The Unconventional Perspective
You know that feeling, right? When you feel like you can do what you’re planning, and become blind to all your doubts and probabilities of failures.
You begin to feel like you’re infallible. Nothing can drag you down. And even if something can, you won’t let it get you.
“We’re living in a time where everyone is trying to stand out of the crowd, and yet, tries hard to be noticed by the same crowd.”
People try all that they can to gain some attention.
They purchase the priciest thing with a shiny label on it, they do things other people cannot do to show their giftedness, they change themselves for the sake of impressing others, and sometimes they even give up their own identity.
Some people have other ways, too. They act like movie stars and flaunt all that they’ve got. They try really hard. They want to be cool, but they only mislead themselves.
Perhaps, they’re deceived by their own thoughts.
But then, what does it even mean to be a cool person?
We’re all fundamentally the same. Ordinary people who expect simple things such as respect, love, and appreciation.
We adore the ones who treat us fair and we spend more time with them. The people who make us feel special become an inseparable part of our lives. In return, we treat them similarly.
We don’t mind the flaws of the ones we love. Neither do we try to change them. All we do is plainly accept them the way they are.
The fact is, no matter how rich you are, how better you look than others, or how powerful your presence is – if you’re fake and cannot put a smile on others’ face, there’s no use to what you own.
So who is really cool? Overall, the ones whom we adore and have a regard for, are cool.
There’s only one quality which separates what we call cool people from the rest – they aren’t defined by what they have but rather by what they are.
For instance, sometimes I look at my mentors or idols and I wish I could be like them. But that isn’t because of what they own. I genuinely have a regard for them. There’s something that makes them stand out. That’s how all cool people are. What they do, think, or talk about is all a part of their identity.
Have you ever observed someone and thought “Wow! This person is fantastic. I want to be like him.”
That’s the way you think about cool people. You want to be like them. You wish to absorb all their good qualities like a sponge. In short, cool people are those whom you want to be like.
However, the people who you think are cool might be ordinary to some others. And those whom you see as normal may be heroes to someone else.
So how can you find out who is really cool? Observe people. If they many of the eleven qualities listed below, or even a few of them, then chances are that they’re cool.
The people who inspire others are equally exposed to pressure as anyone else.
Yet, they don’t stress out.
They understand the significance of staying under control when circumstances force them to burn out. They also know that the situation might worsen otherwise.
So they relax.
They don’t get plagued by problems and rather focus on finding solutions instead of getting horrified. Although others think that they’ve got nothing to worry about, they’re actually hiding their problems instead of crying them out or complaining about them.
Cool people always deal with problems this way.
They come up with solutions.
Those who inspire others are innovative as well as keen on simplifying work.
They don’t believe in laboring hard without a purpose, and they use their time and resources productively. Doing hard tasks simply using their smarts is their strength. They’re creative and keep looking out for new ideas.
When others look at how easy they make everything look, they respect them.
What makes you want to be like your idols? They inspire you.
They bring out the best in you by showing trust in your potential and encourage you not only with their words but also with their actions.
They strive to take you at a greater level. Real life cool people always believe in enhancing the potential others have by leading them.
They don’t see a competition. Instead, they just keep hoping that everyone prospers. They help others rise by inspiring them.
When it comes to the working abilities of these cool people, they’re incredible.
They know their business well and are usually the gods in their arenas.
They don’t let anyone remind them of their business since they’re always hell-bent on learning and improving themselves.
They might suck at other activities sometimes, but the skills which they master are unquestionable. They always nail what they do. They’re the infallible masters.
They may not necessarily be perfect, but they give their best. Always. That’s what separates them from the rest.
All thought leaders are rebels by nature. They don’t care about the authority as long as they’re right.
They keep doing their good work without getting affected by the criticism or praises.
What matters the most to them is working hard and going on regardless of what others think of them.
They don’t let anything interfere in the path to their dreams. If they did, then they wouldn’t be doing what others often fail to do.
When you think they’ll just talk, they make you wonder in awe. That’s how cool people are. They create an aura around themselves.
They choose wise words which pierce your mind, they make you tumble with their humor and tell stories which touch your heart.
They might not always talk or be social, but when they are, they win over hearts.
They can almost step inside your mind while sharing and make even the simplest of things look wonderful. Real life cool people know how to express themselves and create a touch that lasts.
To them, all are equal and they treat everyone fair.
