Your questions can be categorized into several types if they had to be classified. Like the ones which arise due to your unawareness or maybe due to your misunderstandings.
Frequently questioning your actions and decisions is enough to hold yourself back and to justify your excuses. Enough to feed your doubts and fill yourself with fear and uncertainty.
- Should I do it?
- Will it benefit me?
- Will I succeed at it?
These are few of those questions which I used to ask myself whenever I decided to start a thing. Nowadays, I do it less.
- Am I good at it?
- Am I doing it in a right way?
However, with your desperate habit of questioning, you wish to know whether you’re good enough; because you can only succeed when you’re fine. You also seek appreciation, even if unconsciously, because you want to believe that you’re skillful. It helps you to keep going on in the long run.
But you’re just hiding from the truth.
Your doubts are controlling you. You can’t be patient till you achieve your goals. Persistence is a tiring. So you find every possible way convince yourself that you’re great at what you do. This give you a sense of accomplishment, so you feel at peace and relax.
In reality, you might be awful at what you do. The people who say that you’re great might be lying just because they don’t want to disappoint you. Maybe your goals are a lot farther than you might have thought.
None of this matters.
Everyone sucks when starting out. Hard work is always the secret recipe to every success. It takes long for dreams to turn into reality. You already know all the truths. Perhaps, you want to pretend like you don’t see what is obvious.
Maybe you missed something.
You’re already good. Maybe not the best, but it’s alright. You can improve. You can achieve all the dreams you have planned for yourself and even master the work you do. You already know the road that stands before you.
So stop manipulating yourself.
Its just that you don’t choose to trust yourself, and leave the responsibility of discovering your weaknesses on others, instead of dealing with the painful affair. You don’t need to do that.
If you’re right, if you’re working hard – nothing can keep you away from what you’re aiming at.
- Should I quit it?
- What if I fail?
This kind of questions do the final job of killing your dreams.
What if someone says “Yes” when you ask “Should I quit?” Will you give up on your dreams? Are you so insincere regarding what defines the purpose of your life? Are others’ beliefs much important to you than your own?
What I know is that you still need to go on your weary way, with the burden of your insecurities, imperfections, and every darn thing that stands on your way and tries to halt you. There’s no other way out.
One of the mistakes which you make by asking these questions is empowering your fears.
After which, you allow your weaknesses to win. You surrender yourself to your failures and stop trying. You murder your hopes and put an end to your journey.
Start asking the right questions
The next time question someone regarding how you feel or about you dreams, pause and reflect. Chances are you might be already aware of the reasons why you’re questioning and don’t want to admit the doubts and fears hiding somewhere deep within your thoughts.
Ask the right questions. The wrong ones can slowly poison your dreams to death.Be keen about what you ask to yourself.
Once you focus more on your work and start acting on your dreams, you won’t ask much questions. You’ll have become capable of clearing-off your doubts.