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The Best Way to Make Life Easier

The best way to make life easierLife is hard sometimes. Far more complicated than we think.

It’s rumpled and tangled; beyond imagination.

The plans you make turn out to be laughable when a catastrophe strikes you. A disheartening event is enough to snatch a smile off your face. A loss can make you hopeless.

If you’re a delicate person, a simple thing as words might break you.

When you watch some truths reveal themselves to you each day, life seems like an odd tale no one told you about.

Often, it is a bitter truth. A pathetic joke. Not as soft as you thought it would be.

Or maybe you knew that life isn’t fair but you weren’t prepared to face this truth either.

What others think

I asked my acquaintances to define life in just one word. Here’s how they did it. (I loved hearing the answers from all these creative people. Thanks for helping me out guys, you’re awesome!)

Life is ___.

  • Adventure – Amogh Chivate
  • Amazing – Meghna Wankhede
  • AWESOME – Kenny Vandenberg
  • Beautiful – Harshita Chaudhary
  • Bitch – Manisha Rajotiya
  • Blessing – Lalit Mistry
  • Canvas – Priti Kulkarni
  • Commitment – Sadhana Gaikwad
  • Complicated – Utsah Ostwal
  • Dream – Rushikesh Vaidya
  • Enchanting – Mayur Deshmukh
  • Fabulous – Harikesh Shinde
  • Good – Manisha Gaikwad
  • Journey – Sayalee Raut
  • Mystery – Ravina Suthar

It’s wonderful to see how we all look at life so differently, isn’t it?

However, I learned one simple thing about life while reading all these answers – how we look at life depends on how life happens to us.

Your thoughts about life keep changing. When something great happens to you, you feel blessed to be alive. And when something goes wrong, you see life as a miserable thing. You views about life change as life changes. 

This is what makes life tough

Everything that happens to you changes the way you see life.

As you grow up and find you own ways to deal with difficulties, you begin to see life through your own perspective. The perspective which acts much like a glass only you can see through.

All the events shape you and show you the truths. As you grow up, you find your own ways of living.

However, no matter how you live your life, you’re not much different from others.

You become insecure when you realize that you cannot control everything. Losing teaches you how vulnerable you are.

You notice your fragility when something happens against your will, and your limitations expose your weaknesses.

These are some undeniable truths about life. Learning these truths is what makes life look hard.

Life is meant to be hard

I don’t like to say this either, but yes, life is hard.

Sometimes you’re broke and can’t go on. It becomes hard to hold on to dreams amid a place where hope only decays with each passing day and circumstances force you to quit.

No matter how hard to try to make things happen your own way, there comes a time when you have to realize that you’re not strong enough to control everything.

Sometimes, all you can do is quit and let go.

Though, don’t think that you’re a loser or victim when you’re fighting against the odds.

It’s nothing more than accepting life. With all its flaws and challenges. As it is.

You can only feel joy when you deserve what you get earn your goals with your hard work.

The dreams you wish to pursue come to you only after you’ve made several sacrifices and surrendered yourself completely to them. Pains are always an inseparable part of life.

No matter what your thoughts about an ideal life might be, a part of life always remains irreparable.

Money can’t always bring happiness. Having everything you need doesn’t mean you’ll succeed. Lack of chaos cannot guarantee that you’ll work hard.

Turn around life, change it, fix it – yet it remains as it is.

Maybe you shouldn’t change life. Just adapt yourself to change with it and accept everything that comes on your way.

The best way to make life easier

There’s a way to fix life and ease it forever. To cast away all the confusions, forget all the sorrows and put an end to all the sufferings.

If you wish to improve your life, you can do it at once. Or maybe know how to do it and then improve it slowly. All the answers you seek are already within you.

You don’t need someone else to guide you to do it, or spend money to buy more self-help books.

It isn’t necessary to know what your religion teaches you – you have a tendency which is a wisdom enough. Perhaps, god gave you that tendency.

It’s not that can put an end to your heartbreak, prevent your loved ones from dying or keep yourself from getting broke. Those are the inevitable parts of life.

But there’s something within you which can inspire you to rise again, heal you, and help you to live your life the way you want. Peacefully, happily, and easily. The way you want.

Listen to your feelings.

Your feelings are the untainted truths which come straight from your soul and heart. Listen to them. Don’t manipulate them. Act in accordance with your feelings and your life will be a lot easier.

[ctt template=”3″ link=”iKtUa” via=”no” ]“Listen to whatever your feelings say; they barely lie.”[/ctt]

This is how life happens

All the mysteries about life are often simple. The great things you behold don’t have any secrets.

If you pay close attention, you’ll learn that the actions of people are often a manifestation of what they feel.

  • How a passion starts

    No one is born with his passion already known to him. He finds it when he listens to the voices that guide him from within.

    Finding your passion depends on you. Either you can choose to suppress what your heart tells you by being practical, or choose a path which leads you towards your goals. Your choices make you.

    When you were a child and thought about painting, maybe you should have kept painting. But since you didn’t, you never became a painter.

    If you would’ve have listened to your heart, you could have become a painter along with doing your day job.

    The world doesn’t have power to keep you from following your passions, you do that by holding yourself back.

    If you still have a passion, it might be a good thought to act on it again. You might fail, but that won’t be a shameful thing. At least you’ll have tried.

  • How you learn truths

    Life is often spent in pretending.

    The more you pretend to others and to yourself, the farther you’re dragged from the truths.

    If you keep pretending for too long you lose your identity and feel lost.

    Others’ appreciation may be fake, your accomplishments won’t necessarily make you happy, and living the conventional life isn’t the only destiny you have.

    However, if you seek the truth, you may find what you want.

    When you realize that you were living a life you knew less about, you find truth. You can either choose the path of truth, or get back to the same old worn out life.

    That moment is precious when you find a truth about yourself. It’s like a fine line which can take you away from the world you live in to the world you want to live in.