They smile at the inferiors, don’t make anyone feel timid, and they don’t boast.
To them, simplicity is a virtue. They stay connected to their roots and have a mindset which wishes for the welfare of all.
Humility is what makes them lovable to others. The more they achieve, the more they understand the value of struggles, victories and the presence of others.
When people are loyal to their work, you want to be like them.
The person who sweats hard and works passionately for his dreams is always attractive.
A hard worker always inspires others to work hard and makes them want to chase their dreams.
When you see someone who works hard, you find his dedication to his job cool, and then, you wish to be like one. Real life cool people are the ones who have fun doing their work and treat it like play.
They don’t hate what they do, unlike most people.
Their joy lies in grinding harder and getting better each day.
The people who rise to the top from nowhere and taste success also understand the role of a few helping hands.
In the time of uncertainty, one genuine attempt of help can prevent dreams from withering and save someone’s hope.
So, the cool people try their best to be of any help they can.
They help others, keep the optimism alive, and also save the fragile belief that the world is still a good place. They donate, they serve people with their work, and they perform tiny deeds of kindness each day.
The people who inspire others are honest and speak their heart out.
They prefer saying the truth over misleading or lying, and neither do they trick people to take their advantage or use them for their own motives.
They don’t conceal enmity and pretend to be good. Rather, they express what they feel, however blatant, and resolve the issues they have with others. Their actions are as transparent as a crystal and their words are truthful.
When you’re with them, you don’t need to find out their character – they show it to you by being honest.
Like everyone else, they too think about themselves, but they put others first.
In every action they take, they also think about the welfare of others and don’t do anything which would harm someone.
For the people they love, they make sacrifices and do all that they can. They become a shield to the weak and a servant to the helpless.
In the course of putting others first, they might fall back often, but they don’t leave themselves behind. The good things they do end up making them better humans and give them a lasting satisfaction.
To them, it’s their cool thing.
The people whom we adore and wish to be like are as ordinary as everyone else. The only thing which separates them from the rest is that they seek the good in others.
Sometimes, they make us wonder and think “How can someone be so kind!”
Also, they’re sincere to their dreams, loyal to whom they care about and faithful to themselves. Everything they do is a manifestation of their love. Whether it be their love for their work, for their people, or for themselves.
They inspire all the beauty which is hidden in others, and that’s the only reason why we wish to be like them. They make us believe that we too can be as worthy as they are.
There’s something about the people whom you see as cool. Although they might not be the best or popular, you still have a deep regard for them.
I would love to hear from you your own definition of cool people. Like, what kind of people do you find cool and inspiring? Please leave a comment.
Life’s good, in spite of all its flaws. I have no complaints about it. That’s what I’ve taught myself, or would ask anyone to do – to appreciate it the way it is and welcoming it with open arms and a nice smile on the lips.
This attitude probably doesn’t solve all the problems, yet, it makes life easier. However, things don’t always work the way we want.
There seem to be tons of talks about finding passion the internet; I agree with them. Not all, but some of them. If you can find something you love doing in life then you can be happier. It makes sense to me.
“If you’re a dreamer, someone hoping for a nicer future, or just another person in the crowd wishing to make his life better – then you’re not nuts to think so.”
You’re not nuts.
Even if think you are, you aren’t.
The truth is, you’re darn mighty. You’ve already what it takes to achieve, and if you’re enough determined to follow your dreams – your dreams will come true.
What you hide deep within your heart, the hopes you don’t show to the world and the desire you seek to accomplish but don’t reveal due to your fears can all become a reality.
But for that to happen, you’ll have to do one thing.
Just one thing.
People have dreams.
Almost all people silently keep wishing in their hearts.
But at the same time, they’re also fearful and dubious. They have no clue where they should start. To them, it’s hard to do what they cannot even imagine. What’s harder for them is trying.
How can they do what seems beyond their limitations?
Here’s a truth – they can, but they don’t.
Everyone else can, including you and me. No one ever comes to stop us. We’re free. It’s up to us to decide what we want to be.
If you dig a bit deeper, you’ll know that all we need to do to accomplish our dreams takes nothing more than hoping and working for it. That’s all there is to it. No secrets. You get what you want when you put in the efforts. You don’t when you sit still and keep whining.
Try.
Keep trying.
Your dreams need your efforts. They’re already waiting to occur. All you have to do is keep doing all that you can until you can have the odds on your side. All this might not happen immediately. But eventually, things only get better.
