Vishal Ostwal

I know what it feels like being a dreamer.

Sometimes, it’s just miserable.

Not because I fail or due to some other reason. Failures are obvious when you’re a dreamer. You do a lot of things and most of them don’t work. Indeed, it takes sweat and tears.

Yet, these hard things aren’t what hold back dreamers. There’s something else that induces fear in them and prevents them from embarking on their journey to their dreams.

To be honest, all dreamers are weak, insecure and doubtful. They think of themselves as fools.

I do. Everyone else who thinks big does. We don’t see ourselves as normal. If you dream, welcome to the pack of people who are lost.

We don’t know where we’re going as weren’t given any maps or signboards to follow. So we create our own roads – and then we walk on them.

What makes dreamers quit before they even start

The world.

It’s not used to seeing dreamers succeed yet.

When you dream, you don’t make sense to others. You try to do something that’s beyond your abilities and current potential. You look pathetic.

Others see you as a pitiful person affected by the successes of some other people. A hopeful fellow struck by some inspirational words written in books.

Especially in the beginning, when you have no successes to tell, you resemble a clown. You’re a good joke to the whole world.

They pretend like they understand you even if they don’t. They ignore you. A lot of them won’t help you although they can. As time passes, your surroundings get you. They do their work and induce a clump of negativity in you.

After which, you see yourself as others see you – impractical and helpless. The way dreamers are treated makes them quit.

All dreamers are vulnerable

People who inspire you have been where you want to be. They’ve experienced the struggles you haven’t yet seen. And they know that needs to be paid for having a dream.

What do you think people mean when they mention persistence, struggles, risks and dedication again and again? They say truth.

Dreams are unpredictable.

Sometimes you may succeed and feel elated. Other times you may fall flat on your face feel like a loser. And it goes on like this in circles. Each day. And it’s hard to keep going while all this happens to you.

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Each day you need to convince yourself that your efforts are worth your dreams even if you aren’t able to see a slight spark of faith. You’re given a hundreds of reasons to quit which welcome you to quit.

The people whom you trust the most may end up telling you that you’re just duping yourself. It hurts. The words of others are so powerful that they may make you quit. I need to tell this to you – be prepared for the worst.

Save your dream from the world. Do whatever you need to do for that. But don’t let the world overpower you. It’s a trap.

And here’s the only reason why I don’t tell dreamers that their dreams won’t come true

Because dreams come true.

That’s the only reason I have.

Know that feeling which you get when others ask you for advice or share their dreams with you? They seem poor to you.

You don’t want to break their heart, and neither have you wanted to disappoint them by saying the truth.

You may try to convince them with kind words or explain your concerns in a kind manner, while all you feel like saying is, “Get real. There’s not even a slight chance that you’ll succeed.”

I’ve been there.

I’ve been one such dreamer, and I’ve also met some others. I know how it feels when people come to you with gleaming eyes and expect you to assure them about their success.

But not all dreamers are the same

Some keep talking. Others ask for advice and remain in the clouds. They never try.

However, there are some real dreamers. The ones who are sincere about what they say and prepared to give all that it takes.

All they need is a slight push from you so they can believe in their dreams – because they’re vulnerable.

They don’t stop, work hard and go on in spite of their struggles. So when people ask me whether their dreams might come true – I don’t state the odds. I let them know that if they’re willing to do something then they should do it. No matter what.

Sometimes I ask questions like “are you passionate about what you’re doing?” I ask them their plans to make them think for themselves. But I never tell them that their dreams won’t come true. It’s a sin. I would feel shameful about myself if I murder their hopes.

A truth I know about dreamers is that almost all of them start from zero as novices who know nothing.

But eventually, as they work hard and pursue tiny milestones. Their achievements add-up to their overall success. And while doing so, they set themselves on a journey which ultimately leads them towards glory.

They face their own share of struggles and fail often like any other dreamer. But in the end, everything that they do pays off. Those dreamers succeed.

You’re left to wonder in awe how they did it. Gradually, they end up doing what you once thought was impossible.

They all get better. No one remains imperfect forever. So instead of telling people their dreams might not come true, show them that you trust them.

Conclusion

Dreams don’t always make sense in the beginning. Yet, keep playing your part.

Although, you cannot control circumstances or bring the desired outcomes, you can keep trying until you get closer to your goals.

All dreams start this way.

So if you’re still hesitant and haven’t started, then here’s a reminder – you can succeed if you’re ready to put in the effort.

Finally, while you’re busy following your dreams, help others who are like you. They need you.

What inspires you to chase your dreams?

What are the problems which you often face?

I would like hearing from you in the comments. Maybe, tell me about what is it that you love doing.

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We all talk for endless hours, spend our days together and have made it a way of life.

We call it a life.

But are making enough efforts to make the lives of those around us better?

I mean, yes, we’re existing together. We’re even making efforts to make the best out of life, but not fully.

We underestimate the role we play in others’ lives, barely recognize our potential and fail to make our presence count.

We take ourselves too seriously and get entangled in our own world.

Maybe we have become self-centered and have given others just a negligible role – but we’ve lost a regard for others’ existence.