    If you have enough courage, you cross to the other side. If you hesitate don’t and your life remains the same. It’s up to you.

  • How you become wise

    Wisdom. No one actually knows where to get it.

    Everyone is trying hard though. To be wise, mature, and become someone who can prevent making mistakes in life. All wish to be the guy who doesn’t stumble in the walk of life.

    But you only become wise when you learn from your own lessons.

    Learning from others’ mistakes doesn’t always work. You need to make your own mistakes. Those are the only best teachers. Even if you don’t make them, they happen to you.

    Mourn, cry, grieve, and let go. Make a mistake, learn from it and move on. That’s the only wisdom there is.

    The moment you understand what went wrong and decide to fix it, you become wise. When you find out enough fixes, you grow wiser. 

  • How adversities make you

    We all have our own hell to deal with.

    You may have suffered a lot, spent days in isolation, and reminisced your regrets.

    Hardships get to everyone. They’re inescapable.

    But there’s a good thing about them. They help you in getting your life back on track. You only fear those hard knocks in life as long as you’re safe.

    Once you become vulnerable and weak, you stop running away from what dreads you. You don’t fear, you don’t hide – you tackle.

    Adversities change you. Your desire to escape the adversities molds you into someone better than before.

  • How you find love

    You discover that you’re being loved when you’re accepted by others.

    The people who love you don’t judge or change like the rest of the world. They accept you with all your flaws, and with them, you feel valued.

    Love makes you honest, open and truthful. Love turns you into a better person. When you love people – you grow.

    You become capable of making sacrifices, you work harder for whom you care, and above all, the love you have in your part of life is enough to inspire you.

    No one falls in love by choice; it’s your heart and feelings that always take you to the right people.

  • How innovations are done

    Innovations are done when you wish to make a change or try to find a purpose behind all that happens.

    The habit of innovating and simplifying things is like an itch that doesn’t go away until it’s scratched.

    Most of the innovation comes out of dissatisfaction. Innovations are done by the people who cannot sit still.

    They want to simplify what they know can be simplified. They don’t settle with inconvenience – they wreck it.

    Isaac Newton could have ignored the apple, Archimedes could have stayed in the bathtub, Steve Jobs could have followed the norms – but they didn’t.

    Once an idea to innovate something strikes you, you can either find a purpose in it and reveal something great, or plainly ignore your feelings.

  • How dreams are accomplished

    Pursuing dreams is a crazy thing.

    It’s about believing when you have no reason to believe, choosing hope over probability, and working on what doesn’t make sense.

    When you have a dream, you work even when the chances of your success are zilch.

    You deal with the unimaginable and try to subdue your limitations. You risk all that you have and give all that you can.

    Nothing is assured either. You might fail, you may get nothing out of your work, or you may even have to deal with misery. Yet you go on.

    Dreaming makes you selfless and audacious. You don’t care about what comes on your way or about the circumstances that follow. You’re prepared for everything.

    But then, everything you do pays off.

    The tiny accomplishments, gradual moments of development, and all that you’ve done come together to turn your dreams into a reality. The insensible things start making sense.

    Where does the journey to chasing dreams begin? With the tiny impulses within you which demand you to act.

    If you follow those impulses, you might find your dream, or you can suppress them and pretend like you never felt anything.

Every feeling speaks on your behalf

Here’s a tiny secret – you’re wise. Wiser than you think you are.You have all the knowledge you need to lead a happy life within you.

But you can only realize your wisdom if you listen to your feelings.

If you pretend to be blind to what you feel and can’t hear the voice which your heart keep whispering to you, then you haven’t realized that wisdom yet.

  • Doubts – Your doubts stop you and confuse you. They make you anxious and incapable of making decisions. However, your doubts also form a fine line between your dreams and your limitations. When you abandon your doubts, you find courage.

    Doubting yourself makes you weak, yet, it’s what gives you a reason to find your inner strength. It prepares you for the worst.
  • Love – It’s pure and powerful. Thoughts don’t control it. You don’t make it happen. It happens by itself.

    You love what brings out the best in you. Your possessions, your people, your passion – all of them reflect who you are. Your love for what you do shows the change you want to create.

    Your love for people tells how you want to be treated in life and what others can expect from you.Your dreams, your friends, and your things are what give you a purpose.

    When you have love for nothing in life, you lose your purpose and feel lost. Love is what guides everything. Love is the purpose which inspires us to live.
  • Happiness – It’s more than a curve on your lips. When you’re happy, you express what you want your life to be like.

    Your first paycheck, discussing an old incident with your best-friend, and being with someone you care for – don’t these things make you happy?

    The next time something makes you happy, just understand that it might be something you have been searching for.Do more of what makes you happy. Stay with those who make you happy. Don’t let logic complicate life for you. It’s only your feelings that prove you’re a human.
  • Anger – Your anger is often innocent. At times, brash and violent. But it tells something. All your anger asks for is a change.You get angry yourself when you fail to change your life. Rage takes over you when others don’t act as per your will. You fret at life when it goes against your plans.

    All the anger filled within you is asking for a change. So take control of your life and bring a change instead of fighting with yourself every moment.Let go what doesn’t deserve to stay with you. Be mature. Just because you’re angry sometimes doesn’t mean you’re bad.Anger too is a part of who you are. Find out why you’re angry, change what needs to be changed and accept life. 
  • Guilt – Your guilt makes you feel ashamed. It smashes your self-esteem and reveals the flaws in you. You guilt makes you think of yourself as unworthy.But your guilt is a sign of the goodness within you. You only feel guilty when you admit what you’ve done wrong.Your guilt indicates how sorry you are about what went wrong and it also indicates how willing you are to fix it.Your guilt is what shows that you wish to release the past and hope start a new future.Forgive yourself. Move on. Life gives you enough chances, and your guilt only asks you to rise again.
  • Grief – You cannot appreciate the value of happiness without suffering. Grief makes you aware of truth. If no grief ever touches you, you stay weak and remain unaware about an important part of life.