You can always trust your efforts.
How many?
The ones you have around yourself who keeps blabbering about how useless it is to even try or have ideas that are beyond your reach. Did they ever do anything by themselves? They don’t have the right to say that dreams don’t come true unless they’ve tried.
Do you say you have a dream?
Did you try achieving it?
Allow me to be a little harsh, but your dreams won’t come true if you don’t put in the efforts. There may be a lot of valid reasons to justify why you haven’t begun yet, but they don’t matter. What matters the most is whether you’re trying or not.
You don’t have money, time or company of other successful people. So? What are you trying to state? Do you want others to sympathize with you? They do.
But that won’t help you grow. In the end, it’s just about how far you can manage to push yourself in spite of your difficulties.
But people don’t want to accept it.
They think of themselves as losers even before trying and don’t do what it takes. “It’s tough and doesn’t make sense anyway,” they tell themselves and quit forever without giving a second thought.
Who is it that kills your dreams? No one but you, if you aren’t really trying.
Only if you try.
You don’t have to do something huge. Start small. Take little steps. That’s the place where everyone starts. And it’s always good as you don’t have much to lose.
When you try, you don’t remain a novice forever. You keep getting better over time and ultimately become a skilled master at whatever you do.
Perhaps, you might end up becoming the next big deal. And even if you don’t, there’s no need to feel ashamed, because you get closer to your dreams and become capable of doing what you love for the rest of your life.
When you’ll look back, you’ll realize how far you’ve come. That’s the sweetness of making efforts. It’s always fair to you.
When you embark on your journey to making your dreams a reality, you need to do a lot of unpleasant tasks. Sometimes you take risks and lose a lot. Other times, you do what makes ashamed of yourself.
You’ll have to make sacrifices and be a social oddball. But that’s part of the road which leads you to your dreams. Everyone needs to go through this. You cannot avoid it.
So try, as everything gets better when you try.
Most people don’t start. Ever.
Isn’t it cowardice? Doesn’t it seem like being unjust to yourself?
You’ll stay at the stage where you’re supposed to begin if you wait for perfect circumstances and don’t dare to start small.
You can’t be too careful. Make your own mistakes. Let yourself look odd to others if that’s necessary. Open up yourself to criticism. Be vulnerable. The things you overthink matter only as long as don’t put in your efforts.
Once you start, you get the courage to go on. After which it’s hard to stop you. You abandon all your fears and go on in spite of your doubts and difficulties.
Don’t worry about getting everything right in your first attempt. No one gets it right in the first attempt. Some do – but even they need to work hard. No one is an exception to this rule.
You cannot tell whether you’ll succeed unless you attempt.
However, chances are, if you put in enough efforts, you will thrive. No doubt. Hard work is never wasted. Every bit of effort does something good to you.
For now, begin.
Be easy on yourself. Dare to be bad at what you do. But don’t hold yourself back. The sooner you start, the greater your chances of succeeding are.
Aim for a set of milestones. Dreams never happen all at once. They take time to occur. Try to achieve small chunks of milestones first. Then set some new ones and follow them. Keep going this way and don’t stop. It works.
Ask any successful person who inspires you. It’s always the small things you do which add-up in the long run.
Success is in not stopping.
Focus on making gradual growth.
If you can do this, you won’t need to quit. People quit when their only reason is gaining outcomes and nothing else.
They feel elated for a few days but then fail to go further. Soon, they get disappointed when they don’t see any success on their way. They get tired and they quit.
If your dream is stuffing loads of money in your bank account, buying luxury cars, or getting ahead of everyone else, then you’re likely to quit.
It isn’t wrong to have aspirations, but you shouldn’t let them control you. Instead, if you’re a passionate person, you can go on forever in spite of failures and become infallible at what you do.
Because when you work for passion, you don’t fear to lose. Your joy lies not in the outcomes but your efforts. When your efforts make you happy, it’s easy for you to work harder. And when you work hard, you’re likely going to succeed.
Your chances of turning your dreams into a reality depend much on the effort you put in. If you go on doing valuable work, your chances of succeeding will only increase.
There might be other aspects to your success as well, such as opportunities, lack of resources and other things. Yet, the effort comes first. So keep inching forward. That’s how all people reach where they want to be.
I know what it feels like being a dreamer.
Sometimes, it’s just miserable.