In the part of giving ourselves more attention than necessary, we’ve missed a lot.

The one thing which I’ve learned through the years

We’re all craving.

There’s a part of you which craves for love, respect, attention, value and appreciation. It pleads to be treated like a human.

No matter how ordinary your emotions and desires seem, they make your life altogether.

There’s a child within you who cannot be fooled. He craves for what he deserves and tries hard to earn it.

You spend your whole life doing things which can earn you what you want; you don’t always get what you want.

You fail often and get disappointed by the lies, mockery, and betrayal of this world.

You believe that the world is a bad place, and soon you hide yourself within a coat of pretension, and calls yourself a “grown up.”

But soon, the coat of pretension falls off and reveals all your scars, pains, and hurts which you hide.

That’s when you can’t pretend.

All your emotions become naked and you realize how vulnerable and weak you are.

You realize that no matter how grown up you are, that child still stays within you. He never leaves you.

And finally you need to admit how human you are – feeble, weak, and just another living organism in the universe, hiding his innocence deep within.

A simple truth about life

I’m a grown up. Or at least my age indicates so. I’m often asked to be mature, behave in a particular way with people, learn some odd social etiquette, or just change my way of life.

I had to learn all this because I was taught to; even you were. Or maybe we taught it to ourselves.

Once you grow up you can’t cry, you pretend to be like everything’s alright even though something aches in your chest, and you smile without any reason to show how strong you are.

However, at the end of the day you’re left alone to deal with your own sorrows, and it feels miserable.

I appreciate life, I know how beautiful it is. Yet I can’t deny that it has its flaws. 

We’re craving for all the things we deserve in life.

We act fake in order to be accepted by others and lose our identities, we dress well in order to be liked, say the words we don’t agree with to please people, and what for?

Because we’re trying hard to be accepted.

Where it all started? I don’t know.

Maybe while we all were busy making lives harder for each other.

Is it necessary to be fake? No, I believe that you can always be loved when you’re genuine. There’s no need to become a hypocrite at the cost of your own values, identity, and principles.

The other truth

If you think that you’re someone out of the league and you won’t be respected, loved, or accepted by the society if you fail to abide by all its rules, then you’re like everyone else.

Here’s the funny part – everyone else is similar; insecure, fearful to judgment, and waiting to be accepted.

“We’re all making lives harder for each other, without even realizing it.”

Unknowingly, we’re creating an environment that prevents others from expressing how they feel and keeps them in their miserable state.

The regretful part is that same things are happening to us.

We fear others, others fear us.

We hate others, others hate us.

We criticize others, others criticize us.

And unfortunately this messed up list goes on.

The circumstances shouldn’t have been such and could be made better.

All this can be fixed if we take a stand and do what we’re capable of by making tiny efforts from our side.

If you play your part fair, the world definitely changes, no matter how slowly.

Don’t you notice this?

We drown so much in ourselves that we forget to admire the world that’s outside us.

Maybe we’ve become more selfish than we should be and have made this world a sorrowful place to live on.

Each day we think of our own happiness, our own dreams, and our own benefits.

But how often do we think about doing something for others? Yes, we do.

And do we do it? Not that often.

Just imagine a world where everyone’s trying to make others happy. Everyone caring about each other selflessly, spreading smiles, and doing well without any motive.

Wouldn’t it have been better?

That’s one of the greatest things I can imagine. It restores my hope and makes me believe that there’s still a lot of space for good.

This is what you must be worrying about

Although you can act like what others do to you doesn’t matter to you, that you’re a titanium who never feels pain, or that actions of other don’t bother you – they do.

You know how much they hurt.

But you’ve got so much used to it that you barely even notice how it affects you.

Just recall.

• The last time someone yelled at you.
• Told you something so painful that it’s hard to forget.
• Criticized you, judged you and made you feel  ashamed about yourself.
• Insulted you by saying you how meaningless your thoughts are.

Couldn’t that have been avoided? Was it necessary?

We’re already wounded by such futility and often hurt by others.

The world consists of meaningless conflicts, buried hatred and petty thoughts – if you cut this part, it suddenly starts looking like a beautiful place to live on.

And what would a good world look like?

Picture a place where everyone is making others happier with all that they’re capable of doing.

There isn’t much to it, and neither it is difficult to imagine.

The world we’ve been praying for will be peaceful and simple.

It will be the kind of place where:

• People won’t need to conceal their emotions when expressing themselves due to the fear of others.
• Dreams will be understood and shared instead of being kept suppressed due to vulnerabilities, judgments, or criticism.
• Everyone will back-up each other and help genuinely.
• There won’t be any ominous intentions for others but only transparent deeds.
• Words like hope, happiness, and ideas will be used more in conversations than talks about people.

The fact is, everything would have been a lot simple even if the people around us tried to be kind, generous, and loving.

You can’t keep waiting for that. Someone has to take a stand. You’ve got a responsibility – to makes lives well and to inspire.

Create a change as soon as you can. If others refuse to be a part of your dream, start with yourself. They shall follow later.

This is how influential you are (darn powerful!)

You underestimate yourself.