    Tragedies strike everyone. Everyone has reasons to be sad. Yet, there are some simple lessons hidden behind all these miseries which life teaches us.
  • Hope – It is the silent reason which controls our life each day.

    If there’s one thing which keeps all of us alive, it’s hope. Each day we wake up thinking that something great will happen to us – even when there aren’t many reasons.

    We smile, work hard to get the fruits our persistence, and act with the expectations of getting outcomes. Would we all have done these things if we had no hope in us? No.

    Our hope defends us and prevents us from quitting when we’re at our worst. When we’re clinging to life, hope is what keeps us from falling. 

Conclusion

The best way to ease your life is to live a life based on what you feel. You heart is your best guide and friend.

If you ever find yourself lost or in pain, peek within – there’s always an answer to all the questions which make you restless.

What do you think is the best way to make life easier?

Do you do something to stay at peace amid the chaos of life?

Have you got any thoughts?

Share in the comments.

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August 27, 2016

What You Must Know About Starting out as a Dreamer

Starting Out as a Dreamer

 

The world is crowded with dreamers, and if you claim to be one, then you’re simply making the place even more crowded.

The truth is – your being a dreamer doesn’t matter.

If you’re wondering why I said what I just said, then read on.

Dreaming has become mainstream. Everyone loves to talk about changing the world due to the attractiveness of the phrase. People have begun to think that they can only succeed if they’re dreamers and there’s no other way to do so.

You’re asked to aim for the sky, and you plan to do so. You’re asked to influence thousands of people with what you do, and you plan to do that too, even without having an idea of how you’re going to do it.

But who gives a damn to how?

After all, you’re a dreamer (or perhaps superman), and hence you can do everything. Over. That’s the only clarification you need. No doubts to be entertained further. Right?

In case you’ve also began to wonder whether I’m a dreamer, then let me tell you that I proudly accept being one. If you were to whisper in my ear in the midnight to ask me whether I’m a dreamer, then I’d jump out of my bed, throw my hands in the air, and shout at the top of my voice “Yes I’m a dreamer.”

I like being a dreamer.

When I say that I’m a dreamer, I feel a kind of mutual relation with Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Walt Disney, Henry Ford, and Stephen Hawking, which makes the concept of dreaming even cooler.

Why wouldn’t someone like to be a dreamer?

I don’t have a reason to not be one. As dreamers, we choose to not be ordinary, unlike others who might decide to settle.

Dreaming allows us to feel like we can own everything when we have nothing. It saves the optimist within us, and keeps us hoping even at our worst.

Your being a dreamer doesn’t matter

Dreaming is alluring but it has its own boundaries. Dreaming can keep you hopeful, it might make you imagine beyond the horizons, but there comes a time when you realize that dreaming isn’t enough and it takes something more than dreaming to ascend.

This is when you find out that your being a dreamer doesn’t matter until you start working on your dreams.

Your dreams push you, they refuse to let you sit still, your fantasies keep pinching you until you decide to turn them into a reality. That’s when your dreams transpire into the real world and become a reality themselves. When they’re acted upon.

[ctt template=”3″ link=”s2M97″ via=”no” ]“Your dreams don’t matter until you decide to turn them into a reality.” [/ctt]

The desire of doing something is severe. Once it enters your heart and mind, you’re ruled by it. It makes you restless.

Because of the joy of doing, you stop caring about failures, judgments of people or any other obstruction, and selflessly surrender yourself to one thing that matters to you the most – your dream.

 What matters more than dreaming

I believe in the strength of dreams and dreamers. Dreams make ordinary people perform wonders, whereas dreamers inspire others with their deeds by performing the role of trailblazers.

I wish that most people were dreamers in this world.

A world of dreamers will definitely better than the one which is filled with hearts that fear, minds that follow, and hands that are tied.

The old rites will veer only when people will be filled with courage that would inspire them to dream.

"We need more dreamers. Becuse the practical humans can only think what's obvious."

We need more dreamers. Because the practical humans can only think what’s obvious.

The world is full of people, from which a few dare to bend the rules and become dreamers. These people challenge what already exists. They’re the rebels who inspire others.

Out of those dreamers, quite rare ones will take their dreams seriously or think over their intentions. In reality, actions follow intentions.

Sadly, from those intentional dreamers, only few will take the step of working on their dreams. These dreamers will have the fulfillment of doing.

A scarce amount from the remaining dreamers who dare to start keep hustling even when others quit. They become the leaders, because they persist and last.

From those leaders, a few decide to never quit and keep holding on to their dreams till their last breathe. They become the ones who change the world.

You current state says a lot about you. Be among those who strive to change the world. That’s what your chances of success rely on. Surrender yourself to what you love doing and keep going.

Everyone has a dream, but only the real dreamers shall take the responsibility of turning them into a reality.

One thing which matters the most – starting

Most dreams won’t ever come true because they won’t ever be started, and yours might be among them. It’s a truth, no matter how offensive or disappointing.

Not every human has the guts to overcome self-doubt and start without giving a damn to what world might think of him. If success of dreamers was so easy, then everyone would’ve been one.

Most people love to call themselves dreamers and romanticize their successes. But as soon as the part of doing comes in, these fantasizers get thrown out. Facing the reality seems tough to them, because they find some unexpected truths about hard work, learning, and persisting.

At once their illusions break. They give up the idea of trying and never attempt starting due to some or the other reason. Perhaps they’re happy being the escapists, pretending to be dreamers, and completely give themselves into the habit of lying to themselves.

I emphasize on starting in most of my posts, hoping that one day a sincere dreamer might get touched by my words and decide to work on his dreams. This post is one of those attempts.