Not because I fail or due to some other reason. Failures are obvious when you’re a dreamer. You do a lot of things and most of them don’t work. Indeed, it takes sweat and tears.
Yet, these hard things aren’t what hold back dreamers. There’s something else that induces fear in them and prevents them from embarking on their journey to their dreams.
To be honest, all dreamers are weak, insecure and doubtful. They think of themselves as fools.
I do. Everyone else who thinks big does. We don’t see ourselves as normal. If you dream, welcome to the pack of people who are lost.
We don’t know where we’re going as weren’t given any maps or signboards to follow. So we create our own roads – and then we walk on them.
The world.
It’s not used to seeing dreamers succeed yet.
When you dream, you don’t make sense to others. You try to do something that’s beyond your abilities and current potential. You look pathetic.
Others see you as a pitiful person affected by the successes of some other people. A hopeful fellow struck by some inspirational words written in books.
Especially in the beginning, when you have no successes to tell, you resemble a clown. You’re a good joke to the whole world.
They pretend like they understand you even if they don’t. They ignore you. A lot of them won’t help you although they can. As time passes, your surroundings get you. They do their work and induce a clump of negativity in you.
After which, you see yourself as others see you – impractical and helpless. The way dreamers are treated makes them quit.
People who inspire you have been where you want to be. They’ve experienced the struggles you haven’t yet seen. And they know that needs to be paid for having a dream.
What do you think people mean when they mention persistence, struggles, risks and dedication again and again? They say truth.
Dreams are unpredictable.
Sometimes you may succeed and feel elated. Other times you may fall flat on your face feel like a loser. And it goes on like this in circles. Each day. And it’s hard to keep going while all this happens to you.
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Each day you need to convince yourself that your efforts are worth your dreams even if you aren’t able to see a slight spark of faith. You’re given a hundreds of reasons to quit which welcome you to quit.
The people whom you trust the most may end up telling you that you’re just duping yourself. It hurts. The words of others are so powerful that they may make you quit. I need to tell this to you – be prepared for the worst.
Save your dream from the world. Do whatever you need to do for that. But don’t let the world overpower you. It’s a trap.
Because dreams come true.
That’s the only reason I have.
Know that feeling which you get when others ask you for advice or share their dreams with you? They seem poor to you.
You don’t want to break their heart, and neither have you wanted to disappoint them by saying the truth.
You may try to convince them with kind words or explain your concerns in a kind manner, while all you feel like saying is, “Get real. There’s not even a slight chance that you’ll succeed.”
I’ve been there.
I’ve been one such dreamer, and I’ve also met some others. I know how it feels when people come to you with gleaming eyes and expect you to assure them about their success.
Some keep talking. Others ask for advice and remain in the clouds. They never try.
However, there are some real dreamers. The ones who are sincere about what they say and prepared to give all that it takes.
All they need is a slight push from you so they can believe in their dreams – because they’re vulnerable.
They don’t stop, work hard and go on in spite of their struggles. So when people ask me whether their dreams might come true – I don’t state the odds. I let them know that if they’re willing to do something then they should do it. No matter what.
Sometimes I ask questions like “are you passionate about what you’re doing?” I ask them their plans to make them think for themselves. But I never tell them that their dreams won’t come true. It’s a sin. I would feel shameful about myself if I murder their hopes.
A truth I know about dreamers is that almost all of them start from zero as novices who know nothing.
But eventually, as they work hard and pursue tiny milestones. Their achievements add-up to their overall success. And while doing so, they set themselves on a journey which ultimately leads them towards glory.
They face their own share of struggles and fail often like any other dreamer. But in the end, everything that they do pays off. Those dreamers succeed.
You’re left to wonder in awe how they did it. Gradually, they end up doing what you once thought was impossible.
They all get better. No one remains imperfect forever. So instead of telling people their dreams might not come true, show them that you trust them.
Dreams don’t always make sense in the beginning. Yet, keep playing your part.
Although, you cannot control circumstances or bring the desired outcomes, you can keep trying until you get closer to your goals.
All dreams start this way.
So if you’re still hesitant and haven’t started, then here’s a reminder – you can succeed if you’re ready to put in the effort.
Finally, while you’re busy following your dreams, help others who are like you. They need you.
What inspires you to chase your dreams?
What are the problems which you often face?
I would like hearing from you in the comments. Maybe, tell me about what is it that you love doing.