by the successes of some other people. A hopeful fellow struck by some inspirational words written in books.
Especially in the beginning, when you have no successes to tell, you resemble a clown. You’re a good joke to the whole world.
They pretend like they understand you even if they don’t. They ignore you. A lot of them won’t help you although they can. As time passes, your surroundings get you. They do their work and induce a clump of negativity in you.
After which, you see yourself as others see you – impractical and helpless. The way dreamers are treated makes them quit.
All dreamers are vulnerable
People who inspire you have been where you want to be. They’ve experienced the struggles you haven’t yet seen. And they know that needs to be paid for having a dream.
What do you think people mean when they mention persistence, struggles, risks and dedication again and again? They say truth.
Dreams are unpredictable.
Sometimes you may succeed and feel elated. Other times you may fall flat on your face feel like a loser. And it goes on like this in circles. Each day. And it’s hard to keep going while all this happens to you.
Each day you need to convince yourself that your efforts are worth your dreams even if you aren’t able to see a slight spark of faith. You’re given a hundreds of reasons to quit which welcome you to quit.
The people whom you trust the most may end up telling you that you’re just duping yourself. It hurts. The words of others are so powerful that they may make you quit. I need to tell this to you – be prepared for the worst.
Save your dream from the world. Do whatever you need to do for that. But don’t let the world overpower you. It’s a trap.
And here’s the only reason why I don’t tell dreamers that their dreams won’t come true
Because dreams come true.
That’s the only reason I have.
Know that feeling which you get when others ask you for advice or share their dreams with you? They seem poor to you.
You don’t want to break their heart, and neither have you wanted to disappoint them by saying the truth.
You may try to convince them with kind words or explain your concerns in a kind manner, while all you feel like saying is, “Get real. There’s not even a slight chance that you’ll succeed.”
I’ve been there.
I’ve been one such dreamer, and I’ve also met some others. I know how it feels when people come to you with gleaming eyes and expect you to assure them about their success.
But not all dreamers are the same
Some keep talking. Others ask for advice and remain in the clouds. They never try.
However, there are some real dreamers. The ones who are sincere about what they say and prepared to give all that it takes.
All they need is a slight push from you so they can believe in their dreams – because they’re vulnerable.
They don’t stop, work hard and go on in spite of their struggles. So when people ask me whether their dreams might come true – I don’t state the odds. I let them know that if they’re willing to do something then they should do it. No matter what.
Sometimes I ask questions like “are you passionate about what you’re doing?” I ask them their plans to make them think for themselves. But I never tell them that their dreams won’t come true. It’s a sin. I would feel shameful about myself if I murder their hopes.
A truth I know about dreamers is that almost all of them start from zero as novices who know nothing.
But eventually, as they work hard and pursue tiny milestones. Their achievements add-up to their overall success. And while doing so, they set themselves on a journey which ultimately leads them towards glory.
They face their own share of struggles and fail often like any other dreamer. But in the end, everything that they do pays off. Those dreamers succeed.
You’re left to wonder in awe how they did it. Gradually, they end up doing what you once thought was impossible.
They all get better. No one remains imperfect forever. So instead of telling people their dreams might not come true, show them that you trust them.
Dreams don’t always make sense in the beginning. Yet, keep playing your part.
Although, you cannot control circumstances or bring the desired outcomes, you can keep trying until you get closer to your goals.
All dreams start this way.
So if you’re still hesitant and haven’t started, then here’s a reminder – you can succeed if you’re ready to put in the effort.
Finally, while you’re busy following your dreams, help others who are like you. They need you.
What inspires you to chase your dreams?
What are the problems which you often face?
I would like hearing from you in the comments. Maybe, tell me about what is it that you love doing.