No matter how many times I shout out through my posts, some people won’t ever start. People feel quite awkward when they hear me talking excitedly about what it feels like to do what you love.

Most of the time it’s a bit odd. They react like I’m an alien who has just returned back from a wonderland and describing how it feels to be there.

I want them to feel the joy of starting and discover what they love, because what lies beyond starting a dream is beautiful.

Yes I sometimes behave like I’ve returned from a wonderland, but it’s because I’ve known each feeling and emotion that’s capable of making us do miracles.

Sometimes, I feel like a child who has found a treasure gold and keeps shouting with the hope of being listened.

“Hey look! It’s a whole pot of gold here,” I say, and people plainly ignore my words regardless of the truth that I speak. And to whom does it cause a loss?

In short, the world of dreaming is divided into two parts:

  1.  Where dreams take birth.
  2.  Where dreams happen.

Most people get stuck in the first part, and never make it to the latter.

Here’s a great truth I’ve learned – If you somehow manage to enter the second part, you’ll be already ahead of most of the people. Don’t believe me? Try doing it.

Some people won’t ever start

Certain people don’t start any sooner because they barely know what their dream or passion is. It’s alright and I won’t blame them for their confused state.

Confused Dreamers

But the people who are exactly sure about where they want to be but don’t even move an inch to get there, are surely creating a reason to regret for themselves.

In their world, there’s nothing more than dreaming.

Such dreamers know where they want to be, but don’t try to learn how. They want to achieve, but clearly refuse to put in the required effort. They wish to get where they want to be, but decide to stay where they are.

[ctt template=”3″ link=”4a4fT” via=”no” ]“Some people won’t move ahead because they’ve decided to stay where they are”[/ctt]

Don’t be among those who belittle their own dreams by never acting upon them. You’re supposed to start somewhere, anyhow, so that you can have the privilege of cutting-off the gap between your dreams and actuality.

You won’t be talking or thinking about your dream anymore. You’ll be actually working on it.

But there are some reasons why numerous dreams wither and die even before seeing the light of the day.

Here’s what prevents dreamers from starting

Dreamers fail when they don’t start, they fail when they start but don’t continue, and dreamers fail the moment they stop.

This stopping is rarely intentional. No one likes to stop.

People go into the pause-state against their will. The circumstances and some other reasons push them into the dark corners, where they stay motionless and hardly come out from there to act on their dreams. They simply get used to staying there.

But stopping is rarely due to external influences, and has more to do with the inner feelings.

A few causes that prevent people from starting are stated below

Fear flows in the blood of dreamers. It haunts everyone who starts, and it arouses anxiety. The courageous ones dare to carry on in spite of fear, while others keep waiting for their fear to disappear before starting.

If you wish to succeed, you cannot afford to stay still. You need to keep moving anyhow, even when you’re scared.

Doubts will keep whispering in your ears to remind you of your weaknesses. Doubts will always make you feel vulnerable and insecure. To cure doubts, find out the weaknesses within you and work on improving them, as the seeds of doubts are sown by the inabilities within.

If it doesn’t work this way, ignore your doubts and keep moving anyway. The desire for perfection is what most people chase and use as an excuse to not start.

They wait to achieve a certain level of mastery just to make a perfect start but often forget that actions don’t follow perfection, and that it’s the other way around.

Waiting for the right time is another severe illusion among dreamers. It’s merely an idea that suggests to keep waiting for right circumstances, perfection, proper emotional state, and god knows what else until you finally find yourself in a proper state of starting.

If you’re among those who keep waiting for the right time, then chances are that you’ll keep waiting.

Beginning early matters

Leonardo da Vinci apprenticed Verrocchio when he was 14. Warren Buffet purchased his first stock at the age of 11. Mozart began playing in public when he was just 6 years old. Michael Jackson led Jackson 5 when he was 5, unlike us who were chanting twinkle-twinkle at that age.

I’m not trying to overwhelm you by saying that you’re late, but reminding you that the time is slipping rapidly and you need to make a decision quickly. To decide whether you’re on the side of turning dreams into a reality or not.

You can wait until you feel the need of a walking stick or delay until your hairs turn grey, but that won’t be a fair idea. People use the words “it’s never too late” just to keep the late-bloomers hopeful so that they might at least do now what they should have done earlier.

I want to tell you something – it’s already late, and it’s getting late. Before life gives you regrets for not acting any sooner, better choose hustling.

When you start soon, you fail more, you make mistakes, and have your own experiences. You learn more and gather wisdom, you do more and advance towards perfection, and you gain early what requires people to spend their whole lives.

If you’ve already taken your first step, congratulations! If you haven’t, you know what you’re supposed to do. Start.

[ctt template=”3″ link=”55neK” via=”no” ]“Today is a good day to start”[/ctt] 
 

The whole life stands before as an opportunity itself. Do you see it?

How you divide the years that are yet to come and what you do in those years becomes a determining factor of happiness. Get rid of the default mind-set which only shows you the practical side and keeps murmuring to you the reasons of failures.

Even if you might fall flat on your face, trying is always worth it. Because if you won’t, you’ll become a loser who never had the courage of crossing the start line, and perished there itself.

Conclusion

Work on your dreams before you get reasons that prevent you from doing it in future. You present is like an opportunity standing before you wearing a mask. If you fail to recognize it before it goes away, you lose it forever.

Even the tiniest step you take counts. Slightest feeling of self-trust matters.

The seeds of dreams are to be drenched with sweat, sheltered from the storms of the world, and supplied with the rays of pure hope, or else they die.

Don’t just be a dreamer, but  also do what dreamers are supposed to do.

What is it that stops you? How do you wish to turn your dreams into a reality? I would love to hear back from you. Leave a comment below.