If you knew how influential your words and deeds are, you wouldn’t miss a chance to impact everyone around you with your presence, or to leave a mark of your deeds wherever you go.

Say your friend that he looks better with a white shirt on and I bet that he’ll wear it often. Isn’t it some sort of magic?

Tell an artist how much his art means to you and you’ll find him creating masterpieces. Isn’t it somewhat a miracle?

Convince your cousin that he could be doing better at academics, guide him well and he won’t disappoint you. Isn’t it astonishing?

Sit beside your loved ones, allow them to open up, and they’ll end up loving you even more. Isn’t it a blessing?

I’m in love with all this process of understanding others, giving them the freedom they deserve, and making little efforts to make them happy.

I would love doing it forever.

If I make myself seem excited while saying this then there’s a reason behind that.

This is the secret to happiness. To be a reason behind others’ happinesss.

You use your words, abilities, and gifts to make others smile, to give them the joys they deserve, and to create the change you had been waiting for.

And then, ultimately, you realize that you are born with a gift. The more you use your gift the better you become as a human.

It makes you capable of creating as well as cherishing happiness. In every moment, you learn to celebrate life.

And then you find out that this how wonderful this feeling is. The kind of feeling you would never wish to lose.

Once you realize this, you keep finding reasons to make others happy anyway, you stop caring about your own benefits, and surrender yourself to it.

It becomes a passion you cannot afford to lose by giving your life a meaning which you didn’t realize earlier.

Then, it becomes a habit.

Does this ideal of doing well to others and inspiring them excite you? Me too.

Here’s a list 17 ways you can use to inspire others and add some sparkle to their lives.

1. Cheer them up

Tell others what they can become and then witness their enthusiasm shoot up.

People wish to learn about their capabilities. They need you to remind them of their strengths.  They unconsciously search for an assurance that says “Yes! You can do what you think!”

When you fuel them with your words, they find themselves capable of doing miracles. And then they try to do so.

Your words can inspire people to tackle the impossible, confront their failures and take risks.

You doubt it?

Try cheering up others to find out the results for yourself. Maybe you’ll be surprised.

Here are some ideas:

• Remind people why they can be successful and mention their worthy qualities.
• Show them the brighter side of the things for which they take effort.
• Give them a purpose to work on by telling them why their work matters and what change it brings in the world.

This will be more than enough to fill them with optimism and get the adrenaline pumping through their nerves.

2. Give them hope

People don’t get what they deserve.

They fail often and feel like giving up. They become heartbroken. And then, they decide to quit.

They begin to think of themselves as losers when they’re not. No matter how hard they try, they just cannot see the brighter side of everything.

They deal with so many pains they become blindfolded to hope. It seems impossible for them to go on.

What can you do about this?

Keep their hope alive, kindle a spark within them, and don’t let them give up!

• Remind people of their past successes and show them how strong they are.
• Help them in solving their difficulties.
• Tell them why their ideas might bring out the unexpected wins.

Do whatever you can to make people hold on to their dreams. But don’t let them quit.

Be the light of hope whenever you can. Take a step toward rescuing people from their misery. If you don’t, you’ll be failing your gift of life.

3. Teach them

Are you great at something? Do you know something better than others?

Teach.

You’ll be loved for doing that.

People are curious about knowing what they don’t know, and when you teach what they don’t know – you give them something to feel good about themselves.

Teach them a computer shortcut, a magic trick, a GK fact, rules of a game, how life works or anything that would leave a smile on their face.

 As humans, we were born to grow by teaching and learning from each other.

We prosper only by educating others, creating awareness, and then creating an environment that accepts changes by understanding them.

Our feelings reflect what’s within us. Interests define us by showing what we wish to be. Experiences mold us and make us who we are.

When we use what we have learned for others – we make the world a better place to live on.

Be a nice teacher whenever you can.

4. Share your stories

People find solace in each others’ experiences.

They hear fairy tales, watch movies, and read books because they’re always searching something to which they can relate themselves.

Hope, despair, joys, pains, and all our emotions can be concealed and expressed through stories.

When the stories you talk about are your own – they’re worth sharing and capable of inspiring.

I’m sometimes a mere idiot who writes about incidents from his life. An ordinary conversationalist who shares random memories from his past.

But here’s what I know – people love listening to those stories. They wish to hear more of them.

You stories are your experiences. Each of your story is a mirror that reflects your life. Your stories speak truths on your behalf.

When you tell incidents from your life you allow other to peek into your soul, you show them a part of your heart that no one has ever seen, and give them a touch that lasts forever.

Be someone who shows his scars, vulnerabilities, struggles, celebrations, and opens up his life for lighting up the lives of everyone else around him.

Be a storyteller, you’ll end up living twice.

5. Help them

Be a ray of hope. Be the one to whom people look up to when they’re weak.

Your strength, talent and abilities that are capable of creating an influence.

Your wealth and resources are a means you can use to grow others.

In either ways, you’re always blessed with something that you can use to serve others.

Look around yourself. Things aren’t as good as they should be.

Broke families, hopeless relationships, insecure people, unhealthy individuals, painful lives – there’s something wrong.

