Can’t vs Don’t

Indecision and inability are two distinct things.

  •  You can’t leave social media or you don’t want to?
  • You can’t learn investing or you don’t want to?
  • You can meditate or you don’t want to?

There are no wrong or bad answers to these questions.

The point is to clearly state what matters more to you and accept it, the good and the bad. That way, you can make peace with yourself by owning your decisions.

When we say can’t instead of don’t

Sometimes we say that we can’t do something when what we really mean is that … we don’t want to.

Why do we confuse those two things though? I believe it’s because we don’t want to face the guilt that arises when we put our plans on hold.

Saying that we don’t want to do something holds us accountable for our failures, which can be tough. Opposite to this, saying that you can’t instantly makes you appear hopeless, where nothing much can be expected of you.

So then, what resolves this?

Most of the time, it’s okay to realize that you’re merely being lazy and accept your flaws, as opposed to assuming that you’re incapable.

The first idea, although unpleasant, makes you accept the truth. The latter wrecks your morale, which can leave a lasting impression on you.