November 17, 2015

7 Impeccable Ways You Can Use to Be Wiser Than You Are

7 Ways to Be Wiser Than You Are

“By three methods we learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second by imitation, which is easiest; and Third by experience, which is bitterest.” – Confucius

I wonder why isn’t life gifted to us with a brain full of knowledge and a heart full of wisdom. Each time I face a difficulty or get stuck, I wonder that why are we supposed to learn life the harder way.

Ever since my childhood, I’ve been trying to become a better human. I don’t fail to learn anything which I think might improve the quality of my life, even if at a small extent.

But yet, every time I realize that life doesn’t ever become perfect. Life is unpredictable, and you cannot ever guess its next move.

  • If you don’t do things the right way, all that you get are regrets.
  • If you don’t plan in advance, what you get are failures.
  • If you don’t act early, you’re left to suffer.
  • If you don’t learn the basics of life, you’re kept from learning anything further.

But who knew all this?

Then I was a child, unaware of all these secrets and surprises life had to reveal. When life is normal and suddenly something goes wrong, it feels like someone has stopped the music you were listening to, and punched you right on your face. Yes it’s heartbreaking when life leaves us to some unexpected turns.

I wish that there was someone for me from beginning of my life who would have taught me not only about the subjects of school, art, or etiquette, but also about this thing called life .

However, what I’ve realized is that, that wouldn’t have worked either. I’ve learned a simple truth – life is meant to be learned. You need to make your own mistakes, fail several times, and stand again. It’s the right way of how life works.

If you live a completely based on others’ terms, it’s their life, not yours. Simple.

Also, one thought always keeps poking my mind. It stays inside me and makes me insecure by reminding me about itself. It disappoints me and makes me think sometimes that life is indeed a tough thing.

That thought is – by the time I’ll have learned to live, the time of my death would arrive. Although, I don’t about it as much I used to think in the past.

But life is such. After all, we weren’t born with a plan or instruction manual for ourselves. We learn to live, find what makes us happy, live our passions, and do all this by discovering the rules by ourselves.

We all start this life as idiots who know nothing. Slowly we learn, grow, and somehow find our own ways of living. That’s what I call wisdom. The wisdom that changes us along with the changes that happen in our lives.

You shouldn’t completely rely on someone else for wisdom. Whether it is your coaches, favorite self-help books, relatives, friends or anyone else. They all can only teach you, but it is you who has to learn and live.

Don’t you ever wonder that, why some people are wise, whereas others are still feeling lost?

If you don’t choose to be wise, you’ll always have to depend on others. Where did Buddha or Socrates get wisdom from? To be true, you have to be wise by yourself. Others can help you by giving you clues, but it’s you who has to use that help to become independent.

There are no ‘Wisdom Pills’ which would make you wise instantly or ease your life. If you don’t take a stand for yourself, then all I can think of is that you’ll have your bookshelves full of books, and hard-disks full of podcasts, and yet you’ll find an uneasy nothingness within yourself.
Don’t get me wrong. Think of all the people who inspire you to have a better life. The ones who ask you to follow your dreams or who publish a series of books. Were they born wise? No.

One simple truth which I wish I could shout out to the whole world is that we learn wisdom only by discovering ourselves, which isn’t a tough job either.

Don’t you ever think that your wisdom should be perfect. It should just be enough to help you in leading a happy living. Who knows if you might become capable of teaching it too?

These are the 7 impeccable ways of gaining wisdom

1. Introspection

You may also call it self-awareness or reflection. The habit of introspecting at regular intervals can bring a clarity to your life. It will clear off all your doubts about your dreams, relationships, job, or anything else.

All you have to do is that, just sit in peace, and dare to question yourself about everything. I bet if your questions won’t be followed by answers.

Ask all your what’s and why’s, and discuss them with yourself. The answers you have been searching for outside, will be found within.

It might sound indifferent to you, but I used to lie on my bed, bury my head under my pillow, and then introspect. And guess what? It works. Always.

2. Listen to your feelings

Your feelings act like the road signs in your life. They show you the proper directions and make your life easier. All you have to do is just pay a little attention towards your feelings, and listen to what they say.

Your feelings aren’t inside you without a reason. They’ve got a purpose for being there. If you ever feel a voice speaking within you or your thoughts conflicting with each other, know that it’s your feelings which are trying to show you the right path.|

The best thing about feelings is that they don’t lie.

3. Do what works for you

There’s a lot of advice out there. Which one should you listen to?

The infinite voices around you might not help you, but they’re definitely capable of leaving you in a confused state. Before you decide to get another piece of advice, try to find know what works for you.

What works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for the other. Try to find out what works for you in anything. This trick works universally in all aspects of life.

4. Observe

The whole world around you is a book of of wisdom. All the happy, depressed, wise, cruel, and other type of people stay here. This is the world which inspires artists to create art and philosophers to learn wisdom.

If you curiously observe everything around you, you’ll learn a lot. All the events occurring in your surroundings are live stories of something. Try to learn from them.

I learned chess by simply observing. I observe people to know more about them. I observe my own life to know what’s really going on in it.

Observation it another key to wisdom. You cannot deny its potential.

5. Learn from mistakes

Making mistakes isn’t really a big mistake, but not learning from them is.

Everyone around you makes mistakes but what separates the better people from the rest is that they learn from their mistakes.

Don’t only learn from your own mistakes but also learn from those of others, because life is too short to make all of them. If you find something wrong happening in your life, then chances are you might be doing something in a wrong way. Try to find the flaws in you and your work, and finish them to be a better yourself.

When people ask you to learn from mistakes, what they mean is that you don’t make the ones which you had made previously and improve what went wrong. These mistakes form the base of your experiences.

6. Embrace change

Get familiar with the changes that keep happening in your life. They’re never going to stop.
If you’ll run away from change, you’ll get closer to the negative side of everything and give yourself a big reason to be sad. Try to act a bit more courageously and adapt to the changes that are happening around you, this is the only proper way to survive happily.