You can fix that!

Help whenever you can. However you can.

6. Trust

Being trusted strengthens self-belief.

When was last time someone expressed his belief in you and stood by your side without doubting you?

It feels great, doesn’t it?

Even if for a second, you feel like you’re infallible, indomitable, and a winner for life.

Suddenly you reach your peak state, try harder, stop doubting yourself, and form a mind-set that shows no trace of fear.

That’s how others feel too when you trust them.

The world if full of people filled with fear and doubts, and all they need is some people to trust them.

Maybe a slight push to step out of their limitations and face the odds. You can be the one to make that push.

Trust those who tell you their ideas, trust those who share their dreams with you, trust those who come to you when they need nothing more than a friend to talk to.

That trust is magical, it’s capable of making people do marvels, and it costs nothing.

So, trust.

7. Care

Can you recall those messages your beloved ones sent you on your birthday?

You probably know what I’m talking about. How special it feels. The love and care you receive from others – It’s a blessing.

We all wish to feel special and to be cared for – all of us! There are no exceptions.

Take some time out to ask people if they’re alright. Show them you affection for them by expressing it with your words and actions.

They’ll be touched at their heart by knowing that you care to remember them and show them how much they mean to you.

Make others feel important. Show them how special they are. Care for them.

8. Take a stand for them

Stand for others when they’re vulnerable.

When they’re weak, when they see no hope, when they’re broken, when they’re damned, they need someone to be there with them.

We all are such – weak. None of us is capable of fighting all the struggles or standing the adversities alone.

We need some saviors and rescuers when we fall or fail.

I still remember when a senior boy tried bullying me in school. I had turned pale and fearful.

The boy approached to hit me but an elder friend of mine came to my rescue. He grabbed that boy, smacked him on the shoulder and pushed him aside.

“You got a problem?” he said threatening him.

 The boy tried saying something but couldn’t and began stuttering.

“Shut up!” my friend interrupted and warned him to not mess up again. That boy silently vanished from there with a lowered head. He had to.

“Never fear such morons. The more you fear, the more they bother you,” my friend said.

I can still recall that scene. It’s fresh inside me. I was relieved at that particular moment.

What I don’t remember is the exact reason behind that conflict.

I guess it was because my bicycle had mistakenly bumped into his bicycle while I was walking getting it out of the parking area.

But what I remember more than those things is what my friend did for me.

He was there for me when I was weak.

He took a stand for me.

Taking a stand for someone else is like being a superhero. It’s about using your powers at the right time.

Be a superhero maybe. Take a stand for others.

9. Respect them

Respect is something everyone is working really hard for.

All are hell-bent on earning respect.

They work till late nights to earn more money, buy expensive things and show-off to display a higher status, or simply wish to do something which would get them others’ attention.

They cannot be blamed for it either, as respect is something that motivates us. It’s a part of our existence. If we’re doing something to achieve it there’s nothing much wrong with it.

But what if you’re respected for the way you are and where you are? That would obviously be great.

You can give people what they’re working for – respect.

It takes nothing to be gentle in your interactions with people, doing little things for them or to treating them better.

But the impression it leaves on their mind is powerful. They feel good about themselves. And then, they thank you for making them feel so.

Finally, they respect you in return and treat you back equally.

10. Be kind

Greet people with a smile, forgive their mistakes, and treat them like they mean something.

Being kind is about doing the little things that count and developing a mind-set that only wishes to do well.

It doesn’t require any kind of training or practice but a slight change of thoughts and intentions. 

Honestly wish for the growth and success of everyone. Don’t wish for ill against anyone and be tolerant with people.

Kindness is about being more humble and easy on people.

11. Understand them

If you don’t understand people, you leave them to suffer in pain.

Often, people are silently suffering in isolation and ask for nothing more than being understood. They’re dying inside, wishing for someone to feel how they feel and condole them.

If you don’t allow others to express how they feel and don’t listen when they speak their heart out, why would they be with you?

Be someone whom people rely on for lessening the burdens of their hearts.

Walk into their shoes to know how they feel and make them feel valued. That would be enough sometimes.

12. Appreciate them

Appreciation encourages.

It gives people the hope of going on, it reminds them of their goodness and increases their self-esteem.

Appreciation starts with mentioning the good.

You often see something wonderful and admire it, but do you always care to mention it?

The next time you see you friend dressed well, tell him that he looks nice.

If your cousin plays great guitar, tell him how wonderful it sounds.

If you have some people who fill your life with happiness, appreciate their presence and tell them what they mean to you.

Everything that’s good in this world needs some appreciation to happen and to realize its value.

If you don’t appreciate good things, they perish. If you don’t appreciate good people, they fail to realize their value.

You don’t want that to happen.

The next time you find something adorable, don’t forget to mention its loveliness.

13. Don’t judge them

Judging is a low form of expressing your opinion and implying your own thoughts against someone else.

When you judge people, they don’t change their opinions but they do conceal their emotions and beliefs. Sometimes, they even hate you.

People, when judged, feel devalued.

They become fearful while expressing, hide their opinions, think of themselves to be idiots, and they don’t forgive you for pushing them in that miserable state.

It’s not that they change themselves because of you. But they’ll shun you for judging them.

Soon, they won’t even care how you feel about something or what your views are, and maybe, even avoid being with you.

It’s not your job to decide what choices others should have or what their views must be like. Allow them to be themselves.

Yes you might disagree sometimes, but there are other ways to changing people without being unkind.

There are already enough of people making others’ lives miserable, and there’s no need for some more.

Allow others to be free, let everything just be.

14. Criticize less

You might think that you’re being quite rightful while pointing out the wrong, but it only makes others shun you.

Insulting others, is like slapping them on the face. By doing it you lower them to others, and strip down their reputation.

Also, it doesn’t even serve to any purpose most of the time.

Criticism is one of those obstacles which most people face on their path to success. It drags them down and shatters their beliefs.

It’s not always the right way to make people aware of their mistakes.

You can be softer in your approach, convey your concerns humbly, and tell how things could be made better instead of telling how unsound they are.

Tell them what’s right and leave the rest up to them.

Allow them to learn their own lessons, let them make some mistakes, but hold the urge of criticizing them. It may break them.

15. Thank them

Thank you – this word brings out the good in others.

Saying thanks in response to the good things done to you assures others that their deeds do count.

This shows them that their kindness is being noticed, that their tiny acts are really adding happiness to others’ lives and bringing a change.

People need to know that whatever good they do is valuable, and even if they don’t always ask for praises or appreciation, they do feel a need for it deep in their hearts.

But don’t be mistaken to think that people do well so that others may be thankful to them. Not at all. They play their part anyway.

But it’s your role to preserve that kindness by showing how essential it is for the good to prosper and prevail.

16. Be genuine and truthful to them

When you’re betrayed, you feel insecure among our own people.

The lies and secrets which you bury deep within your heart only breed distrust and insecurity.

If you wish to genuinely wish to be part of people’s lives then you have to be honest. There hasn’t ever been anything else that matters as much honesty in relationships.

When you fool others to fulfill your motives, whatever you get is undeserved.

Don’t fake yourself to others. People expect you to be what you are. Always.

17. Be there for them

You can’t be with everyone all the time.

But you can ensure them that they can rely on you, which works in the same way as your being with them.

Establish a belief in the heart of people. Make them feel that you’ll be there for them whenever they’ll need you and abide by your word.

Your presence is rather comforting and soothing to others.

This will allow those around you to live more happily and freely, as they’ll know that they’ve got a backup just in case they fail.

They’ll know that they have someone by their side, whatever be then.

One gift you shall have – you will be remembered

While you’ll engage yourself in doing all the virtues and contribute your own tiny bits to the world, you will also receive back what you give to others.

You shall what you’ve been waiting for, what you deserve, and what makes life beautiful. You will have it all.

Your world shall be a peaceful one, and your people – happy.

In the end, you will be remembered for every deed that you do for others and your efforts will pay off in the long run by turning you into a humble human.

These good deeds of yours won’t go unrewarded.

Conclusion

You’re born with an enchanting ability of inspiring others. You can add more smiles to the lives of people around you.

And most of the time, it takes nothing more than a bit of generosity and kindness to turn the world into something better.

What do you think is the best way to inspire others? Wish to share something? Feel free to leave a comment.

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Life is hard sometimes. Far more complicated than we think.

It’s rumpled and tangled; beyond imagination.

The plans you make turn out to be laughable when a catastrophe strikes you. A disheartening event is enough to snatch a smile off your face. A loss can make you hopeless.

If you’re a delicate person, a simple thing as words might break you.

When you watch some truths reveal themselves to you each day, life seems like an odd tale no one told you about.

Often, it is a bitter truth. A pathetic joke. Not as soft as you thought it would be.

Or maybe you knew that life isn’t fair but you weren’t prepared to face this truth either.

What others think

I asked my acquaintances to define life in just one word. Here’s how they did it. (I loved hearing the answers from all these creative people. Thanks for helping me out guys, you’re awesome!)

Life is ___.

• Adventure – Amogh Chivate
• Amazing – Meghna Wankhede
  
• AWESOME – Kenny Vandenberg
• Beautiful – Harshita Chaudhary
• Bitch – Manisha Rajotiya
• Blessing – Lalit Mistry
• Canvas – Priti Kulkarni
• Commitment – Sadhana Gaikwad
• Complicated – Utsah Ostwal
• Dream – Rushikesh Vaidya
• Enchanting – Mayur Deshmukh
• Fabulous – Harikesh Shinde
• Good – Manisha Gaikwad
• Journey – Sayalee Raut
• Mystery – Ravina Suthar

It’s wonderful to see how we all look at life so differently, isn’t it?

However, I learned one simple thing about life while reading all these answers – how we look at life depends on how life happens to us.

Your thoughts about life keep changing. When something great happens to you, you feel blessed to be alive. And when something goes wrong, you see life as a miserable thing. You views about life change as life changes. 

This is what makes life tough

Everything that happens to you changes the way you see life.