We are made to change. Isn’t changing for betterment same as what we call progress? Accept the changes that make you better. There’s no point in resisting. Change your habits, change your work ethics, change your lifestyle – change yourself.

7. Never stop learning

It does not matter at what point you are in your life, there are always ways for making it even better.

You may be content with how your life is, but don’t prevent yourself from growing. Your life consists of several aspects in which you are intended to grow, and learning is the only way of doing it. With every tiny attempt that you make towards learning, you get closer to perfection.

Look back at your past and try to recall that how you used to be then? And look at what you are now. What was it that made you better? Obviously, it was your habit of learning.

How will you know whether you have become wiser than you were?

There are no standards for calculating wisdom, but you can tell whether you are wise by knowing yourself.

If you’re wise, you won’t feel lost. Your decisions might still be a little blurred, you may still doubt your dreams, but yet, you will be at peace. Because in your heart, you will know that everything will be alright since you’ll be wise enough to act for yourself and capable of making things better.

You will still read blogs and books, listen to podcasts, or attend conferences. But you will not do it because you’ll feel damned or depressed. Instead, you will do it out of your clear intentions of bettering yourself.

You will start believing in yourself, and become self-dependent.

What do you think makes us wise in life? I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment.

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July 14, 2015

5 Fears Which Don’t Let You Act on Your Dreams

Fears Which Don't Let You Act on Your Dreams
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” – Plato

It has been a few years since I’ve started working on my dream of becoming a writer. But now when I look back at the point where I had started, I wonder how I had even managed to start.

I don’t live in the midst of successful people having cheerful faces, who have achieved what they had once dreamed of, or who would inspire me to do the same. Instead, I doubt whether such people really exist apart from the ones whom I have seen on the television screen or read about in some books. I don’t see more than a handful of them.

To me, sometimes it seems like dreaming is a sin.

Why? Because the world makes me think so, people make me feel the same, and my insecurities are enough to end it all.

But I manage to go on, somehow, because my heart doesn’t understand such practical things. What I’ve learned is that we can survive failures with more ease than the guilt of not working on our dreams.

What our heart wants

  • It wants us to trust our faith more than our critics.
  • It wants us to take a leap even if it knows that we may fall.
  • It wants me us to give a shot, regardless of how good or bad we are.
  • It wants us to overcome our limitations by trying our best.
  • It doesn’t want us to quit before trying.
  • It doesn’t want us to accept being losers without pursuing our dreams.

Above all, it wants us to do the work which makes us happy, not for someone else but for ourselves.

In my journey till now, I’ve realized that what matters the most are our efforts. Though the outcome is crucial too, our work gives us the biggest contentment.

It doesn’t matter whether you succeed or fail, no one will be able to deny one fact – you tried your best.

In that case, even failures look equal to successes, because whatever be the results, they are because of our sincere work.

However, even when you start working on your dreams, you know that you might not be able to succeed. Neither is there any assurance that people would bother to help you.

But one thing cannot be denied – whatever you do will still make you happy, and that’s what matters the most. You will find a plenty of people who are experiencing the joys of chasing their dreams.

However, you will also come across the tribe of people who think that their dreams or ideas won’t ever work. These people are the ones who have already found some practical reasons and excuses for not working on their dreams.

In other words, they’ve decided to not ever start, and have also decided to fail by default.

You will often see such people talking about where and what they want to be, and also why they aren’t being what they want to be. Some among these are the ones who are really great at what they want to do and even deserve the opportunity to make their dreams into a reality.

But they won’t be able to make it until they start. What’s the point in being able when you don’t use your ability?

You might be among them too, if you haven’t started yet.

There’s one major thing which prevents people from starting for years, sometimes for a  lifetime – it’s fear. Here’s a list of 5 most common fears which every dreamer has to deal with.

1. Fear of starting

If you’re thinking about giving your best, making your dreams a reality but feeling almost paralyzed at the same time, then you’re not alone.

Even if we feel that we’re different from the rest, we aren’t. All other dreamers face the same kind of anxiety which is enough to drive anyone crazy. The ones who overcome it start in spite of the obstacles they need to tackle. And the ones who allow it to overpower themselves are left behind.

Starting is also the scariest part because it demands our trust while we are ourselves unsure of what we’re doing. However, like every other successful and content human, we need to start somewhere. Everything follows it later, whether it’s growth, success, ideas or something else.

2. Fear of being imperfect

The moment I gathered my courage, held a pen, and tried to write something, a voice inside me yelled that what I do won’t be that good.

“There are already thousands like me sitting out there who are doing the same thing, and there’s no more space for a novice like me,” I could hear my inner-critic say. I could’ve stopped at that moment and gave up forever, but I tried to ignore my imperfections and wrote my first short story, The Wishful Stone.

If I would’ve given up at that moment then it would’ve also lost my faith. Today, if I could be thankful about the one thing which I did in that particular moment was not holding myself back and doing what I could.

We all start as imperfect fellows. Slowly these imperfect beings try, learn, and put in their best to get closer to perfection, and that’s what makes them great.

Although we think we aren’t perfect, we get a chance to get closer to perfection. Each day. Making attempts to become perfect instead of quitting and scaring yourself to hell by thinking that you are not ready yet.

3. Fear of failure

Not doing something because you think you might fail doesn’t make sense. Not even gods can assure you success if you aren’t willing to take charge for yourself. Both your failures and successes make you better by teaching you, so shouldn’t you even expect failures?

You can only control your efforts, which in some way also means controlling the results. How good it would be if you could always win. Though, that’s not possible.
The remedy?
Always be prepared to embrace both failures and successes. Take a step further, risk being a loser, and start anyway.

4. Fear of rejection

Fear of rejection is the enemy of expression.

Our minds are filled up with questions which need to be abandoned at some point, because if we don’t, they become our biggest obstacles.