As you grow up and find you own ways to deal with difficulties, you begin to see life through your own perspective. The perspective which acts much like a glass only you can see through.

All the events shape you and show you the truths. As you grow up, you find your own ways of living.

However, no matter how you live your life, you’re not much different from others.

You become insecure when you realize that you cannot control everything. Losing teaches you how vulnerable you are.

You notice your fragility when something happens against your will, and your limitations expose your weaknesses.

These are some undeniable truths about life. Learning these truths is what makes life look hard.

Life is meant to be hard

I don’t like to say this either, but yes, life is hard.

Sometimes you’re broke and can’t go on. It becomes hard to hold on to dreams amid a place where hope only decays with each passing day and circumstances force you to quit.

No matter how hard to try to make things happen your own way, there comes a time when you have to realize that you’re not strong enough to control everything.

Sometimes, all you can do is quit and let go.

Though, don’t think that you’re a loser or victim when you’re fighting against the odds.

It’s nothing more than accepting life. With all its flaws and challenges. As it is.

You can only feel joy when you deserve what you get earn your goals with your hard work.

The dreams you wish to pursue come to you only after you’ve made several sacrifices and surrendered yourself completely to them. Pains are always an inseparable part of life.

No matter what your thoughts about an ideal life might be, a part of life always remains irreparable.

Money can’t always bring happiness. Having everything you need doesn’t mean you’ll succeed. Lack of chaos cannot guarantee that you’ll work hard.

Turn around life, change it, fix it – yet it remains as it is.

Maybe you shouldn’t change life. Just adapt yourself to change with it and accept everything that comes on your way.

The best way to make life easier

There’s a way to fix life and ease it forever. To cast away all the confusions, forget all the sorrows and put an end to all the sufferings.

If you wish to improve your life, you can do it at once. Or maybe know how to do it and then improve it slowly. All the answers you seek are already within you.

You don’t need someone else to guide you to do it, or spend money to buy more self-help books.

It isn’t necessary to know what your religion teaches you – you have a tendency which is a wisdom enough. Perhaps, god gave you that tendency.

It’s not that can put an end to your heartbreak, prevent your loved ones from dying or keep yourself from getting broke. Those are the inevitable parts of life.

But there’s something within you which can inspire you to rise again, heal you, and help you to live your life the way you want. Peacefully, happily, and easily. The way you want.

Listen to your feelings.

Your feelings are the untainted truths which come straight from your soul and heart. Listen to them. Don’t manipulate them. Act in accordance with your feelings and your life will be a lot easier.

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This is how life happens

All the mysteries about life are often simple. The great things you behold don’t have any secrets.

If you pay close attention, you’ll learn that the actions of people are often a manifestation of what they feel.

• How a passion starts
  

  No one is born with his passion already known to him. He finds it when he listens to the voices that guide him from within.

  Finding your passion depends on you. Either you can choose to suppress what your heart tells you by being practical, or choose a path which leads you towards your goals. Your choices make you.

  When you were a child and thought about painting, maybe you should have kept painting. But since you didn’t, you never became a painter.

  If you would’ve have listened to your heart, you could have become a painter along with doing your day job.

  The world doesn’t have power to keep you from following your passions, you do that by holding yourself back.

  If you still have a passion, it might be a good thought to act on it again. You might fail, but that won’t be a shameful thing. At least you’ll have tried.

• How you learn truths

  Life is often spent in pretending.

  The more you pretend to others and to yourself, the farther you’re dragged from the truths.

  If you keep pretending for too long you lose your identity and feel lost.

  Others’ appreciation may be fake, your accomplishments won’t necessarily make you happy, and living the conventional life isn’t the only destiny you have.

  However, if you seek the truth, you may find what you want.

  When you realize that you were living a life you knew less about, you find truth. You can either choose the path of truth, or get back to the same old worn out life.

  That moment is precious when you find a truth about yourself. It’s like a fine line which can take you away from the world you live in to the world you want to live in.

  If you have enough courage, you cross to the other side. If you hesitate don’t and your life remains the same. It’s up to you.
  

• How you become wise

  Wisdom. No one actually knows where to get it.

  Everyone is trying hard though. To be wise, mature, and become someone who can prevent making mistakes in life. All wish to be the guy who doesn’t stumble in the walk of life.

  But you only become wise when you learn from your own lessons.

  Learning from others’ mistakes doesn’t always work. You need to make your own mistakes. Those are the only best teachers. Even if you don’t make them, they happen to you.

  Mourn, cry, grieve, and let go. Make a mistake, learn from it and move on. That’s the only wisdom there is.

  The moment you understand what went wrong and decide to fix it, you become wise. When you find out enough fixes, you grow wiser. 

• How adversities make you

  We all have our own hell to deal with.

  You may have suffered a lot, spent days in isolation, and reminisced your regrets.

  Hardships get to everyone. They’re inescapable.

  But there’s a good thing about them. They help you in getting your life back on track. You only fear those hard knocks in life as long as you’re safe.

  Once you become vulnerable and weak, you stop running away from what dreads you. You don’t fear, you don’t hide – you tackle.

  Adversities change you. Your desire to escape the adversities molds you into someone better than before.

• How you find love

  You discover that you’re being loved when you’re accepted by others.

  The people who love you don’t judge or change like the rest of the world. They accept you with all your flaws, and with them, you feel valued.

  Love makes you honest, open and truthful. Love turns you into a better person. When you love people – you grow.

  You become capable of making sacrifices, you work harder for whom you care, and above all, the love you have in your part of life is enough to inspire you.

  No one falls in love by choice; it’s your heart and feelings that always take you to the right people.

• How innovations are done

  Innovations are done when you wish to make a change or try to find a purpose behind all that happens.

  The habit of innovating and simplifying things is like an itch that doesn’t go away until it’s scratched.

  Most of the innovation comes out of dissatisfaction. Innovations are done by the people who cannot sit still.

  They want to simplify what they know can be simplified. They don’t settle with inconvenience – they wreck it.

  Isaac Newton could have ignored the apple, Archimedes could have stayed in the bathtub, Steve Jobs could have followed the norms – but they didn’t.

  Once an idea to innovate something strikes you, you can either find a purpose in it and reveal something great, or plainly ignore your feelings.

• How dreams are accomplished

  Pursuing dreams is a crazy thing.

  It’s about believing when you have no reason to believe, choosing hope over probability, and working on what doesn’t make sense.

  When you have a dream, you work even when the chances of your success are zilch.

  You deal with the unimaginable and try to subdue your limitations. You risk all that you have and give all that you can.

  Nothing is assured either. You might fail, you may get nothing out of your work, or you may even have to deal with misery. Yet you go on.

  Dreaming makes you selfless and audacious. You don’t care about what comes on your way or about the circumstances that follow. You’re prepared for everything.

  But then, everything you do pays off.

  The tiny accomplishments, gradual moments of development, and all that you’ve done come together to turn your dreams into a reality. The insensible things start making sense.

  Where does the journey to chasing dreams begin? With the tiny impulses within you which demand you to act.

  If you follow those impulses, you might find your dream, or you can suppress them and pretend like you never felt anything.

Every feeling speaks on your behalf

Here’s a tiny secret – you’re wise. Wiser than you think you are.You have all the knowledge you need to lead a happy life within you.

But you can only realize your wisdom if you listen to your feelings.

If you pretend to be blind to what you feel and can’t hear the voice which your heart keep whispering to you, then you haven’t realized that wisdom yet.

• Doubts – Your doubts stop you and confuse you. They make you anxious and incapable of making decisions. However, your doubts also form a fine line between your dreams and your limitations. When you abandon your doubts, you find courage.
  
  Doubting yourself makes you weak, yet, it’s what gives you a reason to find your inner strength. It prepares you for the worst.

• Love – It’s pure and powerful. Thoughts don’t control it. You don’t make it happen. It happens by itself.
  
  You love what brings out the best in you. Your possessions, your people, your passion – all of them reflect who you are. Your love for what you do shows the change you want to create.
  
  Your love for people tells how you want to be treated in life and what others can expect from you.Your dreams, your friends, and your things are what give you a purpose.
  
  When you have love for nothing in life, you lose your purpose and feel lost. Love is what guides everything. Love is the purpose which inspires us to live.

• Happiness – It’s more than a curve on your lips. When you’re happy, you express what you want your life to be like.
  
  Your first paycheck, discussing an old incident with your best-friend, and being with someone you care for – don’t these things make you happy?
  
  The next time something makes you happy, just understand that it might be something you have been searching for.Do more of what makes you happy. Stay with those who make you happy. Don’t let logic complicate life for you. It’s only your feelings that prove you’re a human.

• Anger – Your anger is often innocent. At times, brash and violent. But it tells something. All your anger asks for is a change.You get angry yourself when you fail to change your life. Rage takes over you when others don’t act as per your will. You fret at life when it goes against your plans.
  
  All the anger filled within you is asking for a change. So take control of your life and bring a change instead of fighting with yourself every moment.Let go what doesn’t deserve to stay with you. Be mature. Just because you’re angry sometimes doesn’t mean you’re bad.Anger too is a part of who you are. Find out why you’re angry, change what needs to be changed and accept life. 

• Guilt – Your guilt makes you feel ashamed. It smashes your self-esteem and reveals the flaws in you. You guilt makes you think of yourself as unworthy.But your guilt is a sign of the goodness within you. You only feel guilty when you admit what you’ve done wrong.Your guilt indicates how sorry you are about what went wrong and it also indicates how willing you are to fix it.Your guilt is what shows that you wish to release the past and hope start a new future.Forgive yourself. Move on. Life gives you enough chances, and your guilt only asks you to rise again.

• Grief – You cannot appreciate the value of happiness without suffering. Grief makes you aware of truth. If no grief ever touches you, you stay weak and remain unaware about an important part of life.
  
  Tragedies strike everyone. Everyone has reasons to be sad. Yet, there are some simple lessons hidden behind all these miseries which life teaches us.

• Hope – It is the silent reason which controls our life each day.
  
  If there’s one thing which keeps all of us alive, it’s hope. Each day we wake up thinking that something great will happen to us – even when there aren’t many reasons.
  