“I’ll somehow manage to write a book, but what if nobody likes it?” was one of those questions which haunted me each day. This was only one among hundreds of other questions I had in my mind. I had developed an habit of hammering myself with my flaws during those days. In some way, starting was always harder. But what I’ve learned after that is once you overcome that mindset, right things start happening to you.

We don’t speak the words which we think, we don’t perform the tasks that feel like doing, and then regret about not being our actual selves.

Nothing can make you happy if you snatch from yourself your real identity for the sake of being liked by others. Try to be what you are, even if you doubt that you aren’t good enough. It’s better than doing nothing or being fake.

When you’re a dreamer, you also have to be a rebel and break some rules. This might even mean doing something against the conventions which the world has set for you, escaping your limitations and what you think is right even when your people you against you to prove yourself right.

You can all this only if you overcome your fear of rejection.

5. Fear of  the unseen

“What lies beyond this?” is the kind of question which will always be there. Your insecurity forces you to reflect on your actions and asks you to check whether you are going astray in spite of the fact that it doesn’t make any difference. We dreamers don’t really know what we’re doing sometimes.
 
The road that leads you towards your goals is always blurred, and it unfolds it’s mysteries as you keep progressing on it with your actions. Eventually, you discover the unknown and soon become familiar with that creepy feeling which tries stopping you, and also learn to deal with it.

Wait for the suspense to break. What lies beyond is marvelous. You won’t ever get to know about the unseen unless you try to discover it. Your destination is right out there, it has something for you, but you won’t ever know about it if you quit.

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Conclusion

No matter how much insecure or awkward you feel – start.

Even if you think you cannot do something – try.

If you think you should be doing it – do it.
If you need to know something else, your heart is always there to guide you.
 

Dreaming isn’t only about expressing your materialistic desires or discussing impractical ideas endlessly. It’s about starting small somewhere and doing what is hard enough to be imagined.

The dreams that make you restless won’t ever happen unless you start.

Do you have a dream? Would you mind sharing it in the comments? What is it that often stops you and what is it that inspires you to go on? Let me know in the comments.

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July 1, 2015

How Thinking About Death Can Improve Your Life

 How Thinking About Death Can Improve Your Life
“I have no money, no resources, no hopes. I am the happiest man alive.” – Henry Miller

While you are looking at this screen and reading my words, I’d like to ask you a question.

Are you alive?

I am willing to know if you can answer me with a “yes.”

By using the word alive I’m not mentioning your physical existence but your whole life and every aspect of it. Wait and feel this breathe which you are taking in right now.

Recall some of the best experiences of your life when you felt like things were perfect and just couldn’t get better.

Does that make you smile? If not, recall something better. That was the time when you were alive. The time which was priceless.

Now focus on your current life. Is it the same or has something changed? I don’t whether you are as happier as you were then, but I guess that things might have changed a lot.

If you’re still as much happy as you used to be, then its a blessing. But if you aren’t, then there’s a reason behind it – life changes.

Life doesn’t always remain the same

Life changes unexpectedly. It’s unpredictable. You can’t even tell what might happen in the next moment.

In our lifetime, we face successes and failures, we feel joys and sorrows, sometimes we lose our loved ones or meet some new people, we go through financial barriers, and yet we manage to carry on somehow.

As they say – life goes on.

But I have a disagreement with that phrase. I don’t want life to just go on, instead I wish we could live every second of our lives. I also know that isn’t possible, but to some extent it can be done.

We’ve got this life to live, not just to exist and let it pass.

Sometimes I think we’re dead even if we claim to be alive. Our heart keeps beating just like the clock keeps ticking, without any difference. With every passing beat and tick, we lose life. We all pass our life pretty much like that.

Sometimes we aren’t really living

Everyone dies at some point in life. Not really though. But don’t our pains kill us by making our lives seem meaningless?

You die when you face the worst tragedies imaginable, when you have no control over what happens to you, or when when you’re forced to live in despair due to some painful incident. Yes you die when life seems to have no value of its own.

There comes a point when you feel like your being alive or dead doesn’t even make any difference. However, you still deserve to live with a head held high and can proudly wear a smile on your face.

After all, you don’t want to be wondering about how you had wasted the one life which you had got while lying on your deathbed. It might be your worst regret ever and you won’t even get a second chance to correct it.

You aren’t really living if

  • You are too busy judging people and don’t even make any minor attempts to understand them.
  • You don’t appreciate the small things in life and keep waiting for the heaven of your dreams.
  • You seek the wrong and unworthy things, and hardly recognize the worth of the ones which you’ve got.
  • You have got enough excuses for not doing things, and blames for the outcomes too.
  • You waste your time in proving yourself to others, even though it is useless.
  • You take criticism too seriously and ultimately lose your motivation for moving on further.
  • You don’t trust yourself and are easily shaken by the outer voices.
  • You quit before you dare to start and don’t take the leap of faith.
  • You don’t think that you’re born with a right to inspire, and keep yourself from bringing a change in others lives.
  • You keep waiting for your someday to arrive, and don’t even start.
  • You always underestimate your own identity, and keep waiting to be liked by others.
  • You hold yourself back due to lack of resources, and fail to take a stand for yourself or others.
  • You always keep comparing yourself to others, and then become stressed.
  • You don’t really define every term in your life, and look at things as they have already been defined by the world.
  • You don’t understand the value of  having values, and don’t have any principles of your own.
  • You don’t really have any priorities, and fail to hold on to what you value the most.

“What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?”
– George Eliot

Life is quite a big term itself. The above mentioned points signify just a tiny part of it.

But if you would ask me to summarize these in a short sentence, then it would be – do what makes you and others smile.

If both the cases contradict, use your wisdom to find a way out and do what is right. If you say that you’re alive, mean it. If that seems something difficult, try to do whatever you can to live happily.

Think about death

I’m not going to remind you that you are going to die. You already know that. Everyone dies.