  We smile, work hard to get the fruits our persistence, and act with the expectations of getting outcomes. Would we all have done these things if we had no hope in us? No.
  
  Our hope defends us and prevents us from quitting when we’re at our worst. When we’re clinging to life, hope is what keeps us from falling. 

Conclusion

The best way to ease your life is to live a life based on what you feel. You heart is your best guide and friend.

If you ever find yourself lost or in pain, peek within – there’s always an answer to all the questions which make you restless.

What do you think is the best way to make life easier?

Do you do something to stay at peace amid the chaos of life?

Have you got any thoughts?

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“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” – Plato

It has been a few years since I’ve started working on my dream of becoming a writer. But now when I look back at the point where I had started, I wonder how I had even managed to start.

I don’t live in the midst of successful people having cheerful faces, who have achieved what they had once dreamed of, or who would inspire me to do the same. Instead, I doubt whether such people really exist apart from the ones whom I have seen on the television screen or read about in some books. I don’t see more than a handful of them.

To me, sometimes it seems like dreaming is a sin.

Why? Because the world makes me think so, people make me feel the same, and my insecurities are enough to end it all.

But I manage to go on, somehow, because my heart doesn’t understand such practical things. What I’ve learned is that we can survive failures with more ease than the guilt of not working on our dreams.

What our heart wants

• It wants us to trust our faith more than our critics.

• It wants us to take a leap even if it knows that we may fall.

• It wants me us to give a shot, regardless of how good or bad we are.

• It wants us to overcome our limitations by trying our best.

• It doesn’t want us to quit before trying.

• It doesn’t want us to accept being losers without pursuing our dreams.

Above all, it wants us to do the work which makes us happy, not for someone else but for ourselves.

In my journey till now, I’ve realized that what matters the most are our efforts. Though the outcome is crucial too, our work gives us the biggest contentment.

It doesn’t matter whether you succeed or fail, no one will be able to deny one fact – you tried your best.

In that case, even failures look equal to successes, because whatever be the results, they are because of our sincere work.

However, even when you start working on your dreams, you know that you might not be able to succeed. Neither is there any assurance that people would bother to help you.

But one thing cannot be denied – whatever you do will still make you happy, and that’s what matters the most. You will find a plenty of people who are experiencing the joys of chasing their dreams.

However, you will also come across the tribe of people who think that their dreams or ideas won’t ever work. These people are the ones who have already found some practical reasons and excuses for not working on their dreams.

In other words, they’ve decided to not ever start, and have also decided to fail by default.

You will often see such people talking about where and what they want to be, and also why they aren’t being what they want to be. Some among these are the ones who are really great at what they want to do and even deserve the opportunity to make their dreams into a reality.

But they won’t be able to make it until they start. What’s the point in being able when you don’t use your ability?

You might be among them too, if you haven’t started yet.

There’s one major thing which prevents people from starting for years, sometimes for a  lifetime – it’s fear. Here’s a list of 5 most common fears which every dreamer has to deal with.

1. Fear of starting

If you’re thinking about giving your best, making your dreams a reality but feeling almost paralyzed at the same time, then you’re not alone.

Even if we feel that we’re different from the rest, we aren’t. All other dreamers face the same kind of anxiety which is enough to drive anyone crazy. The ones who overcome it start in spite of the obstacles they need to tackle. And the ones who allow it to overpower themselves are left behind.

Starting is also the scariest part because it demands our trust while we are ourselves unsure of what we’re doing. However, like every other successful and content human, we need to start somewhere. Everything follows it later, whether it’s growth, success, ideas or something else.

2. Fear of being imperfect

The moment I gathered my courage, held a pen, and tried to write something, a voice inside me yelled that what I do won’t be that good.

“There are already thousands like me sitting out there who are doing the same thing, and there’s no more space for a novice like me,” I could hear my inner-critic say. I could’ve stopped at that moment and gave up forever, but I tried to ignore my imperfections and wrote my first short story, The Wishful Stone.

If I would’ve given up at that moment then it would’ve also lost my faith. Today, if I could be thankful about the one thing which I did in that particular moment was not holding myself back and doing what I could.

We all start as imperfect fellows. Slowly these imperfect beings try, learn, and put in their best to get closer to perfection, and that’s what makes them great.

Although we think we aren’t perfect, we get a chance to get closer to perfection. Each day. Making attempts to become perfect instead of quitting and scaring yourself to hell by thinking that you are not ready yet.

3. Fear of failure

Not doing something because you think you might fail doesn’t make sense. Not even gods can assure you success if you aren’t willing to take charge for yourself. Both your failures and successes make you better by teaching you, so shouldn’t you even expect failures?

You can only control your efforts, which in some way also means controlling the results. How good it would be if you could always win. Though, that’s not possible.

The remedy?

Always be prepared to embrace both failures and successes. Take a step further, risk being a loser, and start anyway.

4. Fear of rejection

Fear of rejection is the enemy of expression.

Our minds are filled up with questions which need to be abandoned at some point, because if we don’t, they become our biggest obstacles.

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