Now tell me whether you want to be among those people who don’t realize the value of their life until death looks at them in the eye? Probably not.

We have a bad habit of taking our life for granted. We behave as if we are immortal.

You cannot really predict that which of your goodbyes will be the last, or what will be your last breakfast. At any moment death might strike you like a thunderstorm, and you still live as if you are unaware of this fact.

Think that it is now. The moment when you are going to die.You are unable to breathe, your heart is choking, you are losing control over your body, and want to escape this feeling somehow but you can’t.

You are thinking about everything that you will leave behind, your family, friends, money, hard work, respect, and much more.

You are thinking of your regrets, conflicts, relations, and some other things which you had made by yourself.

There are still some tasks which you feel are left undone. Still some words which are left unsaid. You want to tell some people words like “thank you” and “sorry.” You also want to clear some misunderstandings but you cannot do that.

Now while you are dying in this moment, you try to define your whole life within a few seconds which you have got, but can you? Maybe you’ll know the meaning and value of your life in that moment, but what’s the use of it now?

Yes you might die in peace, but wouldn’t it have been better if you had lived in peace?

You stay helpless like a loser, aware of the truth that everything’s gone now. You can’t move or say anything anymore. All you can do is to wait for the second of your departure.

You slowly experience some kind of blankness in your body, your eyelids get closer to each other and hiding what you can see, against your will, a drop of tear rushes out from the corner of you eye and then…silence. A full stop at the end of the whole journey of your life.

Over.

This was your life, which you get once, and which you lose once. The thing which was most valuable to you got snatched at once.

But guess what? You are lucky enough to be alive. You are able to read this, and still have a lot of time left to do your own thing and give your life a meaning. Come back to reality, doesn’t everything look anew after knowing what death might be like?

Now learn to live

Don’t be among those people who will try to find the meaning of their life at the last moment of their death. Instead make it meaningful from this moment. Turn your life where you want it to go, and put in it everything that makes it look beautiful to you.

Exploit every second and kill every moment. Give your life the value which it deserves by making everything the best for yourself.

Conclusion

The thought of death makes you realize the value of life. It makes you appreciate every breath which you have been bestowed with, and inspires you to make your life more meaningful.

Do you think that the thought of death can somewhat inspire a regard for life? What is it that inspires you to live your life to the fullest?

I’d be happy if you take some time to leave a comment.

May 25, 2015

Don’t Take Yourself and Life Too Seriously – Everyone Is an Idiot Here

Everyone is an idiot here
“I kept a diary right after I was born.
Day 1: Tired from the move.
Day 2: Everyone thinks I’m an idiot.”

– Steven Wright

Has it ever happened to you that something made you feel like you’re the only idiot in this whole world until you met someone who made you realize that you weren’t alone?

Then you might have high-fived each other and said in surprise “you too?”

How bad is that moment when you feel like an idiot, and how great is the one when you know that everyone else is too.

Let me clear it – idiocy is one of the fundamental qualities of all humans.

No matter how much sincere and disciplined you think the person next to you is, he is too an idiot. The same is with all other people.

You don’t need to feel like a retard when something goes wrong, neither you need to apologize for simple silly mistakes which you make, and nor do you need to wonder about whether everyone else thinks if you really are one.

Examples:

1. What do you think is the reason why people laugh at memes?
There’s a mutual stupidity which we all have in common, and that makes us laugh at stupid things. How stupid!

2. Have you ever observed people smiling without a reason? Well, they have a reason though. They smile for some crazy reasons and memories. After all, no one would laugh at the ordinary memories.

3. One more fact is that we like craziness. There’s hardly anything which is enjoyed as much as craziness. The strictness of an army, the brilliance of a scientist, or the craziness of your foolish friend, what would be a better reason behind your laughter among these?

There isn’t anything which can be used to measure the idiocy of humans. However, there’s one quality of humans which makes some people seem disciplined and sincere while others stupids.

It’s all about how much one expresses – yes you read it right. Let me repeat again, stupidity is just a matter of how much one expresses.

Suppose that you were watching a Superman movie and wondering why the superhero wears his underwear on his pants, alright?

Now others too might be thinking the same thing.

But just in case you ask the question that why does he wear underwear on his pants, who would be regarded as an idiot? Obviously you. You may even become the temporary clown and a good subject to laugh at.

Even others were thinking about what was going on in your head, but just because you expressed it, you were taken as an idiot, you see?

But expressing cannot make you an idiot, and neither hiding it make you a genius.

If you are an idiot, just know it

Do you know who is an actual idiot? The one who thinks that he’s not.

If you are an idiot, just know it. Don’t say you aren’t. Everyone is.

I don’t have any specific reason to tell you to be an idiot. But what I’m explaining is that even if you behave like one you don’t become one.

A little bit of Idiocy adds spice to life. If being somewhat an idiot can make you happy, be one.

If you are an idiot and you know it, then you’re not an idiot.

“I’m not afraid to look like an idiot.” – Anthony Bourdain

Should you be an idiot too?

Now let’s get a bit real. Do you enjoy idiots that much?

I’ll assume that you’ve said “Not that much.” If you answered “yes!” then I’ll suppose that you must be an idiot too and just ignore you.

Okay fine, I too agree that being an idiot is cool at times, and that everyone enjoys it. We all  love being idiots, but not always.

The world is already suffering due to the fools that exist. They’re intolerable and growing each day. Wait … I guess that I’ve already created a lot of confusion.

To be an idiot or to not is the question

If you are being an idiot, be less of it, and prevent becoming a total irritating jerk. That’s all.

Use your stupidity as table salt, always in proper proportion. Because some of it will always be useful for your humor, happiness, and for the people around you.

Conclusion

If you feel like an idiot, just know that everyone else is too. Idiocy is both your friend and foe. But if you use it wisely, then even this silly thing can add smiles to your life.
Be an idiot, somewhat.

May 22, 2015